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URGENT - ADVICE PLEASE RE FRIEND WHO HAS BEEN SICK...TRICKY SITUATION

39 replies

noonar · 21/12/2007 16:14

Hi. am having a dinner party for dh and 4 friends tonight. one of them has just told me that she vomitted during the night, but is still coming. we are having a fondue party. lots of dipping and sharing...so you can understand am concerned about catching this, esp so close to xmas.

my other friend was not bothered at all about my friend's revelation!

how do i handle this without causing offense. i dont want to be ill over xmas!

i do have a second fondue pot, could do a separate pot for her and her dh, maybe?? would this seem really rude??

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CarmenerryChristmas · 21/12/2007 16:17

change the menu?

mumofmonSTARsOfBethlehem · 21/12/2007 16:17

i would do a seperate one

crokky · 21/12/2007 16:18

might she have been sick due to alcohol/indigestion or something like that? Stress/overwork can make people sick as well? Did she give you any reason as to why she had been sick?

Original poster
noonar · 21/12/2007 16:18

ok, thanks. too late to change menu. no time to shop xx

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Original poster
noonar · 21/12/2007 16:19

she has a cold- dont mind about that. and ate crap greasy food earlier in the day.

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Magrat · 21/12/2007 16:19

tell her you're sorry but you want to re-arrange

there is a horrible vomiting bug going round

fondue eh?

ELF1981 · 21/12/2007 16:20

I have been sick several times over the past four weeks, but it has been a viral infection and hasn't affected anybody else (plus I was in hospital with it this weekend)

Magrat · 21/12/2007 16:20

what kind of fondue and why can't you change it into a pre-prepared meal?

what you got in then?

I like a challenge

Original poster
noonar · 21/12/2007 16:24

um, 40 oz of emmental and gruyere, altogether prawns and lote of other stuff...

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 21/12/2007 16:30

Tell her you are ill and have to cancel at the last minute.

I am a coward as you can tell.

ineedapoo · 21/12/2007 16:30

I would cancel her to be honest no way this close to Christmas

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noonar · 21/12/2007 16:31

oh gawd. she knows i'm not ill. have just walked to school with her.

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ineedapoo · 21/12/2007 16:32

your dh/dc could be struck down with a bug

FrostyGlassSlipper · 21/12/2007 16:34

Get DH to phone and say YOU have just been sick. So need to cancel

SpawnChorus · 21/12/2007 16:40

Get a takeaway instead.

TwinklyfLightAttendant · 21/12/2007 16:41

Yes apparently this whole d&v thing has attacked viciously and very unexpectedly according to a lot of my pals who have ahd it. You're fine one minute, then bang, toilet hugging.
Or say Dh has it.
Believe in your own fallacies, it is for a good cause! emetophobic speaking btw

CarmenerryChristmas · 21/12/2007 16:42

I would rush out and pick up some steaks and veg and have the cheese as a cheese board for afters.

smartiejake · 21/12/2007 16:43

I would NEVER go to a dinner party if I had
been sick this close to christmas, especially with so many tummy bugs around at the moment. Your friend is being very selfish IMO. I would definitely cancel.

mumofmonSTARsOfBethlehem · 21/12/2007 16:43

i have had the vomit side of this horrid bug. was sick once on one day then was fine but the day after that i was horribly sick and couldn't even keep water down!

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noonar · 21/12/2007 16:45

oh gawd

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MrsCarrot · 21/12/2007 16:48

There is no way on earth I would let them come for dinner at mine if she was ill last night, no matter how much she says its not a bug/phlemy throat/feeling better now or whatever.

Its Christmas in four days, you'd be mad. She must understand.

crokky · 21/12/2007 16:53

I am someone who is usually ultra cautious, but if I was host and she had only puked due to some greasy food, I wouldn't worry about it at all. [Disclaimer - as long as you are not pregnant and don't have teeny newborn]

I can't understand why I think this and everyone else thinks otherwise . Maybe I am not thinking straight! Mind you I am speaking as someone who is 24 weeks pregnant and still puking, so maybe sick doesn't bother me as much as other people.

ineedapoo · 21/12/2007 16:58

my ds vomited all xmas day a few years ago ruined the day for him. i really wouldn't risk it

VictorianSqualor · 21/12/2007 17:00

DP had this vomiting bug, it's horrid. I'd tell them to sod off tbh.

bahumbugpuss · 21/12/2007 17:03

Yes, dh ds2 and I caught the D&V bug two christmases ago from ds1 after he had been at a party with some school friends who had had it. Was not nice. I was going to say if it was a meat fondue then the hot oil would kill anything transferred via food but with a cheese fondue I would not risk it.

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