Is this PND again?

[Fedup2]

Today I have felt absolutely terrible. I have ds1 who is 4 and very naughty and dd2 whose 1 and very clingy, all day i have felt like crying and cannot be bothered to so much as pick a tissue up off the floor, i have had to stop myself a couple of times from shouting at ds1 and hence sent him to bed early for trying to pick her sister up by her neck. I was diagnosed with reactive depression when dd2 was a couple of months old due to lack of help, it is just my dh and me with no other help and sometimes dh is more of a hinderance than a help. I got bad PND with ds1 but this wasn't diagnosed until he was 5months. I just feel as tho I cannot be bothered and want to lie on the sofa and eat all day, i don't feel like this every day but do tend to feel quite peeved often during the day, dh says he doesn't know what to do and leaves it at that doesn't offer any other support, i really don't know what to do and cannot be bothered to go out of the house sometimes which I know is bad for the kids. I don't know where to turn next and we have to wait 3 weeks for an appointment at our doctors.

Thanks Chinchilla, have asked Tech to e-mail you with my e-mail address.

Not feeling too good at minutes, house is a real shit hole (excuse my french) but I cannot be bothered to tidy up and all dh has done all day is sit on his bum, he never tidies up unless I nag and then he does nothing but complain aaaaaaaagggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Did you manage to get out today? I had nothing planned, so I walked to Tesco, which is 15 minutes away max. Then, I amazed myself by stopping at the swings to allow ds to have a potter around and a go on the swings. Unfortunately, he had a moany tantrum when I put him in his p/chair to come home! He is too old to understand that you can't spend all day doing the things that you like, as you have to go home eventually! Monkey

I have to say that I did feel slightly invigorated after the walk. I know it is a palaver getting all the kids' gear together to go out, but it is worth it I think. Tomorrow, dh is in the office (usually works from home), so ds and I are going to have lunch in town, and then possibly go to the swings at the local park, if it is not too crowded.

Hope you have a good day tomorrow.

Hi folks. I've had a terrible few days and I needed to get it out. Dp and I have done nothing but argue..... I have had some really desperate crying situations and am feeling depressed again. I really thought I was getting better, but I feel like sh*t again. DP thought I was 'all cured' so is not being very understanding or patient. Infact, he said to me this morning "Do you really feel like your PND is back or are you just saying that to make me feel guilty?"!!! I felt like hitting him (which I didn't). Ds witnessed all of this at 7am this morning. What a great way to wake up!

Typing it all out on Mumsnet helped me before so I'm hoping I'll feel better soon. I've just started the Pill which I'm wondering if it could be contributing to these anxious, weepy, low feelings. I hope not!!!

Things were looking positive again for a while and we were even thinking about getting married and then trying for another baby at the end of the year. Now I feel like there is no point.

Incidentally... I had stopped taking my Sepia coz I felt better. I started taking it again this morning.

I hate myself for slipping back like this. I just want to be happy and plan for my future with dp (hopefully DH soon!!!) and ds. We have so much potential as a family, but at the moment that is very hard to see.

Sorry Fedup2 - I didn't mean to Hijack your thread! I hope you are feeling better now.

Why do men alwaya seem to have a great knack of putting a dampner on things, whilst I was pregnant with dd1 I was basically fed up of him sitting on his backside and not helping me whatsoever, so one day when i was had enough he just turned and said 'Oh stop nagging, it's only your hormones because you are pregnant'. He says now that he took one look of my face and new he'd done it, he never moved as fast and came back a bit later with flowers and chocolate.

Don't hate yourself for slipping back it really cannot be helped, I also want a perfect family life but at the minute I really cannot be bothered, I feel so down all the time, but have only been on the Sertraline(lustral) for two weeks, I'm fed up of feeling like this.

Tell your DP that just because he thinks 'your cured' you should be not be treat any differently, you should still be pampered and loved and cared for.

Men they've got it good haven't they, no PMT, No pregnancy hormones, no periods and no PND and all they do is complain when we ask for help

DP must have realised what he'd said coz he texted me at my work saying that he'd try really hard and things would get better again...... hmmm we'll see how long that'll last!!!
Isn't sh*t having to put your life and your plans on hold until this is over! I'm tired waiting and hoping.

Oh god don't I sound pathetic??!! I'm going to give myself a shake and get back to work.

I hope the pills start working for you soon.

Hi all. Just a note to say that you must keep thinking 'I WILL get better.' I know it doesn't seem like it at the moment, but eventually you will realise that you actually had a good day, and then it will happen more and more, until the good days outweigh the bad. My pills are really helping, so I am a bit more positive about life at the moment.

My baby is 19 weeks old and very very challenging. She doesn't like much, not feeding, not visitors, not nursery, not bathing, not the pushchair, not the car, not getting changed.....not me!
Why isn't she happy, I do all the right things with her, sing, smile, go out, where ami going wrong?
Is it any wonder I feel down and what can I do about it, surely my mood will improve when and if she becomes a more pleasant baby?

See PND/panic attack thread sarita.