A big blob of really thick jelly like stuff just came out of me. What is this??!!

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Been having cramps for a couple of days, although not due a period.

Went to loo and felt something 'there' , got a tissue, and saw a big blob of jelly come out my vagina. It's a little cloudy but mostly clear, about the size of my thumb or bigger. No smell. Thick like jellyish.

Cramps worse after it came out.

I'm not seriously worried or anything, just what the is this?? Does anyone know??

I would just say it’s build up of discharge that’s come out together after your BM. I’ve had it before too.

Well he could always use the old 'two bricks' routine. (vasectomy)
If he really does not want another and there is nothing effective that you can do, then surely this is the only option?

My ovulation cramps are worse than my period pains. I get a lot of jelly like mucous just prior to and during ovulation

Not keen on him being angry when using such a risky method- why doesn’t he get a vasectomy? Doesn’t sound much fun for you OP if you can’t even change position....

You're ovulating. Don't have sex for a week or so, unless you actually want a baby.

Hopefully, Jellybeans.

@Bluetrews He point blank refuses to get a vasectomy. He won't even go to a doctor for anything, won't get a blood test etc etc. Think I've been sticking my head in the sand. I'll try look for other options than withdrawal that I've not tried, although don't think there are any.

Going to take paracetamol for the cramps.

What about trying a cervical cap or femidons?

He would have no justification for being angry in the event of accidental pregnancy when the most straightforward solution would be a vascectomy. I would suggest sterilisation, but I think it would be unreasonable for you to go through surgery if he won't even consider it

I'm betting it's just ovulation, op. The cramping and thick mucous support that. Do you feel extra horny too? They're all signs.

I had that when I went into labour.. I don't think I've had anything like it since.

Sounds like it's a common occurrence though!

I get that when I'm ovulating. It's not like normal discharge - it's like a really thick blob that I wouldn't be able to pull apart. It's never bothered me as it happens so regularly. I wouldn't worry.

You’re basically having unprotected sex so of course you could be pregnant

The only time I've had period cramps after a big blob of mucus, I was pregnant and in labour.

Oh, dear...
Any thoughts on female condoms? Might be better.
Or at worst diaphragm plus speemicide.

But, ultimately, he's OK with you getting pregnant or having an abortion but not a vasectomy?
You could refuse point blank to have his dick near your vagina, you know?

Oh good grief.
Well, if he's not man enough to have a minor op, then how about you getting sterilised?
Is he able to keep the home fires burning while you are out of action?

I also don’t take any hormonal contraceptives, but we use condoms every single time when I don’t want to get pregnant. Sterilisation or vasectomy might be the only options then. Maybe he could try hypnotism or something for the fear of medical procedures.

We used the withdrawal method for years, had no problem getting pregnant when I wanted to. I get these jelly lumps too and cramps at random times during the month. I also have PCOS.

He’d be angry if you get pregnant but won’t consider a vasectomy even though contraception causes problems for you.

With an attitude like his then abstinence would be my chosen method of contraception.

Sounds to me like what I got when I was ovulating when trying for a baby. I never really got the discharge you describe or the pain when I was on birth control, only when I was off it. Also got a sharp stabby pain on one side which I assume was my ovary releasing an egg (so reckon I can tell you which side my DS was conceived from! )

Maybe that?

Was it slightly bloody? If so really does sound like labour to me!!

I've just seen your updates.

If you've tried all birth control and can't find one that suits you and he can't use condoms then he needs to get a vasectomy, particularly if he's the one who is most against having another child.

If he won't, he has no business getting angry if you fall pregnant again, which you very well might using the withdrawal method, especially with irregular periods.

It's the risk he's choosing to run and I suggest you lay that out bluntly for him.

Definitely see a gp to check for pregnancy.
Don't want to scare you but if you're over 35 you're more likely to have a small bump, or if you're a bit heavier than you were with previous DC if may be less noticeable?

I get that when I’m ovulating.

I hadn't considered the cap, haven't heard of it for years. I remember when I was a Kid going through my aunt's bedroom drawers and finding one and wondering what it was. Only time I've ever seen one!! I'll look into this right now actually. Silly I never even thought of that.

Yes it's exactly like a thick blob which it's difficult to pull apart.

Cramps still.

Never been in labour (c sections) but I am 99.9999999999% sure I'm not in labour. I've had heavy periods past few months and no preg signs or huge bump like I had with DCs.

He is unreasonable tbh. I just kind of accept that's how he is. We used to argue a lot and I can't be bothered arguing now unless it's really big stuff. He does have proper fears of medical procedures though.

I'm not getting sterilisation because I'm still in early 30s and unsure if I want another. Part of me does, part of me doesn't. He definitely does not, he would be horrified and I highly doubt he'll change his mind.

I'm hoping that since the withdrawal except when bleeding method has worked for years, that it is just ovulation.

Looking into the cap method now as I think that would suit me. No hormones, likely no constant pains like the coils. Does it cause BV or infections like thrush, and can I use it if previously had a minor changes on smear. Going to look it up.

Sounds like ovulation to me. Totally normal for me.

I had this a few years ago. I wasn’t pregnant and never really figured out what it was. I didn’t have cramps though...:that’s a little worrying