I’m 23 and I regularly wee myself (not a troll)

[FelicityBeedle]

I give in, I’ve had a shit bladder since I was a teen, peed myself a few times at school and often got damp pants from being too slow, but it’s getting worse and worse. Once I feel the need to go I get a few minutes to get to the loo or I’m fucked, I think it’s psychological because the minute I see the loo it’s even more urgent, not to mention the front door. I’ve always just dealt with it but I’ve just had to leave work pretending I’ve vomited as I’m soaked, they’re short handed and I feel awful but I don’t fit in the scrubs and had no pants. I’ve finally scheduled a doctors appointment but what’s wrong with me?

Also I’ve been doing kegels since I was a teen too

I have the same problem and I'm 22. I have to wear pads everyday and often leak through 😳
I've had this since childhood and recently went to GP, and had a bladder scan they couldn't see anything apart from bladder not emptying fully but I don't understand why I pee myself all the time, I feel like a baby.

I went to the GP aged 19 with this. And was told do more pelvic floor exercises, given a bladder scan which I was told was normal, so go away. The GP was horrible. I'm now 40, and have learned various ways to live with it (not going to detail here, as suspect weirdos will get wank fodder from it.)

I suspect it's a common problem, possibly related to hypermobilty or other issues. I suspect because it affects women, those who suffer will be shamed, rather than helped.

That’s interesting @Teael, while apparently not hyper mobile I score very highly on the testing for it

My DD suffers with this also (early 20's). Interestingly, she too is on the hypermobile spectrum.

She is awaiting an appointment with a consultant urologist. A previous bladder ultrasound was normal, and she has already tried bladder training exercises without much success (where you basically just try to hold on longer). I understand that there are various medications which can help, so we are hoping she can discuss these with the consultant. You should ask your GP about them.

Why dont you wear incontinence products?

You know you do this. You know it is regular. Embarrassment and inconvenience are easily soloved with incontinence pads. That will keep you dry while you ask for medical help.

I have urge incontinence and have done since I was a child. It has destroyed my confidence for years and the only thing that works for me is bladder Botox, it has genuinely changed my life.

My son had this as a young child and I was told to avoid caffeine and fizzy drinks. It seemed that his bladder had spasms, and certain food/drink made it worse. It might be worth trying to avoid caffeine and sweeteners?

@BeforeGodAndAllTheFish

Why dont you wear incontinence products?

You know you do this. You know it is regular. Embarrassment and inconvenience are easily soloved with incontinence pads. That will keep you dry while you ask for medical help.

Are you one of her GPs?

A little sensitivity would go down pretty well I'm sure

Op i think if you can get to see a urologist it would be really helpful.

I had issues with bladder urgency in my early 20s and managed to get referred to a consultant. They couldn't find anything wrong but did prescribe something which helped. After a while it got better and isn't a problem anymore.

Womens pelvic issues are not taken seriously much of the time.

The thing with the front door and seeing the loo is called latchkey incontinence, I have had stages of suffering with this and am going through a bout of it at the moment, I suspect from drinking too much caffeine and also I have got a pair of very demanding 1yo twins and no downstairs loo so I have (unconsciously) started to hold off going to the loo which also makes it worse. My pram doesn't fit through our front door and now every time without fail, as soon as I unlock the door I am desperate to go, but have to empty the pram, get them inside and restrained (always a drama) and then put the pram in the car. I find if I up my water intake it gets much more manageable.

@BeforeGodAndAllTheFish
Partly pride, partly only just admitting this is a real problem, partly it’s normally just a smaller amount so manageable and finally the cost of them, they’re extortionate

the main supermarkets do their own range; they're not that expensive.
better to have the reassurance.

be wary of writing too many details folks. strange people around late night.

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if it's slight, you can probably use ordinary sanitary pads, even cheaper.

There are resusable incontinence pads , which would work out cheaper in the long run. Forget Partly pride, partly only just admitting this is a real problem . Pride has no place in this situation - surely it's better to be prepared with a pad in place, than to wet yourself at work and have to pretend you've been sick .

I use a pad every day - normally they are not needed but when they are , I can remain confident It's not a case of normally just a smaller amount so manageable , it's a case of being prepared and knowing I'm fine all day no matter what happens. The cost is not great - if you're OK most of the time you only need one a day .

Pride is not a logical reason.

You'd rather walk around with urine dampened underwear? How is that for helping your pride? And you've had to leave work because of it. How was that for pride?

Look, we have period. We use sanitary products.
Have a weak bladder; use incontinence products.

It isnt embarrassing. I know you feel it is but it's just another thing about being human sometimes. No one will know. And you'll be dry and comfortable. That's much better than walking around with wet clothes and the smell floating around.

If it's just a small amount could you wear period pants rather than pads?

www.modibodi.co.uk/collections/pee?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIs6TA-tzq9gIViZntCh3F2AS6EAAYASAAEgKzYvD_BwE

Yep I have stress incontinence..again never seen the GP but I'm obese so I'm guessing it's my weight. And I wear period pants.
It's a big investment upfront but pads irritate me and sometimes leak. With period pants I don't have to worry and don't feel like I'm wearing anything.
Complete game changer.
But if you can't afford them the incontinence clinic when you are referred provide pads for free (at least in NI)

Pathetic I know, but I feel like I’m being treated a little harshly.
I don’t walk around damp, normally I’ll change whatever I need to, and I definitely don’t smell.
Maybe I will try pads, I haven’t used sanitary pads for years as they irritated me something shocking, period pants is an idea when I have some more cash. Thanks for all the helpful advice

Mark's and Spencer sell period pants for about £12. Makes it a bit cheaper.

Sorry if you feel you've been treated harshly but really, you've just had factual advice. On a thread like this, no one is going to share stories or talk all about it. Just due to all the trolls and perverts who could be reading it. That's not your fault and not a judgement on you, but no one wants to share stories about this. So to-the-point advice is all you'll get.

You really dont need to be embarrassed. And there is no need at all for you to be in damp clothes or have to change throughout the day or occasionally need to go home because of it. It is easily dealt with if you wear the correct products. Good luck.

Seriously, get referred for pelvic physical therapy, it will help.

I think all the people advising about incontinence/period pads/pants are somewhat missing the point. Whilst well meaning, it must be pretty demoralising for a 23 year old with this issue to be merely advised about how to avoid public accidents and not smell.

OP - there are actual solutions available. There are NICE guidelines on how GPs should deal with overactive bladder (or urge incontinence). You can look these up so that you are armed with the knowledge of what your GP should be doing for you. The first thing they have to try is bladder retraining. It does work for many people. Your GP can advise on the correct way to do this. They should also really send off a urine culture to check you haven't got a subclinical infection, and probably worth doing a chlamydia screen too.

If bladder retraining doesn't work, then there are various medications which can be tried which reduce the urge. If one doesn't work for you, another might.

If medication doesn't work, your GP should refer you to a urologist. They can advise on other courses of action open to you, for example the bladder botox a PP mentioned.

I hope your visit to the GP is helpful, and they at least start you on the exercises as a first step. And keep going back if you don't get anywhere - don't give up. Good luck.

@Teael

I went to the GP aged 19 with this. And was told do more pelvic floor exercises, given a bladder scan which I was told was normal, so go away. The GP was horrible. I'm now 40, and have learned various ways to live with it (not going to detail here, as suspect weirdos will get wank fodder from it.)

I suspect it's a common problem, possibly related to hypermobilty or other issues. I suspect because it affects women, those who suffer will be shamed, rather than helped.

Struggling to think of any ways of dealing with incontinence that would be good wank material 😹 I would like some ideas though. To help.