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Just had the phone call to say ....STEVE IS COMING HOME ON MONDAY !

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onlyjoking9329 · 04/04/2008 14:44

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onlyjoking9329 · 09/04/2008 12:32

the carers only get to see the care plan once they are here, so things like DO NOT ring the doorbell they don't know about on the first vist, once things have been running for a while we will hopefully get a regular staff team, i guess it takes time to set up.

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Klaw · 09/04/2008 12:38

Yes OJ, once the regulars on the team get used to things it will smooth out. I trust that the management know that your situation is a bit more special than others because of the kids? They won't be sending different people all the time, will they, they'll have a bit of savvy to make up a core rota of people that will be regular carers, won't they?

thinking of you, as always (((OJ)))

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 09/04/2008 12:40

So glad to see that you are altogether where you belong xx

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onlyjoking9329 · 09/04/2008 15:38

blimey that was frosty.

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BetteNoir · 09/04/2008 15:39

Are you OK, OJ?

Hulababy · 09/04/2008 15:43

Glad her is home woth you and quite settled. Hope today was okay wth the in laws.

LilRedWG · 09/04/2008 16:33

Ahh - the dear MIL has been then?

VaginaShmergina · 09/04/2008 17:49

Hey OJ, the monster in law gone (I call mine the original Ice Queen, maybe they are sisters?)

The carers really should be made aware of the vital things liike getting the kids on the bus on time, and as for the door, could you not just put a general note on it for all callers not ring the bell ?

Izabella · 09/04/2008 19:49

OJ, sounds like things are getting into some sort of routine for you. Good that you have a contact no for the DN. I know you were concerned about Steve getting his meds when he needs it, so having that might give you a bit more piece of mind. I hope the agency are good & send you the same carers so they can get used to Steve and will know all the finer points like not to ring the door bell.

Was the icy chill due to a certain MIL in the house. How did she take to the carer being present?

Sorry to hear that Steve is more confused. Its a tough balance because the morphine takes away the pain somewhat but has its side effects as well. I do hope you & Steve can enjoy some alone time together as well. Hope Elliot continues to get better & that you can get some much needed rest. xxx

Tickle · 09/04/2008 20:42

sending love
x

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onlyjoking9329 · 09/04/2008 22:11

i have had huge row with steves sister

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ShinyPinkShoes · 09/04/2008 22:14

Last thing you need

Are you alright? x

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ShinyPinkShoes · 09/04/2008 22:25

Jo despite the crap you have from Steve's family, please remember we're all behind you and are always here for you x

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onlyjoking9329 · 09/04/2008 23:00

Steves sister turned up along with boyfriend. they wanted a full drugs list and were very aggressive in the way that they spoke to me, i told them to speak to steves consultant as i wasn't prepared to talk to then when they were being aggressive in their manner.
steves sister, said that she wished steve was not with me and that in fact steve didn't want to be with me and he had told her that he wanted a divorce
she said that she would do everything she could to get steve away from me and that i was not to be trusted giving steve his meds as i was overdosing him [angey] this is the same sister who thinks steve will be cured by crystals

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onlyjoking9329 · 09/04/2008 23:08

boyfriend was spouting off about solicitors and all sorts of stuff. luckily i had a mate here who told them how things really are but i asked his sister and boyfriend to leave, steves brother was here whilst this was all going on and he did try to calm things down but i am still hurt angry and upset.

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ShinyPinkShoes · 09/04/2008 23:09

I am furious on your behalf!
She is just saying a whole load of crap that she knows will get to you.

She clearly needs to get a dose of reality here. Has she always been a complete cow difficult?

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moodlumthehoodlum · 09/04/2008 23:11

OJ. What a bitch she is. What a terrible bitch. How awful for you. I'm so sorry. Thank god you had a mate with you.

TimeForMe · 09/04/2008 23:12

Oj I am so sorry that you are having to go through all this. This should be a special time for you, Steve and the children. How vey selfish, insensitive, nasty and vicious these people sound. I realise that they may be upset at Steve's illness but that is no excuse to treat you this way.

Thinking of you all, as always xxxx

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onlyjoking9329 · 09/04/2008 23:15

we just don't need this, don't they see how difficult things are already. Steve is in the end stages of cancer and will die anytime soon, yes i understand they are angry but they shouldn't be angry with me

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shabster · 09/04/2008 23:17

OMG OJ - cant think of anything constructive to say except I am so and for you. I would imagine they are hurting about Steve but......that's not how to conduct yourself. Deep breathing, nice thoughts. Oh I wish I had something to say that would help. xxxx

ShinyPinkShoes · 09/04/2008 23:18

that you have this on top of everything else to deal with.

Is there another family member who could step in and talk to her on your behalf?

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