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Should we take DD to restaurant with high temperature?

29 replies

momtoone · 20/04/2008 10:55

She has temp 39.2 and headache which goes down with Calpol. No other symptoms but not very hungry and less lively than normal but chatty and smiley as usual. It is our friends birthday, DD loves our friend and family.

I think she should stay at home, DH thinks we should go - mind you I always err on the side of caution and Dh errs on the side of selfishness! We are going there for 1.30

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QuintessentialShadows · 20/04/2008 10:58

I think you should stay home. What if it is the beginning of a nasty bug, and she passes it on? It could be a tummy bug even. You would not be very popular. Young children is often sick from high temperature, what if she vomits in the restaurant? Would be very embarassing. And an even higher risk of contamination. Especially as according the health and safety law, people who work with food should not touch sick, so you would have to clean it yourself.

BroccoliSpears · 20/04/2008 11:00

She's bound to vom all over the restaurant if you take her (or is that just my dd?). Stay home.

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momtoone · 20/04/2008 11:03

DD has only ever vomited once in her life(strong stomach like me)

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ImflightbutIcantlogintoday · 20/04/2008 11:06

Temperature always eans your body needs to rest and stay home (if not in bed then resting).

Sorry but I disagree with your DH, you are right. She is ill and needs to rest. She might also be contagious and other diners would be at risk especially if they are vulnerable like some people's partners on here - having chemo etc.

Surely there will be other times she can see them??

TheArmadillo · 20/04/2008 11:07

I would stay at home with her.

It's tough you both have to miss out on stuff, but not fair to take her when she is ill (on her, you or anyone else).

Could you and dp come to an arrangment where one of you stays home and the other goes?

ImflightbutIcantlogintoday · 20/04/2008 11:07

Btw I'd send my children to school with a cold or a headache, s long as it wasn't too bad, but a temperature is a bright light to me saying 'NO!' It's her little body telling you something isn't Ok.

bossykate · 20/04/2008 11:09

when you say she improves with calpol - is that completely better and back to normal so that she no longer appears ill? if so i would do it if you can time your dose of calpol so that it will be in effect during the meal.

however, if the calpol brings an improvement but she is still visibly under the weather, then i agree you should keep her home for a rest.

QuintessentialShadows · 20/04/2008 11:10

How old is she?

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momtoone · 20/04/2008 11:17

She's 5. Temp has gone down to 38 now, am going to give her Calpol now. Friend won't go without us -whole thing will be off.

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Psychomum5 · 20/04/2008 11:21

noooo....never go out with a child that has a temp that high.....their little bodies are poorly in some way and need rest.

plus, she may not vomit (it may not even be a stomach bug), but she may be carrying a bug that can be passed on to others, and some of those others may be immuno-comprimised in some way.

put another way.....would you send her to school like this???

I reckon you wouldn't, so therefore you shouldn't take her today either.

meals can be re-arranged you know

QuintessentialShadows · 20/04/2008 11:23

Does your friend know your dd is ill and with high temperature?

QuintessentialShadows · 20/04/2008 11:24

Let the meal be off then. Your responsibility is first and foremost to your child, not your friends meal arrangements. Do it next weeken!

pagwatch · 20/04/2008 11:27

No no no noooo!.
My DD was in a similar situation when she was about 18 months - eratic temp but seemed OK. She crashed over a few hours and ended up in hospital very very seriously ill. turned out she had rotavirus which was contaigious and it nearly killed her.
Now obviously it is 99% likely that your little one is just fighting off some bug or other but she could well be contagious.
Not good . Keep her home and just keep an eye on her. Its a pisser but there it is.
a high temp is a big red flag that you shouldn't ignore.

EffiePerine · 20/04/2008 11:30

Stay home. She needs rest and attention, not the excitement of going out! Also, you don't know if she's infectious and your friends wouldn't thank you for passing on any bugs

berolina · 20/04/2008 11:30

ooh no, 39.2 is high. I think tbh I might consider it up to 38, maybe 38.5, if she was otherwise herself iyswim. But that temp is a real fever. It's a PITA, I know, but cancel.

DarthVader · 20/04/2008 11:34

I would not take a child out with a temperature.

TheArmadillo · 20/04/2008 11:37

Let your friend call the whole thing off then - that is up to them and not you.

It is not fair to take a child with a temp out.

They will be miserable, you will have a hard time with being ill, and everyone else is at risk of catching what she has (including resturant staff etc).

It's a PITA but still you shoudln't take her out.

yurt1 · 20/04/2008 11:39

No.

Beetroot · 20/04/2008 11:40

no

berolina · 20/04/2008 11:41

Meant to add [I would consider it if under 38.5 and] I was as sure as I could be that she didn't have something more than the standard feverish cold. I say this as someone whose children have had repeated feverish colds since about Jan. But at that temp, no way. Calpol just suppresses the symptoms, doesn't mean she's better iyswim.

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momtoone · 20/04/2008 11:42

We've called it off. DH is a selfish git.

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mamablue · 20/04/2008 11:47

You did the right thing. How guilty would you both feel if she became really ill at the restaurant. Hope she feel s better soon.

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momtoone · 20/04/2008 11:52

Yes, to be fair to DH we haven't done any adult things for a couple of months and it was a yummy Thai restaurant.

But he's still a selfish git

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jalopy · 20/04/2008 11:58

Stay at home. Can't see what the dilemma is.

FrannyandZooey · 20/04/2008 11:59

I don't see why dp couldn't go by himself if he was that bothered

sorry to hear about dd, hope she is better soon