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just found out im pregnant - dont know what to do ( long sorry)

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Knakard · 16/09/2008 12:05

Didnt really no what topic to post this in. I have just found out i am pregnant. I went for a blood test as have been really run down and they were actually checking for glandular fever. Ds is 9 months old and still havent got period back as am breastfeeding so had no idea and i never really got any symptoms last time in first trimester.
When i had the doc app today she felt my abdoman and said she thought i was somewhere between 8 and 14 weeks, as far as i am aware we hadnt had a contraception failure so have no idea of dates myself.
I had a nightmare pregnancy last time on crutches from 30 wks with spd and i also have an emerg section in the end. I physically dont feel reallly to be pregnant or have a newborn again as am still so drained and ds still wakes several times in the night, im back at work now and contantly exhausted
I also feel like i dont want ds to have to share me yet and he still deserves my full attention, financially and space wise there would be issues as well, but we would cope.
I know you cant really advise as this is a hugely personal thing but think i really just needed to get it out as other than dp dont really want to talk to anyone in rl about it.
Also i always thought if heaven forbid i ever had to make this sort of decision it would be far earlier on in pregnacy than this.
Gp is in the process of trying to get me refered for date scan asap.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.

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LackaDAISYcal · 19/09/2008 16:20

oh knackard . what a roller coaster of emotion this is for you.

I know it's not MN, but....{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

gingerninja · 19/09/2008 16:37

Oh Knackard, I've been following your thread and I'm really for you going through this now you'd started to feel so poisitive about things. I'll be crossing my fingers for you. Take care

sasamax · 19/09/2008 16:49

Will say a prayer xxx

RubyRioja · 19/09/2008 16:51

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NorthernLurker · 19/09/2008 16:55

how shocking for you. I see you will have had the scan by now. I hope you get some good news.

Knakard · 19/09/2008 19:16

Ive lost the baby, not a long post need to spend some time with dh but just wanted to update you all, and thank you for all your kindness and support.
xx

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BlaDeBla · 19/09/2008 19:18

What a difficult time. I had a mc at 7 weeks after a dreadful chaotic beginning. I do hope things turn out for you. I too had been shown a heartbeat and a viable pg. It is so much harder when your hormones are in overdrive and you can't really think the way you might otherwise.

LackaDAISYcal · 19/09/2008 19:23

knackard. I'm sure you will have a lot to think about over the coming weeks. Take care, rest up and be kind to yourself and wishing you all the best for the future; whatever that holds.

{{{{hugs}}}}}

nickytwotimes · 19/09/2008 19:25

Aw, shit, Knakared. What a horrible time this has been for you.
I hope you are getting lots of rest and cuddles.

Claire236 · 19/09/2008 19:39

Knakard, hope you & dh are coping ok. Take care.

cali · 19/09/2008 20:08

take care

x

Sidge · 19/09/2008 20:19

I'm so sorry you have had such an emotional week

I hope you and your DH can have some healing time and cuddles and I wish you strength and peace.

eddiejo · 19/09/2008 20:38

Knakard - have been reading your thread and my thoughts are with you.

Flossish · 19/09/2008 20:46

omg you poor thing. What a rollarcoaster of emotions you have been through over the past week. I wish you strength to deal with all this.

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 19/09/2008 20:55

best wishes for you and your dh

PinkyDinkyDooToo · 19/09/2008 20:58

Only just seen this thread. What a total rollercoaster. So sorry for you annd you DH :{

JSEA · 19/09/2008 21:12

Knackard, I'm sorry to hear your news. I guess some things are beyond anyone's control. You will come through this difficult time and you will be stronger for it. Sending lots of positive vibes thru my PC and hoping you get some rest over the weekend and your family give you lots of love and support.xxxx

zebedee1 · 19/09/2008 21:36

I'm so sorry Knackard xx

Knakard · 19/09/2008 21:56

Hello all

Thankyou for your kind messages off support. Has been one hell of a rollercoaster!!! Have had a nice calm evening with dh, pizza and a BIG bottle of wine, and have just had a long hot relaxing bath. Feel alot more human now.

Dh said something tonight which has really helped me start to make my peace with it all, that as i first suspected my body was just not ready to carry another baby yet.

Im sure there is more of a rollercoaster to come, there is talk of a d & c if i dont miscarry naturally. But we can get through anything now, this has all just shown me how close me and Dh are, which has come at a good time as we were starting to fall into that pattern that i think many people do with a young baby of triedness and i do mre than you etc.

So everything happens for a reason.
Thanks again to all you lovely mumsnetters for your lovely messages of support and sharing your own, sometime painful, experiences.

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BlaDeBla · 20/09/2008 10:51

I hope you're ok today. I found that once my pg hormones had gone, I felt so much better. I felt a lot that it was just not meant to be.

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