Help I’m so uncomfortable 😩

[Biscuits1011]

Have small whiteish bumps on my vulva. Everywhere, around my bum also. It’s so so so sore, it’s actually making me cry. Can’t get to drs til tomorrow. No idea what it is. Thought could be genital warts, been with same partner for years and definitely no cheating going on but I’ve read that doesn’t matter with genital warts, also ready they shouldn’t be painful but these are mega painful!!! Burning, Stinging. How can I relive it for now 😞

A soothing barrier cream like sudocrem maybe?
Does he have cold sores? Herpes can be sore, stinging white bumps and can lie dormant for years.

Yes actually he did have one not long ago. I didn’t think of that

Goodness you poor thing, honestly have no idea what it could be but to relieve?
A luke warm bath, air dry and like pp said sudocreme or camomile lotion?
Could you phone 111 and ask to speak to a pharmacist for advice?

Hi OP, it sounds like herpes passed on via your husband. The virus can lie dormant for years and if you’re run down can present.

Take some paracetamol and brufen, and keep the area clean and pat dry. If it’s really painful ti pass urine I advise patients to keep a glass of water in bathroom to flush over the area while you pee. It’ll pass in around 4-5 days. You’ll need to get swabbed at your local GUM clinic or you could go to an and e. They’ll give you acyclovir which is the antiviral medication.

Thank you for the replies it does sound like herpes. I didn’t give that a thought! I’ll try and hold out till tomorrow so I can speak to my dr, I’ve tried some cream and taken ibuprofen so hopefully it helps for now.

I’m also on my period 😩 which is making this even worse! Because it’s so painful I don’t want to wear anything apart from loose pj bottoms but I have to wear a pad.. seriously this is agony… dp is back to work tomorrow and I’ve got kids to get to school (luckily off work at the moment on maternity) I don’t know how I’m going to fo it I just want to cry

It’s really painful - I’ve seen women crying over it. Have you taken both paracetamol and ibuprofen? You could try a pharmacy to see if they can prescribe the acyclovir but without a formal diagnosis this is probably difficult. I do think there is a mild anaesthetic gel that can be used too that they could perhaps recommend.

You can't he will have to help, I mean he has most likely caused this so it isn't unreasonable to expect him to get the children to school.

I have cried 😩. Yes taken both paracetamol and ibuprofen, not really made much difference. Hopefully the dr can help in the morning.

as for dp I’ve told him he’s got to take tomorrow’s off work, I simply can’t look after the baby and do school runs like this I just can’t

Could be herpes which can be transmitted if he had a cold sore and performed oral sex. It can also lie dormant for years. If you're on maternity I assume you're pregnant or postpartum in which case it can lower your immune system and make you more susceptible to outbreaks.

If you're pregnant and this is your first outbreak please tell the midwife, as there is a chance it can be transmitted to baby during birth and this can have very serious consequences.

You can buy aciclovir from online pharmacies or ask the GP in the morning, meanwhile wipe gently with a wipe rather than loo roll and try not to touch them if possible xx

Just read you're on your period so probably not pregnant lol

Apparently lysine supplement helps.

I went for a wee and honestly I screamed in pain and thought I was going to pass out 😭

No definitely not pregnant , baby is 7 months now, not back to work for another 2 months thankfully.

@pinkshoes87 the baby to look after & maternity leave were a bit of a give away too 🤣🤣

@Biscuits1011

definitely pour water as you wee. If you have a jug you can sacrifice that's a good way to get a volume of water there. Or weeing in the shower pointing the shower head if it's detachable. That's the best, but a right pain each time you need to wee! Squirts bottles are good too.

has DP been good about taking tomorrow off.

if you've ever been intimate with someone else, it may not have been DP who gave you it. But with his cold sore, it's quite likely. Has he had one before? Did you test (years ago, not each time!) before you had unprotected sex? I'd be worried it was a more recent acquisition...

OP don't suffer, ring 111 and get seen by a doctor tonight!!!

Drs is shut I don’t know how I’d see anyone tonight , nearest hospital is 40 mins away and there’s no way I can drive like this, dp would have to have the kids. I will ring first thing in the morning. I’ll try the water when I wee I hope it helps because that was the most painful thing ever. I’ve had natural births and a c section and none were as painful as this! I’ve had quite a few sexual partners in my past, so obviously could have been laying dormant in me but I do think it’s him. Not that it really matters at this point…

Try wrapping some ice in a tea towel and lay it against your underwear ❤️

x

Herpes is painful. I'm a carrier. Caught it from my mum when I was born last outbreak was 30 years ago. Weeing in the bath really helps

I don’t have a bath; only a shower 😩 and it’s a bit of a faff to turn the shower on every time I need wee. I’ll try a jug of water and hope for the best 😩

If it's heroes. Ask for some acilovier rackets. It's stood it so quickly

I used a jug of warm water for weeding and it definitely helped so thanks to those who suggested that. I’m awake at 2.30am because I’m in so much pain though 😣

Oh @Biscuits1011 I really do feel for you, but hopefully it isn't too long now until you see your Dr.
Have you got anything like a large washing up bowl (or even the baby bath?) that would fit in the shower cubicle? I know you might feel silly, and it is a bit of a faff, but if you could put tepid water in it - preferably at a temperature that means when you put your elbow in it you can't actually feel any temperature at all, and then sit in it and wee into that, it really does give you a lot of relief while peeing.

Afterwards rinse all of your tender bits with lukewarm water - no soap at this stage, and a very gentle spray. Then holding it way back from you, blow dry yourself down below on a cool setting, or even cold - you could test which feels the best. The easiest way to do that is to actually lie back on your bed and then have your legs bent and open like they are when you have a smear test. You shouldn't touch yourself with a towel or even clean soft nose tissues - air drying, or gentle air blowing with a hair dryer, really are the best things to do when you are in a domestic setting.

Then hopefully by 11.00am this morning you will have the correct soothing/numbing cream to tap on your sore bits very gently, please do NOT rub, and the anti-viral medication if that is what your soreness is down to. The methods I have suggested for peeing, washing and drying, should absolutely be the right way to alleviate as much soreness as possible.

In very rare cases it might be contraindicated, but I haven't personally come across any that would be. Of course, use your common sense, if the pain felt even worse when peeing, washing or drying in the way I suggested, then stop doing so as soon as possible. Lots of good luck OP, and if you can bear it, please come back and let us know how your appointment went 🌻🩷

The hair dryer on cold setting helped, thank you. I’ve been drs. Is genital herpes like we thought. Given me codiene and the anti viral tablets tonyakeS she said hopefully will help in 2-3 days… so I guess I just got to wait it out 😩😩😩