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if she doesn't stop crying in the next few minutes then I am going to

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AnAngelWithin · 21/11/2007 16:25

really bloody scream and shout and end up crumbling in the corner a complete gibbering wreck dd2 (21 months) fell off the sofa on friday and hit her head and ever since then she has done nothing but cry, and scream, day and night. I haven't had more than 2 hours of sleep per night ever since. I took her to the doctors on monday and they said that she hasn't had any trauma from the fall apart from maybe a headache, and that she has got a bug, having a temp of 40.1. It took me 20 minutes just to get a third of a sample bottle of urine from her nappy. They said if she is no better by the end of the week to take her back, but what do they mean by no better? she seems to have got over the fever, but shes still not eating, and all shes doing is sodding crying, following me around everywhere. clinging to be and to put it bluntly, i've f*cking had enough of it. I'm sat here sobbing cos I can't get her to shut up unless shes sat on my knee. I know it sounds so selfish of me, but I really don't know what to do with her. Shes stood here next to me now with her head wedged between my leg and the arm of the chair. if i dare move more than an inch away from her she will follow me sobbing uncontrollably. DS2 isn't very well either, but I feel like I am neglecting him a bit because I am trying to shut dd2 up so he can rest. I need to go and do tea. The others won't want pasta or beans on toast AGAIN, and they all need bathing because I didn't get chance to do it last night. bad bad bad mummy i am

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RubySlippers · 21/11/2007 16:29

not a bad mummy at all

if she doesn't seem herself then she may still be recovering from the bug or not over it. It can take children longer to get over things that adults IME

can you give her some calpol? Does she still have a fever

FWIW, when my DS is poorly he turns into a clingon, although when he is well he will happily ignore me

do you have someone, anyone that can pop in and help you to get through teatime?

AnAngelWithin · 21/11/2007 16:31

i have given her calpol. religiously since we went to the docs and he told me to give it to her. i have nobody to come and help til dh gets home about 6.30

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dd666 · 21/11/2007 16:31

your a great mummy just have some faith i think dd 18mo got bug she has one nothing but cry and whinge yest we resorted to strapping her into buggy and left in room by herself

Kathyis6incheshigh · 21/11/2007 16:32

Can you put her in her cot for a couple of mins and close the door? She won't come to any harm and it will give you a chance to breathe.

CristinaTheAstonishing · 21/11/2007 16:33

You've had a hard few days, AAW. Could you make it easier on yourself tonight by skipping baths and having an earlier night?

lennygirl · 21/11/2007 16:33

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RubySlippers · 21/11/2007 16:33

i can't offer anything other than sympathy - I wish i could

we all have days like that

shrinkingsagpuss · 21/11/2007 16:33

and breathe.

I take it you've dosed her up on calpol and cuprofen?

I take it you have 4 all together? Can they "help" with cooking? Jackets pots with cheese and beans? You can do the pots in the microwave?

Pasta with grated cheese and apple and ham.......

As for the obsessed toddler - its horrible isn't it? My DS went through a bit of a phase like that at the same age, drove us to distraction. Will she even sit for a TV programme? If her temp is 40 still then you should see a GP - get them out, explain you have 4 kids and that she suffred a head injury - play it up and they will come out - even if you have to exagerate a bit.. sorry re read OP - her temp is better - doesn't mena she hasn't got a rotten throat, or sinusistus (Spell?) - give her the max pain killers you can, snuggle her with Cbeebies and a favourite toy, promise her the world so you can get your 5 minutes.

You poor thing, hope it all imporves a bit soon. Can anyone take the kids to give you some sleep? What about their Dad? Is he useful?

AnAngelWithin · 21/11/2007 16:34

i put her in her cot earlier and she ended up retching she was screaming so hard. will feel bad if i skip their baths. they didnt have one last night either.

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lennygirl · 21/11/2007 16:34

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SpacePuppy · 21/11/2007 16:34

Is it possible he feels a little unsure about herself after the tumble? That maybe she is after your reassurance?

If I was you I would take her back, did they x-ray her, is it possible she might have hurt herself more than the doctors feel?

She might also be picking up on your feelings at the moment causing a vicious circle, would you be able to pack them up and go for a quick stroll to get some fresh air? I feel often ds just needs a change of scenery.

lennygirl · 21/11/2007 16:35

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EmsMum · 21/11/2007 16:36

Poor you. Poor DD and DS.

Do pasta or beans again, whatevers easiest - you've more than enough to cope with, without making anything harder. Good mummy to be even thinking about what they might want to eat!

pukkapatch · 21/11/2007 16:36

get a freind or family memeber to come over and spend time with your kdis if at all posisible
order pixxa or, dpeending on how old you r eldest child is, get them to do tea. i know ds aged 10 has been capable of doing this for many years now. (someting from the freezer bunged in the over)

AnAngelWithin · 21/11/2007 16:37

no they didn't x-ray her. I have just got to sit it out i guess and just ring them tomorrow if she's no better. ds1 is deliberately pissing everyone off as well. just cos he can.

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mazmack · 21/11/2007 16:39

She couldn't be getting nasty molar teeth through as well could she? I work for a dentist..my DD is only 1 but my boss is always going on already about how painful the molars will be and what a hard time I will have when they come in, and they come in between 20 and 24 months. That isn't much help I know though, and I know it's easy to put everything down to teething!

pukkapatch · 21/11/2007 16:46

did the doctor examine her properly?
sometimes it is better to get a second opinon.
ds fell down the stairs at 11 months. the doctor took one look a tme, young mom, first baby, and decided i was just being nurotic. he didnt examine ds. four hours after the fall, i'd had enough, and took him to a&e. they x rayed him, but even before the results were through, they looked at me accusingly to say why hadnt i brought him in sooner. they could see there was something wrong with him, because they examined him. the gp hadnt.
so get a second opinoin.

AnAngelWithin · 21/11/2007 16:48

the doc listened to her heart and chest, flashed a light in her eyes and checked her neck. i don't know what a proper exmaination would entail?

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AnAngelWithin · 21/11/2007 16:56

thats it. im crying

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mazmack · 21/11/2007 17:01

Surely they should have Xrayed her?

mazmack · 21/11/2007 17:01

and I am sorry you are crying..have been there,...remember..it will pass!! is horrendous at the time but it will pass!

NAB3littlemonkeys · 21/11/2007 17:02

I think your daughter needs another check. If she has been crying since the fall and hasn't settled you need to get her checked out again.

AnAngelWithin · 21/11/2007 17:03

i dont konw. but she fell off onto laminate flooring and made her head bleed. only a small cut but it scared the likfe out of me because in the time it took for me to get to her, it was running down her head and she had rubbed it in her eyes. i thought the worst when i first saw her!!

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gizmo · 21/11/2007 17:06

AAW - has her personality seriously changed since the fall? Or is she often a bit clingy?

If it's the former, I would really advocate calling up your DP and getting him home NOW, while you take her to A&E to get checked out. At the very least it will mean that you get out of the house with only one to worry about.

Dropdeadfred · 21/11/2007 17:07

I feel sorry for her...she sounds like she has been really frightened by the whole thing...i would go to a & e with her

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