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ds had circ yesterday-OMG

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bignose · 14/05/2008 13:07

My poor little ds.
He has been so brave.It looks awful and is hurting him when he moves.He is restricted to the bed.
He hasnt weed yet since the op at 2.30 yesterday.He flatty refused to get in the bath today.We carried him there and attempted to sit him down but he was beside himself.
Can anyine advice on this?
Does anyone know anyone or anything??

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Elibean · 14/05/2008 13:19

OMG, poor lad

I had a boyfriend who remembers being circumcised aged 3 (medically necessary), and said the first bath was the worst bit. I also remember he said it got better fairly fast after the first day.

Loshad · 14/05/2008 14:06

Bignose, i would say he really needs to get in the bath, he might be able to wee in there too. My 12 yo ds has just had a prepeutioplasty - where they make a v shaped cut in the foreskin but don't remove it totally and the consultant was very hot on ensuring he knew he had to get on with it even though it would be sore to start with, but it sounds as though your ds is a lot younger. Is he getting enough pain relief?, my ds was on paracetemol (ie calpol), then 2 hours after the calpol some ibuprofen (ie neurofen), then 2 hrs later more calpol, then 2 hrs later more neurofen - he will be fine with that regime for a few days until the worst of the pain dies down. Also did they give you some of the local anaesthetic gel to put on it before weeing/bath etc - my ds found that really helpful

foxythesnowfox · 14/05/2008 14:17

I'd call the hospital and ask them. They will advise you on upping or changing pain relief. My DS has had several ops and they have always been happy to help afterwards.

Hope he's OK.

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bignose · 15/05/2008 08:31

He's weed&pood finally.28hrs after!
He stood and did it on the bathroom floor on a towel as suggested by myself.
He wont have a bath though.Had to force gently last night and omg did he scream.Cant see him going for that again in a hurry.

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themildmanneredjanitor · 15/05/2008 08:32

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foxythesnowfox · 15/05/2008 11:41

I stood DS1 in the bath and carefully poured water down him. Sorry I didn't think of it yesterday. Hope he is OK.

Perhaps if he wont get in the bath do you have a shower with a hand-held nozzle? You could wash him down that way.

Nursejo · 15/05/2008 11:47

The anaesthetic gel was great when my DS had it done 2 years ago hes 12 now,had a relatively easy time,very anxious about it hurting in 1st 24-48 hrs,he didn't want a bath straightaway,but when he did it was soothing and not painful,but it is easier to reason with them when they are older.I got him some boxer shorts that were too big,and we found a margerine carton(??) to tape over the area so that nothing"hit" or pressed on it overnight,mad I know,but it worked!! Maybe try sitting him in an empty bath and letting him pour warm water over himself,if it doesnt hurt he mat trust you to fill the bath up.Add salt to the water as it aids healing.

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bignose · 15/05/2008 11:48

He had to have for medical reasons.It was so tight and it got sore alot.Wish he didnt have to.Defo wouldnt agree with it for any other reason-not now!!
He is petrified of even standing in the bath.I managed to stand him in there whilst I sat in there.
I poured a little bit of water over it but he cried.Im sure its just fear and doesnt actually realise that it would sting first but then get better.
He's male!!

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bignose · 15/05/2008 11:50

We are using a sick bowl from the hosp and we've cut it to fit!!

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bignose · 15/05/2008 11:51

They didnt mentiion anything about gel.Thats bad.They should automatically give it out!!

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damewashalot · 15/05/2008 12:18

My ds was 4 when he had it done we put lavender in the bath to make the water 'special' for making sore bits better, he helped count the drops and it was the getting in that was hardest, once he was in there it was soothing and he never wanted to get out again.
Be aware that as it heals it will be very sensitive as the skin get used to being exposed, I do recall wee shooting off in all directions which he thought was very funny
Plenty to drink as dilute wee stings less. But the baths are vital, we did 2 a day, you don't want it to get infected, obvious I know but I know of someones that did, really not nice.

