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Fluid back in Dh's abdomen, this means the drug ttreatments have stopped working

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Blandmum · 02/10/2007 14:11

Dh has been in increasing pain. the last CT scan showed no-regrowth of the tumours but the pain has been increasing so the consultant sent him for an ultrasound.

there is fluid back in the abdomen, not a lot, but this is a strong indication that the drugs have stopped working. There are no other treatments available, other than something in clinical trials which might buy us a month.

The consultant has sent us away for a months holiday from the drugs and will review the case them. But in reality I feel that she is just doing this to break us in gently.

We knew it would happen at some point. Still so hard to deal with.

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FoghornLeghorn · 02/10/2007 14:40

So sorry MB Although you were expecting it at some point will not make it any easier to deal with

bumperlicious · 02/10/2007 14:40

mb, i'm so sorry for what you and your family are going through.

HuwEdwards · 02/10/2007 14:42

MB, my heart goes out to you all.

SharpMolarBear · 02/10/2007 14:43

so sorry to hear this mb

CastsSpellsWitchySpells · 02/10/2007 14:44

Oh MB . After so many positive messages from you throughout the year, it is to find that the 'good' news is running out.

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Blandmum · 02/10/2007 14:47

We already get to see the macmillan nurse, who is fab and very supportive.

We also have access to councelling, as and whenwe request it. Dh is seeing a psychologist to reduce his stress (re the drug treatments, which are now seemingly redundant)

In the end we accepted all of this last year. We have always been aware that there is no cure available for this cancer, the 5 year survival rates hover at around 1%, and that is normaly for people who had it identified while still confined to the pancreas.

Our finaces are in order, the children's education has been sorted. We have done lots of goodbys. We have sort of done the angry bit. Now we just have the resignantion. The only person who doesn't eyt know is ds, dd was told a little wile ago and has been astonishingly brave about it all.

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ahundredtimes · 02/10/2007 14:51

You've all been brave. And there is 'accepting' and there is 'accepting' isn't there really.

Piggy · 02/10/2007 14:53

I cannot imagine how hellish this is for you MB. You and your dh and dc are so amazingly brave. We are all here for you.

Dinosaur · 02/10/2007 14:54

I am sorry, martianbishop.

FWIW, my friend who had cancer was offered the possibility to trial a drug but she did not take it up, she just decided to spend the time she had left with her family and friends and enjoy quality of life so far as possible.

SpawnChorus · 02/10/2007 14:54

Oh MB, this must be so hard to get your head around, even if you have been 'preparing' for it. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for another long run of good news.

Tamum · 02/10/2007 14:54

Oh mb, what can I say. I know you were expecting it but I don't suppose that makes it any easier, does it. I wish you and dh all the strength and love in the world.

Bundle · 02/10/2007 14:54

mb, do try for specialist help with the children, we had some really bad news recently and I've got numbers of local bereavement counsellors for kids on hand. When my dad died last year, I was surprised that he and mum had talked about lots - the funeral, the will, end of life care, DNR, etc. It does help, the practical stuff. xxx

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Blandmum · 02/10/2007 14:55

It is already in place, bundle, The concellors have met up with the kids already. The school also knows and are being exceptionally supportive

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Tamum · 02/10/2007 14:56

mb, just also sending all motherinferior's love too, as she can't post from work.

toomanydaves · 02/10/2007 14:57

Mb, so sorry. Another emoticon hater, but so
. I hope you can have some special times over the next few weeks. Love and strength.

MaryAnnSingletomb · 02/10/2007 14:57

I have nothing to add but wanted to say how much I admire your courage and the fact that you carry on offering good advice on threads on mumsnet all through this - I send you my very best wishes xxxx

IdrisTheDragon · 02/10/2007 15:01

I am very for you mb. I hope that all your family can have some very special times together.

policywonk · 02/10/2007 15:01

Very sorry to hear this mb. Is it Avastin that they are talking about?

kindersurprise · 02/10/2007 15:01

So sorry to hear about your bad news. Thinking of you and your family.

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Blandmum · 02/10/2007 15:02

No it isn't avastin , but tarceva (sp? I have it written down somewhere)

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BrassicMonkey · 02/10/2007 15:04

I'm heart sorry for you all MB

Bundle · 02/10/2007 15:04

that's good news, that the school are being so good mb.

is there anything else you'd all like to do, as a family?

and is the pain being managed better now?

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Blandmum · 02/10/2007 15:06

We have done a lot of things. Mostly I'd just like to grow old with him, but that isn't going to happen.

If he is well enough we might go (just the two of us) to Paris at half term, it will be out 20th wedding aniversary.

But we will see

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Tamum · 02/10/2007 15:06

Tarceva well worth a try IMHO, but agree it has to be his decision.