Steve is going into the hospice this afternoon

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i know he needs to be there and hopefully they can get him more stable.

Oh OJ, I hope things are OK at home. Am thinking of you very much and sending you love and strength to cope at this difficult time. You are an inspiration. Take care.

Lots of love OJ. Thinking of you and hope you have a good night with Steve.

XXX

I hope Tuesday is all that steve wanted it to be...

Thiking of you, hope Steve is home and last night was'nt too bad for you all xx

steve is home, he doesn't feel very good but didn't like to tell them at the hospice in case they kept him in. i had a huge row with his mother it has been brewing for some time.
steve is much less confused but very restless so not much sleep.

sorry that things have come to a head with steve's family and that he didn't have a good night. hope that you are finding things easier now he is less confused. were steve's family against him going into the hospice then?

oj, sorry you had a bad night, and that things aren't good with your MIL. Things like this can put enormous pressure on families. I hope you can patch thing up and that Steve feels better today .

I'm sorry that yesterday wasn't such a good day (understatement of the year by the sounds ofthings), but I'm glad that Steve is less confused and that you have him home again. xx

his family were pleased when he went in the hospice, steve was not pleased by day 2 and wanted to come home, he needed to get his meds sorted so i couldn't bring him home, his family think i have been having a great time and living the life of riley whilst he has been there
steves mum has not been in touch with me whilst steve has been there, althou i have phoned her.
she phoned me on monday night to tell me that she was bringing steve home. this had already been discussed with her and i had already arranged with staff that i would collect him, many reasons why i needed to bring him home, i needed to sort out his meds and also Steve has been very angry with me whilst he has been there as he thinks we don't want him home, i felt that me bringing him home would show him that we did want him home.
i explained again to his mum why i needed to bring him home and she seemed ok about it, she then asked what time would i be getting him i told her they had said after lunch time is best.
yesterday at 10am i got a call from hospice to check what time i was going to collect steve, i told them i would collect as soon as he was ready, i explained that if i went in before he was able to leave he would be stressing as he knew i was taking him home.
phone call at 11am from his mother, who told me she had just popped in to see steve and they had said he could go home now so she would be bringing him home

She just doesn't listen to you does she! I hope you told her where to get off.

she told me that it wasn't her fault that i had not had a rest and that i chose to have 3 kids and thats what life is like with kids
i managed to stop myself from saying that steve and i were a team and we chose to have three kids as a team, steve is too poorly to be part of the team and we didn't chose that.

oh, oj, that's awful. surely in all of this she should be respecting your wishes and helping you with Steve rather than working against you.

I hope things settle down now he's at home, and that you've got his meds sorted yourself (I know how tricky it can be).

take care,
thinking of you all xx

God OJ how you can still be civil to her I don't know!!

I would have slapped the woman by now!!!

she said lots of other hurtful things, and then she said do you still want me to come and sit with steve on weds afternoon, i just said only if you want too.
you see i might be reading this all wrong but, i am supposed to beg and be grateful whenever they do anything, yet i am just left to get on with it and they have never asked how they can help, i have to ask them and i don't want too cos i would rather they did things cos they wanted to not cos they felt they HAD to.

OJ - I'm not sure I've ever posted before, but I try to keep up to date with you. I think you do brilliantly under enormous pressure. I'm sure you hear it all the time but if I had a magic wand . . .
I can't believe how Steve's family are being with you. If nothing else just use the stupidity as a focus and vent for your anger.
much love to all your family (and as I'm a nice girl love to the In Laws too )

OMG

Has MIL forgotten that this is about Steve not about her! As if you haven't got enough on your plate. I am so sorry tht you are having to deal with all this on top of everything else.

I hope Steve is as well as can be expected and is enjoying being at home. Thinking of you and sending lots of love xxx

By the way, regardless of what Monster-in-law thinks, you are doing an amazing job and coping extremely well with everything. You are one hell of a woman!

has MIL always been as awkward as this, before Steve was ill. On the one hand, it's understandable that's she's under a helluva lot of stress too, which can come out as agression towards others - but she is being very unfair to you with those comments. In terms of them helping - does it help YOU? sod whether they volunteer or not, if you feel better for it, ask them.

(((((((OJ)))))))

Can't your MIL see what this is doing to you? So sorry that she is being so deliberately nasty to you. How dare she question your & Steve's decision to have 3 kids. Children are a huge blessing & she should jolly well be grateful for them & for you. You're ana amzing wife to Steve and even though he's so ill, you're still in a marriage partnership.

Good that Steve is now home. Is his full care package now in place?

xxx

I am glad Steve is home. I cannot understand your mil at all. I cannot understand why she is'nt doing everything in her power to help you, not be a pain in the ass !!
As to say you had three kids so you deal with it attitude , well I truly believe what goes around comes around.
I really hope in rl you have good friends, and I don't know family on your side who can support you in real physical ways.
As I think I've said before if I lived nearer, I would gladly have all your kids over and hopefully give your a little break.
The only good thing to come out of my dads situation is that I am one of eight, and we are all close , and to my mum too. We have all been supporting each other, and sometimes its just what you need.

I hope there is someone you can turn to when you need a real physical shoulder to cry on (or moan too !!)

Remember you are an amazing wife to Steve and don't let the mil get you down !!

All best wishes xx

Wagon is the word! If you are from Dublin. I know 2 kids with severe epilepsy who would go in to get medication altered, it is the place to do it. It must be tough seeing your son like this, but there must be a better way to deal with it. Hope the week improves for you.

Sending hugs OJ - are your own family any support to you throughout all this? I hope so xx

OJ, I have said this before and I am sure I will say it again, but your mil is a stupid bitch. I know watching her son being so ill is hard, but if you were my dil I would be bending over backwards, forwards and sideways to help you, and I can't understand how come she is not. I don't know if you have ever mentioned your parents before, but how are they coping?

How are things today OJ? Thinking of you XXX