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Xp slurring his speech

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 10:12

He wasn't drunk either.

He came over to see the kids for a few hours yesterday and about 4 times whilst he was here he lost control of his tongue.

He said it just goes heavy in his mouth and he cannot speak properly.

I have told him to go to the doctors but he is male so won't.

Just wondered if anyone had any idea what it might be ?

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colditz · 30/12/2007 10:13

Has he been using nytol or similar? Any antihistamine?

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 10:14

Nope he never takes any medication at all, he'd rather be able to moan about it to someone lol.

It was very odd though, he couldn't string a sentance together at all. Each time it lasted for about 1 min and then went.

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Freckle · 30/12/2007 10:16

He may have had a minor stroke (transient ischaemic attack) which can leave ongoing problems. My dad has had a couple of these and he occasional slurs his speech or mixes up initial sounds (I told him yesterday that was like a toddler ).

I do think your exp needs to go to see a doctor. This may mask an underlying problem - my dad, it turns out, has an irregular heartbeat which means that blood is not being pumped consistently round his body, leading to small clots; it is these clots which are causing the TIAs. It is not something which he can just ignore.

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 30/12/2007 10:18

I would get him to go to a doctor PDQ.

With your luck(with him) it will be something serious and he will end back at your house sleeping on your sofa with you as a nurse maid.

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 30/12/2007 10:19

Ah Freckle has said what I was thinking.

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 10:22

He wouldn't Brie. As much as my kids love him, he has several other family members that are more than capable and of looking after him, I am not.

I did tell him to go to the doctors and he did joke that perhaps he'd had a stroke but he won't go, he never does. Unless he actually collapses he will not go.

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 10:23

Oh should of also mentoned that he keeps complaining about his vision, reckons that it is blurred. He has recently had an eye test and was given reading glasses (which he doesn't wear) but he said this is different and not just when he is reading.

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08aGreatYearForCarmenere · 30/12/2007 10:24

Well in that case ring one of his capable relatives and tell them your fears as he does need to be investigated. That said I can see why you don't need to be following him around urging him to get medical attention.

newnamefornewyearbookwormmum · 30/12/2007 10:25

I second what Freckle said - my Dad has had several TIAs (he had a full stroke 17 years ago but recovered 99%) and we think that he'd been sufferering from TIAs for some time before that, unbeknownst to us. better to get it sorted now than leave it.

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 10:25

I don't have any contact with his realtives, myself and my children no longer exist and I have no way of contacting any of them.

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BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 30/12/2007 10:25

I know you are up to your eyeballs but you are too nice to him sometimes and him moving back in was my worry. Glad to see you are getting stronger on the subject of XP.

How are you feeling BTW, I spent allllllllllllll day yesterday in bed and today is shaping up the same way. DH said now I know you are poorly, in 18 years together you have never taken to the bed.

Monkeytrousers · 30/12/2007 10:25

Go see the doctor - he can get into a radid access stroke clinic if the doc feels he has had a TSA

Monkeytrousers · 30/12/2007 10:27

Is he driving? Looking after the kids alone? Tell him he can't do any of these till he goes to get checked out!

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 10:28

I will tell him what everyone on here has said though. Well actually I won't say it is off here else he definatly won't listen.

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08aGreatYearForCarmenere · 30/12/2007 10:33

Print out this page and show it to him.

Actually I think you do need to really try to get him to a doctor as if he is seriously ill the consequences of ignoring it are too grim and you don't need that guilt in your life. Do everything you can and if he won't well at least you have tried.

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 10:36

No he isn't driving or looking after the kids alone.

I'm feeling alot better thank Brie, just about got my appettie back and starting to potter about the house a bit now. Really knocked me sideways though.
Hope you are feeling better soon, but bed is definatly the best place for you, all I wanted to do was sleep.

I will speak to xp later and tell him everything said on here, but i'd bet my life on him not going, he is such a child. I just refuse to get involved anymore, which sounds like I don't give a toss but he needs to grow up and sort himself out, he is 50 in Jan fgs.

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Mercy · 30/12/2007 10:38

Are you in touch with any of his friends?

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 10:41

Nope, I don't have any contact with any of his friends or family, he doesn't actually have friends tbh.

Will most doctors be open tommorow ?? His is different surgery to mine so I don't know.

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FairyTaleOfNewYork · 30/12/2007 10:42

i am also think TIA as well.

he should see someone ASAP.

Mercy · 30/12/2007 10:44

Yes, surgeries should be open tomorrow.

I'm no expert obviously but I think he needs medical advice today. Most Drs have an out of hours service of some kind.

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 10:45

Ok, thanks all, I will ring him and ask him to get seen for the kids sake, that might work depending on his mood today.

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FairyTaleOfNewYork · 30/12/2007 10:46

he really should see someone today.

remember peter has had several of these and one major one. which is still causing hinm problems now with his eyesight and memory.

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 11:29

I text him but he hasn't replied so will try ringing him in a mo.

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nutcracker · 30/12/2007 11:45

Right, have spoken to him and surprise surprise he wasn't that bothered and all of a sudden he reckons it is not so bad. He said it's just that the tip of his tongue goes numb for a bit.

So, I have told him, what he does now is up to him.

Men=Pillocks

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BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 30/12/2007 12:49

Nutty

The man is sitting on his brains.