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Help me reassure DP that DD is not scarred for life

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callmeovercautious · 27/06/2008 23:17

If anyone has any positive stories I would be grateful.

DD had sterri strips on her head for a bad cut this week. Right across her forehead. DP is in bits thinking it will affect her whole adult life.

I think it will fade to a small white line and as she is pale will be barely noticable - a fringe would cover it.

Anyone elses DC had an injury like this - she is 22m so I am hoping that she will heal well.

I know there are worse things that could have happened but I need to reassure DP as he is really sad atm.

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avenanap · 27/06/2008 23:19

They heal really quickly at this age and rarely leave a scap. Try not to worry. Accidents happen, you cant prevent them all.

avenanap · 27/06/2008 23:19

Doh, No glasses, scar, not scap.

littlelapin · 27/06/2008 23:20

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LynetteScavo · 27/06/2008 23:20

As she is so young, I doubt she will have a scar.

LovelyDear · 27/06/2008 23:23

I have a big scar on my forehead from when i pulled a telly onto myself, aged 2. I can honestly say i don't think it's had any effect on the way my life has gone, except to enable me to join in on those 'what dramatic injuries have you had' conversations. Really, don't worry. My 4 yo DD has a scar across the bridge of her nose and i felt the same when it was inflicted on her but really, it's just part of her. it's fine.

snorris · 27/06/2008 23:24

One of my dt's fell and cut her forehead (aged 3). She is 5 now and it is barely noticeable and her fringe hides it now too. When one of my brothers was 7 he fell and cut the bridge of his nose,requiring 7 stitches. He had a 'y' shaped scar but now he's in in his 30's you wouldn't know it is there.

Ellbell · 27/06/2008 23:25

Hold on, callme... will put pics of my dd2 back on profile (put them there to show someone on recent thread that was similar to this, but took them off again a while ago). She fell and badly cut her lip open when she was about 3. It needed 5 stitches, which had to be done under general anaesthetic. It looked awful at the time, but she is 6 now and it is almost totally invisible. When she stretches her lip (iykwim - if she pulls the skin really taut) you can see a very very thin pale-ish line, but normally it is completely invisible.

Bear with me while I look for the pics.

EBenes · 27/06/2008 23:31

Poor DP, it is totally natural to be heartbroken when our perfect children get imperfections. No stitches means not as serious, so any scar will not be noticeable and will anyway not in the least affect her beauty. I have a facial scar that I've always thought was pretty cool and made me look cute and boyfriends like, and it's smack in the middle of my cheek like Action Man, not on my forehead. Naomi Campbell has a quite big scar above her lip that is sometimes left uncovered/unretouched by magazines, and she often talks about how much she likes it. Just give DP a cuddle tonight, soon enough this will not seem a hundredth as important as it does right now, I don't think he's being precious at all, just naturally sad.

hellymelly · 27/06/2008 23:35

Am in just the same position with my 13m old,she has a deep cut through her brow that happened just over 6m ago- plastics people wanted to give her a general and stitch her up but the anaesthetists said it was too risky.Steri strip did not do the trick so again plastics team wanted to do a general and again the anaesthetists said no.I was really really upset by it and very worried that the scar would be terrible -it is small but jagged and disrupts her brow- but it is slowly fading to white and I think if it was on her brow rather than through the eyebrow it would be pretty insignificant by now.We used a silicone gel on it for the first three months ,this was about £35.(we also keep sunblock on it).If it really is noticable in a few years you can have the scar revised when she is 4 or so,at least that is what we were advised by consultant and by a private derm.My baby's scar is more noticable in certain lights and if she gets hot,I am hoping it will not need any extra treatment.Wishing you the best of luck,i know how upsetting this is.

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callmeovercautious · 27/06/2008 23:35

Keep them coming - I need lots of reassurance for him

Thanks everyone - Lapin, I have almond oil with vit E for when it is healed; it is still fairly raw atm.

