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To think dh should get this looked at?

51 replies

velvetcandy · 02/11/2021 23:58

Mole on his back has recently turned brown from pink and has an odd growth on it. Dh is refusing to see gp. Does it look okay and I’m being dramatic or not?

To think dh should get this looked at?
OP posts:
HollyandIvyandAllThingsYule · 03/11/2021 00:00

He definitely needs to get it seen.

DramaAlpaca · 03/11/2021 00:00

I agree. That needs to be seen.

Moonface123 · 03/11/2021 00:03

Always best to get it checked, for peace of mind.

Throckmorton · 03/11/2021 00:03

Any mole that changes colour should be seen ASAP by a GP. Ones with irregular edges, like that one, should also be seen ASAP. I think your DH needs to get his head out if the sand on this. Best wishes.

Summerdayshaze · 03/11/2021 00:05

Yes. ASAP.

Hamsteronrollerblades · 03/11/2021 00:10

It has changed colour and has irregular boarders so is a priority to be looked at. Why is he refusing? Fear or something else? He needs to do this as quickly as possible.

Original poster
velvetcandy · 03/11/2021 00:11

He’s too busy and I’m a nag apparently

OP posts:
endofagain · 03/11/2021 00:17

Definitely should be seen. Can you take a photo of it and send it to GP?

Hamsteronrollerblades · 03/11/2021 00:20

Well you could up the life insurance and leave him be or he could be less of an arse and check the nhs mole info which will tell him to get an assessment. There are drop in clinics or he could pay for a specialist appointment in his own time but he should be seen. Important business is less of a defence against cancer than he might hope. I do hope you aren’t carrying all the stress - a nag ffs. Wanker.

Peach01 · 03/11/2021 00:22

He needs to stop burying his head in the sand. It needs checked. If he's referred the assessment is very quick.

my8thMNusername · 03/11/2021 00:23

I had a mole change colour and it was fine (it's gone now, chopped out. It was my favourite mole). But still get it checked out!

Ijustknowitstimetogo · 03/11/2021 00:28

Absolutely. He will be given a fast referral for that one.

ittakes2 · 03/11/2021 00:29

Send photo to GP and ask for a referral.
Tell him skin cancer is very deadly - its spreads into the body.

Aquamarine1029 · 03/11/2021 00:31

Tell him to stop being such a fucking idiot and get to the gp. Remind him that he has a responsibility to his family to stay healthy.

WorraLiberty · 03/11/2021 00:32

I have too many moles that look exactly like that to even count.

But I get them checked regularly and he should too.

sunflowerroses · 03/11/2021 00:35

Yes he needs to be seen. I'm having treatment currently for melanoma and it's not pleasant but it's much more easily treatable if diagnosed early. I'll be ok but now I know more I realise how serious it is and it's not 'just' skin cancer. If you had a lump in your breast I'd bet he'd want you to get it checked and not delay.

amsadandconfused · 03/11/2021 00:36

It could be harmless but a few minutes of GP time could save many hours of consultant time.X

Gooseysgirl · 03/11/2021 00:51

He needs to stop being a dickhead and get that seen urgently.

Diversion · 03/11/2021 00:53

Please encourage him to get it seen. I have many, many moles and had a gynae appointment where the consultant was more worried about a mole on my thigh which had been there since birth and not changed than my gynae issues, they insisted it was removed and it was fine. I had another mole which my husband and a friend noticed had changed, they encouraged me to get it looked at, it was pre-cancerous and was removed and then I had to return for a further op as the margins were not big enough.

MissCruellaDeVil · 03/11/2021 00:55

Tell him you will be upping the life insurance policy if he doesn't get it seen as you might need it! Why are men so reluctant to see the doctor, I have to book my DH's appointments or he won't go.Confused

ItsNotNormalLove · 03/11/2021 01:01

Comedian Sean Lock died of cancer after having skin cancer in his 20s, the discovery of which he described as:

"I asked her what it looked like and she said it was a patch of skin which was black, misshapen, with a crusty texture and about the size of a 10p piece. "

from this article www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/sean-lock-hid-terminal-cancer-24787826.amp

I'd be very worried, I can't believe he's calling you a nag over something so potentially serious.

Snugglybuggly · 03/11/2021 01:01

If you have e consult online you can attach photos and send to GP. He/she will arrange appointment if necessary

Newhorizon21 · 03/11/2021 01:02

This is a useful guide. Hold a ruler beside the mole for scale when taking a photo

www.bad.org.uk/for-the-public/skin-cancer/melanoma-leaflets/abcd-easy-guide-to-checking-your-moles

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 03/11/2021 01:15

Life insurance premiums are more for unmarried men - I'll bet this kind of thing is why. He should make the most of the advice you're giving him!

Throckmorton · 03/11/2021 12:05

Blimey, he'd risk dying rather than make an appointment? Because that mole screams potential melanoma.

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