Help me reassure DP that DD is not scarred for life

[callmeovercautious]

If anyone has any positive stories I would be grateful.

DD had sterri strips on her head for a bad cut this week. Right across her forehead. DP is in bits thinking it will affect her whole adult life.

I think it will fade to a small white line and as she is pale will be barely noticable - a fringe would cover it.

Anyone elses DC had an injury like this - she is 22m so I am hoping that she will heal well.

I know there are worse things that could have happened but I need to reassure DP as he is really sad atm.

Sorry OP, didn't mean that you were neglecting an injury - but if scars are raised and red and visible long after reasonable healing time, there are things that can be done to reduce them.

I didn't think you were Madamez. I just misinturpreted what you said last night - I had a few glasses of red!

Thanks again to everyone who helped by posting. I think DP is feeling better, hopefully anyway.

my ds fell over and cut right near his eye and has a tiny scare - adds to his character! LOL. it really isnt noticeable unless you are staring closely. (maybe the girls will notice it when he is older and it will be a talking point!)

Unless you're Harry Potter I think it's unlikely that a cut on your face will profoundly affect your life (and even then it turned out the colour of his eyes was more important).

But I do remember the feeling. I sobbed on the phone to my mother when dd had fallen and knocked out two teeth- my beautiful child, maimed forever. And yes, of course they were baby teeth (lol)!

I didn't have this 'maimed' feeling anywhere near as strongly when dd eventually developed a disorder that is likely to make her permanently disabled. I don't feel dismayed in the same way when I see her in her wheelchair as I did when I saw that gap in the front of her mouth. I think eventually you lose that feeling of your perfect child and see them more as a human being on the same level as yourself, full of imperfections and somewhat scarred by life. I don't have to be perfect- she doesn't have to be perfect. But the first time, it does hurt.

DS1 split his forhead open and has a little scar (but you don't notice it ) I am sure she will be fine

Thanks cory, that was a very generous post. You are right, these things are what make us the people we are in the long run. Although you may have spolit Harry Potter for me as I have not finished them all yet

I have a forehead scar from when I was about 10, it's barely visible now and has never bothered me.

Thanks booge

We are both feeling a bit better about it I think. The strips can off from tomorrow - apparently I just let them get wet (first bath in 5 days!) so we will see what it looking like then.

When I had an op, many years ago, I was told to use sun block on the scars for first summer and then to treat them as normal.

Bio-oil is also apparently good to reduce scarring.

I've got a 1cm scar on my forehead from head butting the corner of a radiator when a child, it is very faint now and has never bothered me.

I suspect no-one will even notice it when it has healed - shame she won't be able to make up stories about shark attacks

is he a woman???

nice

and thanks desperatehousewifetoo - Shark attack stories are only for boys according to DP. Serious case of Daddy syndrome going on I think and I do understand as I feel the same - I am just being a bit more practical I think!

sorry callme I just caught up with this and my comment came across as arsey.

I just meant that is the kind of thing we women agonise over, here on mumsnet and in real life. I am not familiar with men worrying (read NOTICING) this kind of thing, but then the men in my family are a bit Neanderthal.

Hope your babe is ok

DD2 fell whe she was 23 months. big cut on forhead, steristripped. sounds similar.
she has a thin white scar than can only be seen by me because i know it's there.
She still tells everyone it is from when i dropped her
i didn't.

When I was about 7 or 8 I had an accident where the metal arm of a slide in our back garden came off, and as I fell backwards, the arm went in and out of my leg.
I was left with five holes in the top of my thigh, the size of old 50 pence pieces which went down to the bone (vomit).
I had stitches in them. As I have gotten older, you can barely see them. They're more noticible when I have a tan (not that I bare my legs anymore!!)

My cousin fell in a bath of scalding hot water when she was about two/three, she burnt her hand and legs, but her hand was quite bad, at one point the docs talked about skin graphs.
She's 11 now, and you can barely see the burn. When she was younger it had covered most of her hand, now its teeny and just noticible when she tans as this bit doesn't iyswim.

Hope this helps. Hope your dd feels better

WHen dd2 was 3 she cut her chin really badly at preschool. The stitches should have been taken out as they took ages to dissolve and she was left with quite a raised scar.

I used these special plasters (can't remember what they are called but you can buy them in the chemists) which help to heal and flatten scars and cut down the redness. Think they had silver in them. I put them on her at bedtime for a good 6 months and they worked a treat.

She is now 10 and you can hardly see a thing.