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norovirus has turned my life upside down - mears needs to offload

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mears · 10/01/2008 00:42

Unfortunately 90 year old Dad went down with it on 22 December - terrible watery diarrhoea and vomiting. Ended up admitted to hospital in the afternoon with dehydration. Mum then got it followed by me, DH, DD then 2 days later by DS3.

We all bounced back but Dad is still in hospital, still off his feet. We take turns to go up at meal times to encourage him to eat and drink but it is getting harder and harder. Nursing staff are looking after him well but they cannot be expected to sit for 1.5 hours to get him to take something like we do. He has Alzheimers and usually co-operates better for us.

Am now facing a huge dilemma. On Monday he was classed as medically fit but needing rehabilitation to regain mobility. Problem is he is getting sleepier and sleepier and eating and drinking less and less, therefore isn't awake enough to mobilise. Physios are going to work with him but can't come till the afternoon because the ward has been closed due to D&V since Sunday.

He was quite bright when he was on a drip and initially he wasn't allowed to drink because he was at high risk of aspiration because he sounded chesty. Then he was allowed thickened drinks which he didn't really tolerate. He couldn't be assessed for drinking at the weekend or over festive period as there was no speech and language therapists on duty, so it was 3 Jan before he was allowed to drink fluids. In that time his drip had tissued so he was behind in fluids really.

Is he not eating and drinking because he has given up or is it because he is dehydrated?

We are waiting for him to be transferred to a hospital closer to home for rehab, however the way he is looking today, he will never be able to get out of bed.

If that is the case, he may be better transferred to home with a care package but goodness knows how long that will take.

My nurse sister and I have decided to ask for him to be dripped again tomorrow to get fluid into him to rule out dehydration being the cause of his sleepiness and lack of eating and drinking. Don't know if the medics will agree however I do think there is life left in him.

He was fine till the D&V hit.

If he doesn't improve then mum wants him home and so would I, but I am not sure we can cope with the care needs. This is the very thing I dreaded happening to him. He has been in bed so long now I don't think we will get him up again. Don't want to see him languishing in a geriatric ward either.

Wish I had a crystal ball.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 12/01/2008 22:10

oh that's fab news!

MargoWishesYouAHappyNooNooYear · 12/01/2008 22:23

I'm glad he's on the up. My Great-Uncle was taken into hospital last year and deteriorated (suffered a mini stroke whilst in there) - so much that, at the last visit, I didn't expect him to last the weekend out. But he has recovered and is now living back at his retirement home.

I hope he continues to recover.

sallystrawberry · 12/01/2008 22:26

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jalopy · 12/01/2008 22:26

Great news, mears.

milge · 12/01/2008 22:30

So pleased to read he is improving.

yelnats · 12/01/2008 22:35

Hi just seen this thread. Nothing useful to add - just hope he continues to improve - thinking of you.

xx

fakeblonde · 12/01/2008 23:26

Hi
Have you had his blood picture-u+e`s ect.
I spent years on the eldery ward and was amazed at how an infection could totally confuse and debilitate an elderly person.
Its very important to check bloods reg so the corrct fluids can be given.
Hope he is improving x

suedonim · 13/01/2008 13:34

Oh Mears!

bossykate · 13/01/2008 17:28

wonderful!

mears · 14/01/2008 23:10

Quick update - he is continuing to improve

Very bright. Eating and drinking. Even stood with the physios today. Consultant is very pleased with him. His drip will probably stop tomorrow and he will go onto oral steroids.

Hopefully he will become more mobile and we can get him home. I am on holiday next week which would be ideal.

He is even asking about going home

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expatinscotland · 14/01/2008 23:12

mears, that's so good to read!

i'm so pleased for you and your family.

i hope he can come home for your holiday.

marina · 14/01/2008 23:17

I missed all of this somehow (darn work, eh ) but am so pleased for you that from such a grim-seeming prognosis your dad has recovered so well mears, really hope he is home again soon

hunkermunker · 14/01/2008 23:21

Oh, Mears, this is great news! Had missed this thread, but glad it's much happier than you thought it might be when you started it!

MrsJohnCusack · 15/01/2008 00:58

mears, that is fabulous news

sallystrawberry · 15/01/2008 01:14

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VanillaPumpkin · 15/01/2008 11:05

Yay!

mears · 15/01/2008 21:50

More good news - he walked a short distance with the physios.

He remains bright but is still on IVs.

He has been moved into a main ward tonight as they need the single room for someone who is poorly. I only hope it doesn't freak him out too much.

Once I know he can go from sitting to standing, walk a few steps then we will get him home by hook or by crook

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MargoWishesYouAHappyNooNooYear · 15/01/2008 22:39

such good news - keep getting better DaddyMears

NappiesGalore · 15/01/2008 22:46

no advice or exp to offer... but wanted to wish your dad, you and family well mears. glad its going so well atm and hope he continues to improve.

mears · 19/01/2008 01:02

Dad is coming home on Wednesday with a 'full package' as he has been assessed as unsuitable for rehabilitation. He has been assessed twice - the first time when he was really ill before the diagnosis of steroid dependency. The second time after he hadn't been given his oral dose of steroids after stopping the IV!

Anyway, I think if there is any chance of getting him mobilised it will be at home in his own surroundings.

The full package is hospital bed, biwave mattress, hoist and carers in 4 times a day.

It is going to be daunting but it is better than trailing up and down to the hospital to give him his meals.

Am knackered.....

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suedonim · 19/01/2008 02:05

I'm not surprised you're worn out, Mears. It sounds as though your dad's best chance is to come home; hope it all goes well.

expatinscotland · 19/01/2008 02:11

mears, lots of prayers of strength for you.

am up working late.

you're away from the degree programme now, i hope?

just wishing you well and your da the best from us in argyll.

hope you're not getting too bad gales as we are here.

mears · 19/01/2008 09:06

expat - I haven't formally stopped yet - I still have people encouraging me to continue by making it as simple as possible. Will decide next week what to do.

suedonim - I think his best chance is at home. If we find we cannot cope then we can review the situation.

Perhaps he is just waiting to get home.............

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