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Handhold if anyone’s around? Scan yesterday at 5pm, GP called this morning

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GiveOverWillYou · 21/11/2025 11:05

Wondering if anyone has any experience/insights?
Late 40s, on HRT. Cycle usually still rock solid, horrendously heavy, except for last few (2-3) months - spotting, random bleeds, periods when not due. Bit of pelvic discomfort.
Went to GP, but kind of hoped assumed it was the beginning of the end of periods and just the timing going haywire/and to find out how I should be taking progesterone as had previously been on that Day 15-28 and cycle being out of whack meant that that regime was going to be hard to do. GP said she could feel something on the left hand side. Recent CA125 was fine, recent smear was clear ‘but cervix is very red’. My cervix has always defied medical science (that’s another story) so wasn’t unduly worried. They upped progesterone to 200mg daily, put me on the 2 week wait for internal/external US. It’s been 5 weeks 😬but I had the US last night after 5 o’clock. Sonographer was rummaging around for ages (over 30 mins) and made a point of saying the GP will be in touch, but if they aren’t, you must contact them. I know they usually can’t/don’t say much. Told myself that it was good that the tests have been done and that I’d hear in due course, not to worry in the meantime. Then this morning I have had 3 calls from the GP before 10am, which I missed as was in a work meeting with phone off. I called them back and they asked me to come in at noon. So now of course I am absolutely shitting myself, and have self-diagnosed with every gynae cancer going.
Don’t know what I’m asking for really, other than a handhold, and if anyone has had similar happen and it turned out to be something that wasn’t nefarious. I feel lucky that at least I find out what’s going on this morning but the speed at which they’ve followed up is terrifying me 😧Speculation of course, but I can’t help but feel that if this was, I dunno, fibroids, there wouldn’t be this level of urgency this morning

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Nigellastwinklylights · 21/11/2025 19:16

Oh, bless you. What an awful shock.
The one ( and probably only) positive thing is, you are now in the system and things tend to move up a gear once you are on the pathway. As lots of pp’s have already said, it doesn’t mean it is cancer and if it is, you will have a team of brilliant professionals looking after you.
Drink your wine, have a bath and watch as much crappy tv as you need.
The waiting for results is the hardest part. Come back and talk to us, if you need a virtual hug or somewhere to rant. x

AutumnLeavesFallingFast · 21/11/2025 19:21

I'm sorry you had such a shit show of a day! Sadly I'm not even slightly surprised 🙇🏻‍♀️

I hope you get more information & a plan soon. It helps when you feel you know what the issue actually is & you're on your way to getting it treated!!

🤚🏼
🤗

MamaBobo · 21/11/2025 19:22

Sorry that you have had such a shitty time of it today and especially that you got such a poor experience with your GP. As lots of others have said there are many benign things it could be. Look after yourself in the meantime. You deserve some serious self care and pampering while this is going on. Put yourself first. Sending hugs, and hoping very much that this will turn out to be something that can be treated and get you well as soon as possible.

olderandnonthewiser · 21/11/2025 19:22

What a shit day OP. As others have said, it’s just as likely not cancer.. but it does need sorting asap and so far they’ve acted as quickly, which is just as it should be.
Like many others I am sending every good vibe, and always willing to listen to a rant or a moan.

Mummyratbag · 21/11/2025 19:24

I'm sorry the news isn't the greatest and hope that further investigations bring better news. Drink the wine.. and have another.

Frostynoman · 21/11/2025 19:26

Sending hugs OP

wantom · 21/11/2025 19:26

Very sorry to hear what you are going through. There but for the grace of God go all of us.

All I can do is wish the best for you, and hopefully there will be a positive outcome and successful treatment. x

Purplebunnie · 21/11/2025 19:29

So sorry to hear your update. Sending hugs to you and your family x

LizzieSiddal · 21/11/2025 19:31

You’ve had a big shock but we’re all sending positive vibes that it is nothing to worry about. Flowers Wine

spiderlight · 21/11/2025 19:33

I'm so sorry it wasn't better news. I hope you get some clarity and proper answers from the MRI.

caramac04 · 21/11/2025 19:33

Sending you a massive handhold and a virtual glass of wine. And a hug.
I hope you get the necessary treatment quickly and you are well asap.

Beenwhereyouareagain · 21/11/2025 19:34

GiveOverWillYou · 21/11/2025 18:31

Hi everyone

Thank you for all the handholds, and good wishes. They really bouyed me up while I was waiting to be seen.

It didn’t go well.

Before I’d even sat down the GP said, ‘Yes it’s bad news, I’m afraid they’ve found something’ What Not To Say 101’

She then proceeded to say read the ultrasound notes out loud, including the ‘cancer alert’ warning at the bottom, but not actually tell me what was going on.

There was a pink box on her screen saying ‘Suspected Cancer’, which she kept pointing to whilst saying, ‘so I’ll refer you today and you’ll be seen soon, it’ll probably be an MRI and they’ll probably ‘take it all out’ (no explanation of any of that)

It was like role reversal of what should have happened: she kept gibbering and going on about how well I was ‘taking it’ whilst I sat there in shock trying to work out what we did and didn’t definitively know.

