Update on Kimi's mum

[Kimi]

THANK YOU to everyone who has supported me and offered good wishes and support on my other threads.
As some of you may know my mother has had to have her Left leg amputated above the knee.
This was done with a spine block so it was very traumatic for my mum, and not much better for my sister and I.

Mum is doing a little better, she has managed to be put in a wheelchair, is in less pain and has looked the the remaining part of her leg.

She is however very depressed now ( she had battled depression her whole life.)
We are now in the process of sorting out housing, money, care and so on.

I will keep you updated as to how mum is doing, we still have a long way to go.
THANK YOU all once again.
Kimi xx

Kimi. has your mum been offered rehab? and do you have the name of her social worker? just think that maybe if you have one point of contact you can get them to help somehow. you probabaly do but i'm thinking that if yor mum didn't have you to do the running around then someone else (social worker) would have to do it for her.
also if mum goes home can she be on a waiting list for rehousing in an adapted house? it may take a while but would be something for her to aim for.

DA, mum will be going to rehab 2 days a week, she will go to and fro from the hospital as no beds at rehab hospital yet.

No social worked assigned yet despite my keeping asking.

Also still doing battle with the housing benefits office to find out how mum has rent arrears.

It is never ending and I am worn out and getting no where fast.

Got two kids home from school sick and a abscess on my tooth, so feeling really down about life today.

hmmm.
you need a named social worker. keep hassling.
this is the way it happens where i work anyway...
she should be assessed by physio and occupational therapy in hospital. the OT should be able to supply all adaptions for house, ramps, grab handles, commode etc. then depending on her needs will decide how much care she will need at home. then the hospital should refer to social worker who will arrange care.
if you are not happy with arrangements or want more input ask for a case conference. request physio, OT, social worker and rehab team be at meeting, with you and your mum.
there is loads of help out there if you know where to find it.
also ask at hospital or CAB if there is a carers organisation locally. they are also very good at digging out information and help for you.

sorry, sounds like you are having a crap time.

Been trying to contact CAB for over a week now going to go on Monday and wait for the doors to open and see if anyone can see me.

what about PALS at the hospital? they might be some help or know someone who can be.

Spoke to them last week, said I had to call 17 other people

mental system. i know. i work in it.
concentrate on the housing problem for now.
they will not discharge mum from hospital until she is safe. ie. either able to care for herself or have care in place for her. if necessary say you can't do the caring bit. tell them it is impossible, although with a family/job of your own this should be fairly obvious but you never know. tell them you can do shopping, occasional meals (but not all) and housework but cannot care for her full time and she will need a package of care, provided by social services. this will take time to sort out (by the social worker not you) and give you some breathing space to deal with the rent stuff.
and take some time to recover from the tooth/sick DCs. leave it for this week until you've seen the CAB. won't hurt and will give you some space.

not got any useful knowledge, but very sorry to hear that the practical side of things is proving to be such a nightmare, hope that your tooth feels better soon and that SS start doing stuff for you and your mum.

Kimi, sometimes when I've needed help from CAB, I've looked up the local ones and just gone through the list. Different places open on different days and are used by a different demographic. Keep trying and you'll get there. Some charities have access to CAB too. I know you don't think your mum's very old, but Help The Aged may be able to provide some support.

Keep going and press on regardless!

Thank you everyone
Mum has been moved to rehab in the hospital 10 mins away from me so that makes visits a lot easier.

I got a reply from housing benefit (in very poor English) saying they could not discuss it with me and have sent a letter to mum!! Helpful as I now have to go to mum's house 20 miles away and pick it up to see what they have said.

I can not be any part of her care plan if she has to return to her house as it is 20 miles away, I have two kids one of whom is only 8 and I do not drive, if I manage to get her moved closer to me then I will be able to help.

Will go to CAB Monday.