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Dh at the Hospice

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Blandmum · 15/04/2008 13:55

Well, I took him back to the hospice this morning and with luck they will sort out some of his more distressing symptoms, in particular the pain, which is really wearing him down at the moment.

We are very Lucky, he has a beautiful side room, this time with a lovely balcony over looking the garden. It is nice and sheltered, so we got to sit out for a little while. They try to give us a side room, so that we can have a little privacy, with the kids etc. He has his own TV, with a DVD player, so I've been told to bring in series 2 of the Sopranos and Band of Brothers

The amusing thing is that twice he was mistaken for a visitor....for a dying man he is in remarkably good shape. This was a source of some black humour for us all.

As I left him, he was tucking into his 3 course lunch, and his doctor had told him that he would happily wait until DH had finished eating before he did the first assessment. they really are amazing there, and we are very forturate to have access to it.

If I'm honest I could use a few days respite from seeing him in pain all day and night.

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 15/04/2008 13:57

Oh MB
They sound lovely. So good to know he is being well looked after while you have a few days to recuperate yourself.

belgo · 15/04/2008 13:58

I hope they sort his pain out and he can come home quickly to you MB.

OracleInaCoracle · 15/04/2008 13:59

oh mb, im so sorry but glad that he is in a nice place iykwim x

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Blandmum · 15/04/2008 14:01

It really was quite funny the second time he was mistaken for a visitor, the staff nurse said, 'Oh Dr X, this is Mrs Bishop' and te doc turned to dh and said 'And you are...?'

At which point dh said Mr Bishop, and the doc said, 'God god, I didn't expect you to we standing up and walking round the place!'

Mr Bishop, a man who continues to Exceed Expectations (as they say in Hogwarts)

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Saturn74 · 15/04/2008 14:02

I hope they can sort out his pain relief, and that you both get some rest.
The hospice sounds like an amazing place.

southeastastra · 15/04/2008 14:03

i never know what to say to you mb, i'm no good with these things. just thinking about you.

callmeovercautious · 15/04/2008 14:03

Good to hear he is nicely settled in. Aren't you going on a trip yourself?

windygalestoday · 15/04/2008 14:04

im thining of you and your dear dh MB fingers crossed.

frogs · 15/04/2008 14:04

Oh love. I hope the lovely Mr B can Exceed Expectations for a little while yet, and that life throws you a few rays of sunshine.

xx

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Blandmum · 15/04/2008 14:05

I had a day in a local spa tomorrow. Whic I need and am looking forward to very much. I have a tension headache atm, I should really be making sixth for course work, but I'm going to 'gift myself' today and tomorrow and work on Thursday.

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marina · 15/04/2008 14:06

Hope those wonderful hospice people can help you all, MB, thinking of you as ever XXX

belgo · 15/04/2008 14:06

gosh you deserve it MB! Let's hope your dh continues to Exceed Expectations for quite a long time yet!

Countingthegreyhairs · 15/04/2008 14:07

MB - have read your threads before but don't post often.

It's good to hear that the hospice is able to support you and your dh and that your dh is settled in a lovely room. They were great with my father and he benefited from a garden view too.

We found that it is those small things like having the flexibility to wait until someone has finished lunch or, in my father's case, coming around with a small whisky and ginger at 6.30 pm every night, that make all the difference.

I hope you manage to profit from a bit of well-deserved respite. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

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Blandmum · 15/04/2008 14:09

The hospice is very nice. It would be over egging the cake to say it is like a hotel, but it is very like an old style B and B except they don't throw you out of your room in the daytime (remember when B and Bs used to do that?)

there is a very nice garden, and a conservatory. As I said Dh has a side room but we were warned that he might lose it if a side room 'became needed' by another patient, which is ,I think, Hospice speak for 'some one is about to pop off'.

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Flowertop · 15/04/2008 14:09

MB haven't posted to you before about you and DH but always read your posts. Just wanted to say am thinking of you and your lovely family. You have always given me good advice when I post, particularly about educational matters. You are all amazing.
XX

scaryteacher · 15/04/2008 14:18

Fingers crossed for you MB; are his job being supportive? My dh is a wetter line of work than yours but the same organisation iyswim.

I hope he carries on exceeding expectations for a long time as well.

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Blandmum · 15/04/2008 14:20

They have been exceptional. the services are always good in a time of crisis

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francagoestohollywood · 15/04/2008 14:25

I'm glad to hear he's looked after with such care. will keep fingers crossed for you

scaryteacher · 15/04/2008 14:25

Glad to hear it; I hope school are being helpful too. Can't some other bugger mark the course work for you?

Have a fab spa day...I'll be thinking of you.

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Blandmum · 15/04/2008 14:27

School have also been excellent, and I don't mind the marking. I've only got 13 lest to do!

I just don't want to do it with a head ache.

My kids are back at school so I'll have all day Thursay and Friday if I need it

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scaryteacher · 15/04/2008 14:38

Know what you mean - I'll be boss eyed by the time I've finished marking 2 GCSE papers for Edexcel online this summer!

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ajandjjmum · 15/04/2008 14:57

Hope Mr MB is helped, and that you get a little bit of 'me' time.

Wishing you all the best.

Mercy · 15/04/2008 17:08

Thinking of you MB

2shoes · 15/04/2008 17:12

thinking of you all. hope you manage to have a relaxing day.

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