The upshot is it’s a mass the size of large grapefruit. They don’t know if it’s uterine or ovarian because it’s obscuring the ovary entirely. They don’t think it’s a fibroid.

She sent me off with a form for more bloods (new CA125 test). I got in the car and lost my shit, then drove to a place that’s special to me, and cried on a bench for a while.

So I went off to hospital for the bloods; DH appeared at the hospital and got told to fuck off short shrift for not offering to come with me even though I said it sounded bad. I must have looked dreadful as the phlebotomist asked if I wanted a hug, cue more crying. Went to the nearest nice pub and had a large brandy, bollocked DH some more, updated him on what I knew (and didn’t know)

Needless to say I have fed the entire US report through ChatGpt.

And now I’m sitting on the side of the bath with a massive glass of wine waiting to get in, then I’m going downstairs to watch crap telly.

Feel strangely calm now, probably as the shock is wearing off a bit, and because they are taking it seriously, and because as so many of you have said, it might not actually be anything awful in the end. And even if it is, it would most likely be treatable. It sounds like it could be something like you had @fudgesmummy

The absolute best thing about what has otherwise been a truly shitty day has been the generosity and kindness of you all, perfect strangers on the internet, who have taken time out of busy lives today to offer handholds, good wishes, advice, experience and support. Thank you all so much ❤️

Thinking of you @TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne whilst we are both in this boat ❤️

I had similar news. I was sent to a Gynecologic Oncologist foremoval of 3 ovarian tumors. 1 the size of a grapefruit, 1 a lemon, and the 3rd was the size of an almond. 32 years old and scared to death. I had a complete abdominal hysterectomy, and the tumors were endometrioma. No cancer, but extremely early artificial menopause. I had completed my family, so I felt lucky.

I'm sending prayers and well-wishes that your situation is something like that. ❤

BTW- 65 now, so 33 years this month and no further gyno problems.

myheadsjustmush · 21/11/2025 19:38

What a rubbish day for you OP - you must be absolutely shattered.

I have everything crossed for a positive outcome to all of this for you.

chimichangaz · 21/11/2025 19:39

Ah OP I am so sorry you’ve had crap news delivered in such a shitty way. Sending big hugs to you.

It brought tears to my eyes when you said how the support you’ve had via MN so far made you feel ❤️

I hope your DH steps the fuck up, but you can come back here any time for more support and solidarity 💐

Autumngirl5 · 21/11/2025 19:42

What a horrible day for you. I’m sorry it wasn’t the news you wanted. Hopefully it’s nothing and there are many things it could be. Sending you a massive hug and sending positive thoughts x

Keepingthingsinteresting · 21/11/2025 19:42

Take care of yourself @GiveOverWillYou , the shock might hit you later. Sending good thoughts and vibes

loulouljh · 21/11/2025 19:49

An awful shock. But is getting sorted. Thank goodness you went to the GP. x

StartupRepair · 21/11/2025 19:49

OP what an awful day
The fast turn around is great in one way but accelerates the terror as you don't have time to process the shock, let alone absorb information or ask questions.
Hope DH now gets it and you have some cossetting this weekend.

Therapee · 21/11/2025 19:53

Bloody hell, what an awful day you've had. Things should be on a fast track now though, I guess. Get well vibes being beamed to you xx

Rosesanddaffs · 21/11/2025 19:53

@GiveOverWillYou just to give you hope like others have done, I was sent for bloods and an mri for a potential cancerous cyst last year

My bloods were ok and the scan showed it was benign

I pray the same for you, sending you lots of positive vibes xxx

Oioiqueen · 21/11/2025 20:02

What an absolutely awful day for you.

Whilst I have had cancer twice (I'm now secondary) and I'm not saying that yours is but take each appointment at a time and not think too far ahead. I know I have a bit of spiraling and thinking the worst so I'm not the best at giving this advice. However I know how hard it is to get your head out of that space. I tend to visualise what I will be doing the morning of my appointment so breakfast, school run, clean the bathrooms etc. Then ensure I have something nice sorted for afterwards.

Hope all is OK

Lemonfrost · 21/11/2025 20:04

Sending so much love, strength and sheer oomph to you! Will be following closely xx

Tistheseason17 · 21/11/2025 20:05

I'm just another one coming along to say I had a 15cm mass which was fast growing and suspected cancer - even MRI said sinister etiology. Good news - benign. I even had raised CA125. But the stress level was massive, I'm really sorry.

Momtotwokids · 21/11/2025 20:07

I had breast cancer twice. The first time lumpectomy radiation, and chemo. The second time a very strong dose of chemo but is been since 2013 and knock on wood I'm clear at this time. Not that anyone wants cancer but they are constantly changing how they treat people and the survival rate is better than before. I wish you the best When things like this happen on this board so many women come together and will be thinking of you

CakeFace1234 · 21/11/2025 20:10

I'm so sorry you have had such a terrible day, not least because of the poor bedside manner from GP. The results are not definitive but must be so worrying. Terrible timing too just before the weekend as you will worry until things get moving, however, further investigations should happen quickly. Another stranger thinking of you and wishing you the absolute best.

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