Snoring - please share experiences!

[brownbutterfrangipanetart]

My DH has been snoring a lot recently (it seems to have ramped up after baby arrived and I’m not sure if it’s because I’m struggling to get to sleep or sleep deprivation or perhaps stress on his part?)

it is making it hard to get to and stay asleep. Add to that the baby wake ups in the night!

seperate rooms is providing a temporary fix for now but I’d prefer this not to be a long term solution

we’re seeking medical advice as I’m aware there a number of ‘solutions’ - mouth guard, spray, ear plugs etc

keen to know others experiences- did you manage to resolve it and with what? Did you end up sleeping in separate rooms? I’ve heard you can just get used to the noise so it doesn’t affect sleep anymore- not sure how true this is!

First he/ you need to establish if he is a mouth or nose snorer as the remedies such as a nasal spray won’t help if he snores from the mouth. ENT will be able to tell you which is more likely.
Have a look on YouTube for Dr Vik Veer, he is an ENT surgeon who has lots of videos on snoring and the treatment available.

Thanks - will check out that doctor on YouTube! I believe it could be due to deviated septum

My dh is a prolific snorer. He's had treatment for nasal polyps but, tbh, nothing has fully worked.

I find that ensuring I go to bed and to sleep before him plus the use of silicon earplugs tends to help me sleep through more often. Sadly we won't have a spare room until the kids go to uni!

Oh and try Mack's ear plugs from amazon. They're the best I've found.

@brownbutterfrangipanetart you need to get a set of ear plugs and a ball pein hammer.

When you got to bed, show your husband both. Tell him in no uncertain terms that if the earplugs don't work, you will use the hammer.

That should do the trick 😉

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He needs to see GP to exclude sleep apnoea.

I tried the mouthguard but it is really uncomfortable. Ultimately losing weight fixed mine. If he is overweight, especially with a fat neck, first stop is losing weight.

Separate bedrooms here (last 5 years). Best thing we have ever done. We both wake up feeling refreshed and with no resentment! Our sex life has improved massively as well.

I snore horribly. I now have a CPAP machine and don't snore any more. Its very easy to get referred for a sleep apnoea assessment on the NHS.

Thanks - we don’t think sleep apnea as at play but will definitely rule it out.

hanmer 😂will possibly give it a go if things get desperate haha.

Thanks @JoanThursday for earplugs recommendation - I also have tried the going to sleep earlier which sometimes works

@Parky04 good to hear! I definitely slip into irrational resentment territory but sleep so well in seperate rooms but did wonder about impact on intimacy. Good to hear it’s actually worked well for you!

My DH has always been a chronic snorer, his old school friends still all joke about how awful it was to room share with him. It got a bit better after he gave up smoking 3/4 years ago but there’s still the occasionally night where it’s really bad. He won’t go to the doctor about it and tbh I haven’t pushed him because so many of the anti-snoring measures are so “un-sexy”. I’ve always used noise cancelling headphones that play rain sounds while I sleep and those massively helped. I stopped wearing them when we had our DS so that I could hear if he got upset at night and realised that now I am mostly able to sleep through it. I don’t know if he’s got better, or if I’ve just got used to it 🤷‍♀️. I still occasionally move to the spare room even now though and usually get a nice cup of tea and a “sorry” from DH in the morning.

Dh used to be a horrific snorer when we first met. I found that it was when he slept on his back and as long as I snuggled up/spooned so that he was on his side he was much better. Hexneeded the odd nudge but it helped a lot.

Unfortunately, after a 20 year gap, I've now started snoring!!

That's OK though, it probably works the other way around too.

Unfortunately I get far too hot nowadays to want a cuddle, it just wakes me up. We play musical beds these days.

Oh well, it was worth suggesting 😂

My DH (45) has started to snore as he has got older and his soft palate has got more lax. I accept it’s part of aging and as I am showing signs of age too I just accept it.
I have found squidgy, disposable earplugs the best. Make sure you roll them up, pull your ear up and back to straighten the ear canal, insert, then keep your finger on them for a full 30 seconds as they expand.
The earplugs don’t stop all noise - I can still hear things - rather they help me focus in on the sound of my breathing and bring the level of the snoring down to 1/10.

We both snore. Generally him when I'm not and me when isn't. Separate bedrooms has sorted it!

When I lost 2 stone my snoring stopped completely and I sleep so much better. My DH no longer has to sleep in the spare bedroom!

Thanks all for the tips

do you find the earplugs stay in? @JoanThursday @ThursdayTomorrow I often will keep changing from sleeping on my side to on my front and back again so I thought they would fall out….it’s definitely worth a go though

Yes! They're fab. Have never had any problem with them falling out. I much prefer the silicone ones to the foam ones that sit inside your ear. I couldn't keep those ones in.

I am the house snorer.
Even after surgery I am LOUD.

Separate sleeping spaces is the best way.
Go to bed together. Have a cuddle have a chat. Then one of you move and both sleep well.

@Talkinpeace i have to say when we do sleep seperately, I do have the best sleep ever 😂

may I ask, did you have surgery to fix the snoring? I also was wondering if people also do that as a fix after trying sprays, ear plugs etc

DH was a terrible snorer. He wasn't over weight so we couldn't work out what was going on. Until, he got a sore throat and I had a look at it. Bloody hell his tonsils were huge. He went to his GP and was immediately referred for surgery. Had his tonsils out at 41. No more snoring unless he's been having a whisky!

@brownbutterfrangipanetart
I have always snored, but smashed my nose badly and had to have my septum totally rebuilt.
I wake myself up snoring. I can snore when lying flat on my front !!!

I have a Francis nasal dilator that keeps my bad nostril open
I use saline spray to reduce infections
but basically sleeping without disturbance is the way to go.

Have been with DH for nearly 40 years by the way !!

Unfortunately I snore, does my DWs head in, mine is linked to having a particular type of reflux , worse if I sleep on my back, DW usually just kicks me and moans, she has threatened to sleep elsewhere