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something came out of my vagina recently and im scared.

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Scaredvm · 15/04/2020 18:51

Okay context ,me and my bf had our fair share of sexual stuff but never penetration in the vagina. I hadnt met him for 3 months now (we're long distance) and we had anal sex before he went back.

Recently i had notice something was sticking out of my vagina, it felt long and fleshy(around 2 inch and a half long, only 1cm ish wide). It only comes out when i need to use the toilet and went back in afterwards. I panicked( of course) because it was not there before. I masturbate using my fingers so i felt what my vagina felt like. It was never there before. I tried searching online for it, but couldnt find an explaination. Please help. I cant go to the doctors yet due to covid 19 and i would have to alert my parents about it . It may not be a problem in the western world but im in a conservative asian country 😅 my parents had no idea that i had sexual relations with my bf and will for sure disown me if they knew. Will i be okay if i wait for a few more weeks?

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BryanAdamsLeftAnkle · 15/04/2020 18:58

Could be a prolapse? You need to make an appointment with a medical professional

Elsiebear90 · 15/04/2020 19:00

Sounds like a prolapse.

Ohohohwhereyougoing · 15/04/2020 19:01

Sounds like a prolapse, but you sound young?

CottonSock · 15/04/2020 19:02

Decidual cast? I'd never heard of it until mumsnet. Or a prolapse

CottonSock · 15/04/2020 19:03

Or tampon?

ShleeAnKree · 15/04/2020 19:05

Oh no, you poor thing. I can't believe you had anal sex rather than normal sex. I think you should go to the doctor and tell them. They are telling people with covid to stay away so that they can continue to see all the other patients. They will have heard it ALL before. I'm 50 and I remember 33 years ago a friend told me that she had anal sex because she wanted to remain a virgin. I was baffled by it tbh but doctors will definitely have heard it ALL before. IF you're young and he's young, he probably wasn't experienced enough to be gentle enough not to hurt you!

ShleeAnKree · 15/04/2020 19:06

Oh sorry, I missed that you're in an Asian country.
Go to the doctor and just describe the symptoms!

BarefootHippieChick · 15/04/2020 19:11

A prolapse can usually be pushed back up with a finger. If it only comes down when you go to toilet it could be a bladder prolapse. You do sound young, and tbh prolapses usually happen to older women who have given birth. You really need to see a medical professional.

ACertainSupermarket · 15/04/2020 19:12

Is anal sex more normal in your culture, or safe contraception hard to obtain?
It sounds like a prolapse, which can often be caused by straining on the toilet. Look up exercises that can help.

SylvanianFrenemies · 15/04/2020 19:12

It does sound like a prolapse.

It's easy to damage your body with anal sex. Don't do it unless you really want to.

If you need to tell your parents, just tell them you have a cyst or something, or really bad haemorrhoids.

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Scaredvm · 15/04/2020 19:25

Im 22 years old. Too old to still be staying at home, i know. But yeah, im in asia. I was thinking of doing to the doctors myself once i can go back to my college. But i cant go soon as the whole country is under movement control order probably until the end of may.
My bf has been gentle with me during sex, it doesnt hurt. Thank you for your concern. In a way i was "saving" myself for marriage. Stupid i know 😅
I also would like to mention i've had irregular periods for years now but my mum had refused to take me to the doctors as im not getting married yet (she told me this years ago, probably when i was 14 or 15). So i might just be scolded for having sexual relations and still would not be taken to the hospital (strict asian parents :/)

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Scaredvm · 15/04/2020 19:28

**going to go to the doctors myself

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crosspelican · 15/04/2020 19:30

Honestly, I would tell your Mum that you have a private gynae issue and you're really concerned BUT I would absolutely leave out the sexual activity aspect - you absolutely don't need to mention it. If they ask if you have had sex with your boyfriend you just say no. They're unlikely to be related, but even so, that conversation is for your doctor's ears only.

You really do need to go to the doctor. Normal visits to the doctor are fine and permitted even under lockdown where you are, I'm sure. I would say this is pretty urgent, but I am not a medical professional.

Angellegna · 15/04/2020 19:31

Decidual cast.

There’s a thread about these every fortnight.

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Scaredvm · 15/04/2020 19:32

It only protrudes out of my vagina when i poop but it went back inside afterwards. But i can still feel it inside my vagina when i put my finger in my vagina, like a 2.5 inch long tube that's blunt at one end. Im not in pain whatsoever which freaks me out more because i dont know if it's dangerous or not.

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crosspelican · 15/04/2020 19:32

my mum had refused to take me to the doctors as im not getting married yet

You were a child then though, you are an adult now. You can literally say "I have some very very private symptoms, and I have researched it and it could be a bladder prolapse and I need to go to the doctor urgently." You don't necessarily have to cast it as sexual, if you see what I mean?

ALSO do you have access to a service like Babylon Health where you are? You could get an initial consultation online and take it from there.

SmellyBeard · 15/04/2020 19:34

Could it be your cervix? Have you googled?

Imboredinthehouse · 15/04/2020 19:48

It only protrudes out of my vagina when i poop but it went back inside afterwards
Firstly - how are you aware of this? Is it just by sensation or also by sight/touch?

Secondly-
Could it be your cervix
Eh?

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 15/04/2020 19:49

Probably your cervix but put your mind at rest and see a doctor, you can come up with an excuse to your parents to go on your own. Even if it is a prolapse it’s not related to sex so no need to tell them anything about yours Ed life

KenzoBaby · 15/04/2020 19:50

Poor you. I hope you are using condoms when having anal sex?

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Scaredvm · 15/04/2020 19:53

@Imboredinthehouse
I felt it first when i was cleaning up and see something protruding out. Been freaking about about this for a few days now 😅

Thank you to all that had responded. I'll consider my options .

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VivaLeBeaver · 15/04/2020 19:53

I wondered if it was your cervix, they can prolapse sometimes. Just tell your mum you have a lump and need to see a doctor?

flomp · 15/04/2020 19:55

It could be a cervical polyp - they can get quite long and protrude down from your cervix - like a fleshy, soft wormy thing. Best see a doctor.

sergeilavrov · 15/04/2020 19:59

Is conservative asian country Saudi or UAE? If so, there are doctors that will help you discretely and without risk. If you are in either country, PM me and I'll connect you to the appropriate people. Please try not to worry. Another option may be telemedicine, though this will cost money and can make getting your prescription filled (if needed) difficult. As you haven't had vaginal sex, it's not relevant to the case notes so you can just say you noticed when you were on the toilet if you choose to see a local doctor.

Please don't worry, everything will be okay. I entirely understand not wanting to tell your parents given the nature of your situation, and you don't have to do that if you don't want to.

Tulipstulips · 15/04/2020 20:01

Sounds like it’s your cervix and a uterine prolapse to me.i had a rectocele and it wasn’t like that.