HTH

barbarianoftheuniverse · 15/05/2008 12:18

My ds had exactly the same op when he was 6 (medical reasons- we had no choice). It looked awful and was so sore it couldn't be covered- we cut the front out of his joggers.
He had a dreadful time, came round while still being operated on we were told, absolute screaming panic.
The first 48 hours were by far the worst, by second week he was proudly displaying the scene of the crime to all comers during PE. And perfectly okay. It healed up fine and it looked a complete mess to start with.
Just to give you hope.

damewashalot · 15/05/2008 12:20

Oh and I knew nothing about gell and he had both testicles lowered at the same time so was in a very sore state, poor thing.

The recover very quickly though and soon forget.

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bignose · 16/05/2008 18:29

damewashalot,
I have no idea what im doing.He had it done on tues.He wont get in the bath (Physically force him now),he will not wear anything,he will not go wee or poo on the toilet.He didnt go toilet for 28hrs so when he was shaking with the holding of it and shear panic I made a suggestion that he go standing and doin it on a towel on the floor.He did this and now wants to do it like that every time.Iv now managed to get him to go in the little pot that detaches from his potty whilst I have to hold it.This afternoon he said he wanted a poo so we both went into the loo and I refused to let him do it in the pot and lifted him on the toilet in a way that ensured hi willy wouldnt touch the toilet.This was successful but he screamed and screamed and was psychotic un til I let go and allowed him to get off!!
His just had his second bath since the op and again we had to force him down on the water.
I tried to get him to put some very lose shorts on today.I said you are not having any of your toys or your bed downstairs until you at least try and see what they feel like.He put them on for 10seconds if that.
He is being very demanding,whining,moaning,crying at everything.
Is he supposed to be like this.Is this exceptable?
Should I be harder on him or go with what he wants.
I feel he is being a wimp.
Please advice as no idea how I should be.
My dh says it will feel so sensitive but not really painful,just diff.I think he may be a bit too hard on him.

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bignose · 16/05/2008 18:43

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Flame · 16/05/2008 18:44

How old is he?

differentID · 16/05/2008 18:52

Have you thought of using a paddling pool with warm water? Treat it like a game and use some of his bath toys to distract him? Is he old enough to role play- could you pretend on of his favourite toys has had the same op and must take a bath to feel better?

LadyOfWaffle · 16/05/2008 18:57

I am not sure how you would keep the area clean (ie. if you need a bath) but if not I definatly would wait until he is ready to have one - just bed bath him for a while (I did this for abit after I had DS and had stitches). Let him go to the toilet anyway he is comfortable with - the best way probably would be in the bath (wee I mean!) if he was going to have one. Maybe a handheld fan on the area might soothe it abit?

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TheProvincialLady · 16/05/2008 19:12

I think you are being very harsh on him actually. He is a little boy whose willy is probably very, very sore - he is in pain and frightened. How do you except him to react?

I had an episiotomy 2 years ago and it was one of the worst pains I have ever suffered, even with all the painkillers, and it lasted for weeks. Some people's epis don't cause them much bother. I don't think your DH can really tell you how much pain your little boy is in, or 'ought' to be in.

If it was me I think I would get medical advice on his pain. And give him all the cuddles, poos on the pot and whatever else he needs.

posieflump · 16/05/2008 19:13

how old is he?

seeker · 16/05/2008 19:22

Bignose - of COURSE he's not a wimp. He's had a scary and painful experience - let him be as babyish as he wants. Don't listen to dh!

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bignose · 16/05/2008 19:23

4yrs.i feel bad now.

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onelittlelion · 16/05/2008 19:25

My dh had it done recently. I think he found tighter pants comfier as less movement. He took lots of painkillers too. It actually healed v quickly. Hope your ds recovers soon and is not too traumatised by it all. If it continues to be v painful might be worth getting it checked out?

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bignose · 16/05/2008 19:27

im expecting too much and am being impatient.feel worse than i have so far since op now.

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