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How do you get children to school etc if you are ill?

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Flllightattendant · 04/02/2008 06:16

Not sure what to do. Have been in bed most of weekend with severe chest infection, temp, dizzy etc. though on power antib's now so is improving!

Ds1 also has bad cough and not very good form, but I think well enough for school. I would want to take him to the doctor if not, but actually I do not feel well enough to drive, to school or doctor.

I haven't any friends I can ask and mum is at work today having spent weekend looking after us all, basically.

Not sure what to do.

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Judy1234 · 04/02/2008 13:38

In 23 years as a mother I have never been so ill I couldn't drive. I've obviously been very lucky healthwise. The children are virtually never off school sick either. I wonder why some children are and some aren't.

flack · 04/02/2008 13:44

Some people don't have access to cars, Xenia.

Why have there been so many threads on this kind of thing, lately? Or did I never notice them a year ago?
"I'm too ill to take my child"... "My older child is too ill to walk", etc.

Is it just an indication of how sad so many of us are (deffo include me in on this one) that there is NO ONE we can ask to help out. No one lives my way, and no one I could ask in good conscience to take 15 minutes out of their day to come and fetch DC to or from school for me (and inconceivable I could ever repay such a favour, anyway).

fryalot · 04/02/2008 13:45

how're you feeling now FA? Any better?

Judy1234 · 04/02/2008 14:46

True and we walk to school and live very near. if the children are too young to walk alone usually there must be some oldest child in the school who lives near who could walk with them may be?

FillyjonkisCALM · 04/02/2008 14:59

oh god in 4 years as a mother I have frequently been too ill to drive

not too ill to look after kids, or even necessarily to go to work.

But when you drive, you are a. putting your kids in a fast moving tin box and b. putting that fast moving tin box near other people and their kids.

I won't drive if I'm feeling like crap. Even having a bad cold slows your reaction times massively. I do think its socially responsible to avoid driving if you are not in a fit state to do so, and this morning, FA wasn't.

(ps FA come over to the HE threads and we will lure you )

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Flllightattendant · 04/02/2008 15:04

Hello, friends

We have just driven to Morrisons and back, and are alive. Apart from one coughing fit, it was fairly safe. I even beeped at someone else! ahem.

Squonk the mere thought of you revived me I think...I definitely felt safe this afternoon.

Like Filly says, Xenia, I could have made the effort and got him to school but that would have been a bit like 'making the effort' after a bottle of wine, which I don't think would be considered admirable, exactly.

Please tell me what you feed your children to make them so robust. Perhaps that is where I'm going wrong.

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Flllightattendant · 04/02/2008 15:06

Oh and I think I covered the 'other child nearby who could take them' thing earlier. There is none, simple as that...

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Flllightattendant · 04/02/2008 15:07

Bitcat Oh if I only had a DH!!!!!

Gp nearby but at work, couldn't ask them again. But thanks all the same!

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FillyjonkisCALM · 04/02/2008 15:08

yes, we have loads of kids on this street, and if ds was at the local bog standard school , none of them could take him, simply because none of them happen to BE at the local school.

Rosylily · 04/02/2008 15:37

A few weeks back I woke up with a horrific migraine and I couldn't move. Ds1 age 16 had to take the day off to look after the three little ones

morningpaper · 04/02/2008 15:41

Xenia as you know, the main indicator for bad health is poverty

posieflump · 04/02/2008 15:44

sorry if this has already been said but
'if you are well enough to mumsnet you are well enough to take kids to school'

not meaning to be offensive but that definitely is how I would go about it

fryalot · 04/02/2008 15:48

sorry, posie, but I disagree.

There is a world of difference between sitting on the couch with your jamas on in front of the fire with a hot cup of cocoa in your hand whilst using the other hand to type one-fingered on a site that might make you feel a bit more like smiling and rousing yourself, a small boy and a tiny baby, getting all three of you washed, dressed and breakfasted before braving the weather and the rush-hour traffic in order to drop of said small boy at a school that he doesn't even have to attend till he's 5.

Mumsnetting is a piece of cake, getting dressed sometimes is like climbing everest

fryalot · 04/02/2008 15:49

(think I needed a tad more punctuation in that last post )

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Flllightattendant · 04/02/2008 16:00

Thanks Squonk, you're a wonderful friend on here

Posie, piss off. You are talking complete tosh. That just doesnt make any sense whatsoever.

Really actually very that you would make that implication.

Explain to me, then. Go on. Explain why it is just as easy and undemanding to drive a car full of kids in the rush hour when you feel drunk, and might as well be, as sitting at a computer and using your hands to type.

Go on. I'm waiting.

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posieflump · 04/02/2008 16:02

Blimey! Sorry really didn't mean to cause so much offence

I obviously got the wrong end of the stick.

I thought you didn't drive and your mum took your kids to school. But I must be thinking of someone else.

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Flllightattendant · 04/02/2008 16:04

I've just read the rest of this. So I'm being called poor, and lazy, and probably stupid as well.

That's it. I don't think I'm coming back this time.

Squonk I'm grateful, I'm crying now sorry I just didn't think people would be so bloody, bloody horrible.

Bye darling, sorry. Tell everyone I'm sorry.

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TheDuchessOfNorksBride · 04/02/2008 16:04

Provided you're not frequently too ill to drive then I don't think keeping a 4yo off school is a problem. If your DS has a bad cough he may well have had a disturbed nights sleep anyway.

Our school gives us the phone numbers of everyone in our classes - because it's used to notify everyone asap if the school is shut. The parents then embellish it with mobile phone numbers etc so we can call anyone in an emergency - too ill, car crash, too much wine at lunch etc.

I can't recommend it enough. And I live several miles away from everyone else but as we return school run favours, nobody minds the occasional jaunt out to us.

posieflump · 04/02/2008 16:05

no no don't go

we usually get on well here!!

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Flllightattendant · 04/02/2008 16:06

cross posted Posie, thanks, I'm sorry. Best I get off anyway.

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fryalot · 04/02/2008 16:06

FA don't go.

Please don't go.

Or if you are deffo going, cat me first so we can keep in touch.

(really, don't go, posie was mixing you up with someone else, and she has apologised)

for you

posieflump · 04/02/2008 16:07

phew, glad you're not cross with me!

fryalot · 04/02/2008 16:07

phew!

bozza · 04/02/2008 16:13

Could you not have gone in the taxi with DS? I really see why you couldn't send a 4yo alone in a taxi. I do think this is the sort of scenario which shows up attending the local school as being a big advantage.

bozza · 04/02/2008 16:14

Sorry posted that before I realised all the drama had started.

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