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[robinw]

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I think the hardest thing about death and dying/terminal illness is that it is difficult for everyone to accept that every memeber of the family, and the friends of the person who is ill is grieving and they will all have their own way of doing it. Some may show nothing; some may bury themselves in their work; some may worry about tiny details and others may cry from morning until evening and then through the night.

None of these processes is the right one and none of them is wrong either. It's a time of strain for everyone and a time when there needs to be a lot of understanding on all sides and yet it seems one of the hardest times for this to happen.

Good luck to you and all your family in getting through this. Don't fall out with anyone - it takes a long time to get over those harsh words, as we're still finding 2.5 years after my MIL's death.

robinw, know the feeling about it bringing all family divisions to the fore. Try to keep your temper, I know it's easier said than done though. All that grief and emotion has to go somewhere so I understand why families fight at times like tihs.

robinw, that's a dreadfully insensitive thing to say about cost: how would he feel if it was his (grown-up)kid weighing up whether to spend a few pounds on petrol?

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robinw so sorry I can't offer any useful advice.
If it's any consolation, my dh who really is a lovely person can be incredibly insensitive over very stressful issues. It is as if his kind reasoning brain switches off and he says stupid flippant things and it makes the situation much worse.
Hope this situation gets better soon.

Robin, how is your mum?

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Robinw, hope your mum is as comfortable as she can be, and that her wishes become clearer to you all.

I really feel for you , your mum and your family, it brings back many memories. I wish noone else had to go through it.

As for my son I am still waitimg. I am going to email his doctor tomorrow so I don't have to talk to his difficult secretary. His hip x ray was ok though, so his problems there are only due to his stiffness, which is good news. If there is no test for the genetic sd then it will be a case of watching and waiting unfortunately. It's an odd feeling hoping that ds does have cp. I bet not many people sit there wishing that for Christmas.

Bets wishes to you Robin, keep posting.

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Argh the dreaded nits! DD1 got them for the first time about 2 weeks ago at the age of 10 1/2! They have finally gone for good today, and luckily noone else in the family got them, but still a major hassle. I'm getting itchy now just thinking about it!

How's your mum Robin?

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Sorry to hear that. Hopefully your break will give you a bit more strength. Best wishes.

So sorry to hear that Robinw. I think you are doing the right thing going ahead with your hols and I hope you all have a relaxing and enjoyable time.

robinw, I was wondering about this too. Hope your holiday left you refreshed and better able to cope and sorry to hear this.

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I know all about jinxed holidays, robinw, but too long a story to post here now - involved stolen passports and an emergency hospital stay for dh. Glad you managed to enjoy yourselves and sorry to hear about your mother. Nice to see you back here

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robinw ... thinking of you ... XXX

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Oh robinw ... sorry to hear this ... hope you are coping ok ... thinking of you XXX

Sorry to hear this robinw.

Sorry to hear about your mum Robin, very best wishes to you and your family.