Scabies..please help me

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I feel so incredibly embarrassed even writing this.
Back in February, I met a 'lovely' man, ended up getting in a relationship, a few weeks after he came out in a rash that started on his forearm and gradually spread all over his body, he claimed to have went to doctors and even the sexual health clinic who didn't seem to know.
Me, being silly didn't know what scabies was, or looked like and I just kept telling him he will be ok, reassuring him as he was so down about it, we had sex a few times whilst he had this rash because again, I didn't know what it was, neither of us did, well turns out he actually knew now.
Long story short, he cheated on me and the girl had told him she had scabies before the rash even came out on him, then played it out to me like he had no idea, even willingly gave it to me. Doctors eventually said it was scabies so he said... I was upset but I didn't use my due diligence so I didn't really have a cause to be mad.
Anyway, how I found out he gave it to me because of the girl is because she contacted me as she saw him post us and tagged me on social media and let me know, she even sent the screenshots of her being apologetic and things about giving the scabies to him.
We broke up because he also gave me an STI along with that, a man of many gifts!
My concern now is that since this rash has came on my skin, I have not been able to get rid of it!!! It physically won't go. I've done absolutely everything right and I just keep coming up with more spots every single day. I've tried the lotions and they haven't helped. The doctors have now referred me to dermatology as they say I probably have a resistant form. The itch is unbearable. It's my best friends wedding next week and I was supposed to be a bridesmaid but unfortunately because of the scabies, she had to tell me I won't be able to as we were all supposed to get hair and make up done together and admittedly that wont be right of me to do. She said I am welcome to still come and stay over at the venue but I can't get my hair or make up done and to also not be hugging anyone.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't feeling extremely depressed about the whole thing. I've even met a lovely man, but seems we won't work because I feel like this will never actually go and eventually I'll have to tell him as I can't maintain distance forever, I'm even tearing up as I write this. My ex truly was an evil evil man and I wish I never believed a word out of his mouth 😭😢 attaching pics of the spots also.

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I don't have any advice, my only experience with scabies is a relative who caught it from a hotel bed and used the treatment cream. But I'm really sorry you're dealing with this and your ex sounds like an awful person for knowingly giving you an STD and scabies! I would be so angry with him. I hope your dermatology appointment is soon and hopefully someone will be along with some advice on this thread

What treatments have you had OP? I think there is a pemithrin resistant strain going around but you can get malathion lotion as an alternative. You can also ask your doctor to prescribe ivemectin but you have to push as its expensive and they really don't seem to want to give it out.

We got it on holiday last year and it only went properly after ivemectin.

You poor thing! What an absolute arse he was.
Have you checked if you have any deficiencies? Vit D is key to fighting off stuff like this and most of us are deficient in UK. You can get mouth vitamin sprays here that work really quickly and might help https://www.amazon.co.uk/BetterYou-Pill-free-Strength-Supplement-Peppermint/dp/B08G57MJW9/ref=asc_df_B08G57MJW9/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=463298346694&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=567083258425274432&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9045109&hvtargid=pla-960666520211&psc=1&mcid=65e9f39353e4370692b5cbdfd4f91168&th=1&psc=1

I've tried lyclear cream and malathion lotion. I've also tried steroid creams. Annoyingly enough, I had one giant mark on my arm, which is now flat and feels like skin where as before it didn't. But I don't know what helped because I was using everything so intermittently to try to get it gone. It's completely devoured my body now. It's warm outside and I'm walking around wearing tracksuits as I'm so incredibly embarrassed, I'm even thankful my best friend allowed me to still stay at the venue, I feel dirty.

I do have low vitamin D and low iron also 😢😢

Can you report someone to the police for knowingly transmitting scabies to you? I’m so sorry for you OP this sounds horrible, I would be fuming!

Honestly be kind to yourself, like I said we had an ordeal with this last year and it was from staying in a hotel. I will say it did take 6 weeks to stop itching after the treatment so bare that in mind.

Did you wash everything in your house and quarantine your soft furnishings for 3 days after each treatment?

Spatone with Vit C for the iron and this mouth spray, both from Amazon. Good luck with it and I hope it clears soon.

@LivingDeadGirlUK ah! No I didn't continue hot washing after the first day of treatment. Maybe that was my mistake. When this all started I only had it on my neck and chest, now it's consumed my whole body 😭😢

It can take a couple of weeks for your skin to get better and the itching to stop, even once you've cleared the infection.

It's really rare to catch it from bedding etc, it pretty much has to be close skin contact with an infected person, so don't go too OTT hot washing everything.

Are you taking oral antihistamines? They really help with the itching, especially at night.

I understand but the issue is the spots are still appearing, I'm literally covered and the only reason I know it's getting worse is because it hadn't reached my legs, it's now all down my legs 😭😭😭😭

Also remember that the rash and itching are a reaction to the mites - so you might kill all the mites but the reaction can still take a while to go down. It doesn't mean the treatment isn't working.

@DoubIeLeopardy even going the natural route now because I'm so confused on what I've done wrong 😭 I don't understand why it's not working

Gosh you poor thing, I feel for you, I've had it before and it's horrible, pretty sure I got it from the prison I work at. Remember it takes a while for the itching to stop even after you've completed the treatment... that's what I found frustrating, that you have no idea if it's working or not! And that it takes a while to show up again when it comes back! Take cetirizine for itching in the daytime and promethazine at night..it will make you drowsy. Really hope it goes soon. Try to look after your overall health too to give your body the best chance of getting rid of it x

That's the thing, the spots are still spreading, every single day so I know it's not going, they said it could be a resistant form or even not scabies at all. But I know it is, because my lovely ex had it and his went after treatment.

Get eurax for the itching and keep using the lotion from GP and definitely 90° hot wash your bedding. I had it as a teenager and its fucking awful. Your ex is a cunt

@Devilsmommy 90 degree hot wash? I've been doing 60 I thought that would be fine & agreed! He definitely is. So unfair.

Scabies is more common now. Just keep treating it.

Did you have a full STI check for everything?

My mom did 90° every single day and I think it did help. Though definitely get the cream for the itching, it's a nightmare 😞

I had it 25 years ago from an ex.

What I found got rid of it was putting on the derbac m and then I walked around naked for about 2 hours (in my kitchen in the middle of the night). I did this so it would all soak in and not get rubbed off by clothing or bedding.

Also couldn't sleep due to itch and I have anxiety anyway.

It did go. Don't remember telling my my mum and I lived at home so I don't think beds were boil washed or anything.

I'm trying my best. Yes, I had a full check after

Ah sorry about that. It's actually horrific. No one has caught it from me in my house weirdly enough and I've had it nearly two months.

You need to apply the cream really carefully, they can hide out under your nails due to you scratching and a lot of people forget to 'ram' the cream under their nails. I would keep going with the cream while your waiting for a referral. Remember to to wash everything at 60 minimum and don't wear anything you haven't washed at a high temperature or you'll keep reinfecting yourself.

Thanks, I haven't been doing under my nails 😭 just rubbing in hands so I assume it got under there fine. Just did another treatment tonight and didn't do under nails so no doubt it probably hasn't worked. Again. Used the lyclear this time as the derbac makes me feel so ill with the smell.