Hand hold while I wait for ambulance

[WhereIsMyDaughter]

My DD (age 20 - learning disability, autism and mental health problems) hasn't passed urine in 24 hours. I have spoken to 111 and they are sending an ambulance out.

I have agoraphobia and anxiety myself so I am absolutely terrified about going to the hospital with DD. I will of course go with her but it's so incredibly difficult. I'm on the verge of tears.

I just hope she's ok and it's nothing to do with her kidneys.

So sorry OP, can't imagine how tough this is for you, sending a hand hold, hope they can get her seen to quickly and you can both get home to rest

Really hope she's ok op. Make sure you pack yourself a bag with drinks, snacks and a phone charger

Reaches out to hold your hand.

You can do this. We will be here to help.

Hope your dd is OK.

Oh it's a worrying situation for you OP.

But it's good that the ambulance is on its way and your DD will be in the best place to help her.

It's the waiting that's the worst. I'm sure when the ambulance arrives and you are both on your way you won't feel so anxious.

Just try to remind yourself that if anything happens, you're in the best place. I find this helps when I get panicky. I'm in a place where loads of people can help me if I get overwhelmed which I'd much prefer than being on my own in the streets. Hope everything is okay with your daughter 🙏

I hope everything goes well.

Please keep us updated.

Deep breaths. You've got this. And so has your daughter.

Do you have anyone to support you?

sending a hand hold, you have got this .. difficult though it might be

while you are waiting, have you thrown a few bits in a bag. You could be on a hard chair at the hospital for a while waiting to be seen

chargers
devices
headphones
any comfort items for DD
snacks
drink
jumper for both of you
some wipes and a clean pair of knickers in case you are there all night

Thank you everyone, I've just been in floods of tears but I need to focus on DD. She needs me and that's all that matters. I've got a bag packed with necessary things. I wanted my DH to come with me to support me but he won't.

Probably best just having 1 carer with her anyway …hope she’s well again soon

So sorry you feel this way and I hope your daughter is okay. Best if its just you that goes with her anyway. You can do this! You got this! xx

You can do this op!

I hope your dd is ok and that you are not kept waiting a long time.

Remember your phone charger and some change and maybe try some slow deep breaths, breathing out for longer than you breath in.

Good luck op and sorry your dh is not being more supportive 💐

Exactly this, try to remain calm, getting too upset won’t aid the situation.
Lets hope you get seen fairly quickly

We're with you, you're not alone. Well done for pushing past your fears to be there for your daughter - what a fantastic mother you are. Don't take your bravery for granted: not everyone would put themselves through such fear to be there for a loved one. You are amazing

Good luck OP.

Chin up OP, stop crying, you will be fine.

I hope your daughter is ok, and I hope the two of you aren’t waiting for too long.

You will be fine. Your mum instinct will keep you going. You can do this! Hand holding 💐

You did the right thing by seeking help. And I think it goes just to show how strong you are and what a good Mum you are by putting your daughters' needs first and foremost. I can appreciate that it must seem terribly overwhelming but she is the priority right now and I think you will feel so much better once she has been seen by the professionals and it will hopefully put your mind at ease. Hugs xx

Yep think practically. Focus on packing for yourself and DD. Money, book, charger, fleece top or blanket, pjs, nibbles, sandwich, drinks, socks, pants, anything that will entertain your DD, taxi phone number.

Oh OP I feel for you 😢 keep posting here when you can, you are not alone! Do you have any other family or a friend who can go with you? Do you have any paperwork you can take with you to explain your daughter's needs? Do ask if they have a learning disability nurse when you get there. Don't be afraid to ask for reasonable adjustments - for example a quiet room to wait in instead of a crowded waiting room. You can do this, sending you strength 💐

You can do this, big deep breaths
I'm thinking of you and hope all goes OK

take list of medication and/or her actual medication.
all the best.

I hope you're in the ambulance now & feel supported!

is your DH. Your DD's Dad? If he is, that makes it doubly disgusting he refused to go with you, but even not going for you with your issues is disgusting. You need to think about this after DD is better x

but back to YOU & DD, I hope you're not waiting too long & they can sort DD out. 🤗

There’s lots of support for you here OP. Try to take it one tiny step at a time, even minute by minute if that helps. Thinking of you