STEVE'S DAY

[stickyj]

I was thinking about OJ, Steve and the children just now and looking at the site where we can donate. Steve's funeral is next Wednesday and I for one will be there in spirit. I have lit candles and I will be donating because I can channel my tears into something. I just wondered how people felt about this idea...

If you've been here a while on MN you'll know about Maude and her pink balloons.

I wonder if Jo would choose a "Steve" colour and maybe we could all send a balloon up on Wednesday, so we're not intruding on the funeral but we make damn sure we're heard. I think if Jo saw any balloons, she'd smile. Maybe we could get balloons and draw teddy faces on them Good old Biggles!!

I have spent so long "living" this story that I would like to pay my respcts to not only OJ and family but to Steve too for being a really tough Dad, Husband and trifle eater!!

What do you MNetters think?!

Shall we have a teddy balloon release?

I just had another idea too.My Dad (bless him with dementia) gets great comfort from a teddy we all recorded our voice on for him. I know Jo was trying to do this for the children from Steve....I am going to buy a bear asap and donate it to Acorns/wherever in Steve's name...
They are not expensive but that bear might give some child (or an adult that maybe for whatever reason needs one) some comfort. It was such a lovely idea of Jo's and maybe some struggling families may not even have thought of such a brilliant idea. How lovely to have a message kept forever from a loved one.

I have a scribbled letter from my mum, odd words and kisses she felt able to write at that time.

My house could burn down now, but if I had my kids and that letter, I would be thankful.

Sorry, obviously hadn't picked up on the allergies

Am planning bubbles and trifles as I speak!!

Lovely idea sticky! Childrens hospices always like bears /cuddlies

Just feel a bit lost, have checkedin everyday, all day, so know how OJ feels in a way. She has children to "live" for, I had my Dad but as long as you carry on, so-one really knows how you feel.

It took me two years of daily life to crack, looking after my Dad and trying to keep my everyday life afloat.

If I had been able to have Mumsnet then, my life would have been totally different. I'm of the no computers age, the first vesta curry and £45 videos to rent.

I wish I'd had RL friends to talk to but I didn't.

MN I salute you for being there for so many people and for showing people that their problems sometimes are miniscule compared to others.

OJ and family, rest well
xx

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Bubbles and trifle sounds lovely! Was planning the trifle anyway but will buy some bubbles for DS to blow in the garden.

This thread has brought tears to my eyes, a smile to my face and a shiver down my spine! What a lovely idea. You can count me in! Thats a balloon AND trifle! What a wonderful send off Steve will have from us MN'ers xx

Ooops! That will teach me not to read the whole post before I respond. BUBBLES and trifle, still a lovely idea, still no problem and still count me in

What a lovely thread ..I will be enjoying trifle and bubbles too and raise my bowl to a truly marvellous man.

the balloons are a nice idea - but have you ever thought where they will all end up ?

They really aren't friendly to the wider world - so maybe you can stick to the trifle tribute instead.

sorry - should have read the rest of the thread

What a lovely idea, sticky, you've obviously given this a lot of thought.

Will be blowing bubbles on Wednesday with the dc's.

this is why I love mumsnet.

LL what a brilliant idea!! 'cos Jo can't see us, she'll know we're all thinking about her and the children but photos would be lovely!! It will be something for her to look back on when she wants to, maybe in the future and also, what about printing off the threads for Steve and making them into a special book for her and the children. I have been so moved by all the wonderful things that people have written and maybe someday Jo might like to have something special to keep.

She knows how wonderful Steve was, as a husband and a father, but I know of this was my DH, I would be astonished by how many people's lives were touched by him.

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This is lovely. It feels as if we are finally able to do something for Jo and the children and are celebrating Steve's life and his couragous battle.

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I do think printing threads i a good idea but...

Is there a way to have them edited so as to remove all references to MIL/BIL/the rest of that ghastly family?

I think it would be lovely for oj to remember the support but think that the dealings with Steve's family isn't something she needs reminding of.

Good point wannabe.

Alittleone2 - I will be blubbing, bubbling and trifling

Maybe we could start a special thread for Steve next wednesday, a sort of condolence book where we can all right a special message and not mention the in-laws. Maybe that would be nice to print off for Jo and the children?

of course I meant write not right

I emailed MNHQ ages ago asking for them to print all the support threads for Jo to keep but no reply yet.