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bluenosesaint · 27/06/2008 23:41

My dd walked into a door handle when she was 3 and ripped (no other word for it really) the top of her eyebrow. The cut was about an inch long, and quite deep. The put steri strips on it.
Same dd (at around 6 yo) was spinning around the garden when she fell and split her head open on the garden wall. It was about two inches long along her hairline and again was fairly deep. She had steri strips put on.

She is now 8 and the scars are visible but you have to look very, very, very, very closely to see them - she is rather proud of them though and wears them as a badge of honour

Ellbell · 27/06/2008 23:48

OK... have attempted to update profile. Let's see if this works (don't hold your breath - usually takes at least three attempts to get it right). Sorry it took so long, was searching for recent pics, but couldn't find any that were close enough to show lip. You'll have to take my word for it that, even if the pics were bigger, you wouldn't be able to see it.

Ellbell · 27/06/2008 23:49

Blimey... seems to have worked [Ellbell faints ]. Hope your dd feels better soon, callme.

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callmeovercautious · 27/06/2008 23:50

Thanks so much Ellbell, DP has just logged on to see the pictures as well. He said she was a very very pretty girl. Similar colouring etc to DD. She is lovely and thanks again

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handlemecarefully · 27/06/2008 23:51

Ds had a very bad burn to palm of hand which needed dressing and attention in the burns unit, follow up and review. Nothing now.

Dd has had her lip stitched before (at circa age 3), I can't even see a faded white line tbh

FromGirders · 27/06/2008 23:51

At 18 months, I split my nose open, and it needed stiches (proper ones, not steri strips). There is a scar there, but you only notice it when i wrinkle my nose quite hard. Only one person has ever noticed it without me pointing it out to them.
I'm sure it will be invisible when she's older.

Ellbell · 27/06/2008 23:54

callme... No problem. I think she's gorgeous (as is dd1 of course) but I am a teeny bit biased. It was the anaesthetic that freaked me, I must say.

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callmeovercautious · 28/06/2008 00:04

DP has now anaylised the phots and is feeling better

I think he may be converted to my MN ways quite soon

More stories welcome

Thanks HMC and FromGirders, it is nice to know!

I have scars, as does DP, I suppose we are considering hers being as bad, even though the circumstances are different.

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Psychomum5 · 28/06/2008 00:12

DD3 and DS2 have forehead scars...DD3 felling into a wine rack at 2, and DS2 falling pushed by his brother-- while bouncing with DS1, off our bed, into drawers without handles but with screws....

neither remember what happened...they both see the scars, and ask about them, and never seem to rememebr what I tell them as they ask the next time too.....((which now I think about it may mean that they do have issues and it is all too traumatic to remember......))

Purplepillow · 28/06/2008 00:19

My dd was hit just below her eyebrow by a swing when she was 3, which had steristrips put on but was still bleading so ended up bandaged up, looking like a pirate.

She has a scar but is very un-noticable unless she is ill then it shows up really white.

PinkTulips · 28/06/2008 00:22

dd's best friend fell off the trampoline onto tarmac a month ago. at the time it looked like she'd be scarred for life as her forehead was torn to pieces. it's already faded to faint pink lines and i'd imagine after summer it'll hardly even be noticable.

young skin does heal very easily. ds split the skin above his eye quite badly at 16 months, he's 22 months now and although you can see the mark if you know it's there it's barely visable at all

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callmeovercautious · 28/06/2008 00:25

Thanks Psychomum5 - trust you to make me laugh! She was at Nursery so I take no blame DD currently thinks she has a "special" sticker on her head. Everytime she sees a mirror or window/reflective surface she touches it but otherwise she is her normal self - no pain or anything which I find odd

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madamez · 28/06/2008 00:36

Young skin heals well. IF i9t's not healing well (ie raised and red and really visible) after about a year, consult a medic. But lots and lots of people have small (or even large) facial scars and it doesn't cause them any stress.

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callmeovercautious · 28/06/2008 00:43

Thanks Madamez, tbh it looks good so far, a bit swollen but not red or hot.

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Psychomum5 · 28/06/2008 00:45

she will most likely have a tiny white/silver scar, which in time she will not even remember gaining!

promise

as for the 'issues'...I take no blame....I warned you after all!!!