Cancer support thread #74 - come in, we're here for you.

[Hippiechick162]

Welcome to the new support thread for anyone who has cancer, at whatever stage of treatment, is worried about symptoms, or is waiting for tests or results.

This is the place to worry, moan, ask questions, share experiences and good and bad news, and celebrate milestones!

If you've got a loved one with cancer then your best place for support is probably on the Life-Limiting Illness board.

Our previous thread iswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/3760336-Cancer-support-thread-73-come-in-were-here-for-you

Current members, please do introduce yourselves smile

[peaceanddove]

I'm starting to panic that I might end up needing chemo. My surgeon said it was unlikely, but does anyone know how often they change their mind? Mine is grade 2, IDC but only 8mm. The surgeon removed 300g of breast tissue inorder to give me a therapeutic reduction mammoplasty and I reckon I've gone from a G cup to a D/E?

[CointreauVersial]

That must feel so good, @Zorgothslugofdoom, ticking off that milestone. Hope you'll start feeling better soon, onwards and upwards! I never got to ring the bell, as my last two treatments were in a different hospital, and I didn't really know anyone; I just slunk out of the door.

[Bloodybridget]

@Zorgothslugofdoom congratulations on finishing chemo!
@BrowniesAreSuper hope your surgery went well yesterday and that you are reasonably comfortable now.
@peaceanddove that was a horrible thing for your aunt to do. How likely is it that your cousin will keep her mouth shut, if you ask her to?
I'm a bit fed up because I got a letter today saying my first three month check up had to be postponed for a week - it should have been next Wednesday. The new date is when we're going away for a few days, so I phoned and got them to make it the week after that (they only have the clinic on a Wednesday). So that's kind of ok, but I did want to get it over with - and now, right on cue, I've got abdominal and back pain, and slightly misbehaving bowels - probably psychosomatic, or maybe some little indisposition . . fuck it.

[Hippiechick162]

Awww @Zorgothslugofdoom that's fantastic news! Congratulations.

[digerd]

BOF I have 3 of the grabby sticks one with a magnet on the end I supposed to catch fallen on the floor pins, hair grips, paperwork head caps/hats, flannels etc, but when ever I need one I can't find any of them
I have rather deformed arthritic fingers/thumb joints and am forever dropping things. After 33 days of Radiotherapy lying on that torture rack of a bed, bending is agony to pick anything up from the floor and even the toilet lid which I visit 10 times in the night, so made the horror of horror of leaving the lid up.
You have a diamond of a DH and brought a tear to my eyes as remember my terminal DH doing special things for me 23 years ago

[digerd]

Just had my biopsies results and they couldn't find any cancer remaining in my bladder and no evidence of spread to other organs.
Poor DD who has been running me around to hospital treatment and chasing up the appts which were delayed cried and i was still moaning about being left partially incontinent, agonising back pain, no proper sleep for several months and none foreseeable. And upset that DD is so emotional and I am being a bit crabby about the whole thing.

Will be seen again in 6 months for another Cystoscopy while awake
to check for recurrance which is likely- or as DD said" MAYBE, mum"
My eyes are now filling up not for me but for DD., bless her as I am all she's got apart from friends.

Good luck to everybody. I still have an appt with Oncologist next month., though.

[yoikes]

Dearest hippiechick
Will be thinking of you tomorrow and am sending all good vibes I've got xxxxxx

[redspook]

That's good news @digerd, however I get why you feel like you're being crabby about it. Unlike how it's portrayed in the tv adverts, it isn't all happy hugs and tears but rather another step on the road. At least this is a positive one.
I will also be thinking about you tomorrow @Hippiechick162.
How are you, @Robstersgirl? I've been thinking about you and sending good wishes.
Bugger the bowels, @Bloodybridget, hope they are settling down and the pain is decreasing.
I have an appointment for another MRI on the 13th. My consultant wasn't happy that he couldn't give me the all clear at my last appointment, so this will be to get some more definitive answers. I'd go every week if necessary, but wish that the department would have the facility to listen to music during the scan because they seem to last forever.

[Trumpton]

I will be thinking of you tomorrow @Hippiechick162
I spoke to Wythenshaw today and will be there on Monday .

[Hippiechick162]

Thanks guys! Had the isotope injection today...very fetching colour.
Also had a phone call about life insurance and explained that I have it and wont be able to change for a while because I have cancer. He said ok and put the phone down, 5 minutes later I got a text message stating they had been told my situation and that they have a plan I can get...............a funeral care plan! Bloody cheek. I ended up laughing because it was a blatant ballsy sale but somebody else might have really struggled with that.
Good luck to all whatever you are doing/having done. I'll be back in a couple of days to let you know xx

[Robstersgirl]

I’m beyond devastated. It’s 3c cervical cancer and I have been arranging my babies funeral today as she has to be terminated on Friday. It’s spread to my lymph nodes and is inoperable. They need to start chemo ASAP. I can’t cope. They can’t deliver her normally as the cancer is everywhere so they need to take her from the top of my stomach. The emotional pain is unbearable. My poor little girl. I have 5 kids. Either we both died or she did.

[Trumpton]

Oh Robster , there are no words .
Stay with us and we will do all we can to hold your hand during this dreadful time .

[romola]

@Robstersgirl I'm so sorry to hear your news. Sending you love.
X

[Hippiechick162]

@Robstersgirl there are no words I can say to ease your pain. Here if you need to vent. Please be gentle with yourself. Much love xx

[Brassica]

@Robstersgirl I am so, so sorry. That is the most devastating news on every front, and it must be unbearable to face. Do you have someone close to you who you can lean on? I do hope so. We’re all here to listen if you need to talk. God bless you and your little girl. Thoughts are with you

[Bloodybridget]

@Robstersgirl I am so very sorry. Wishing you strength and comfort at this terrible time.

[Squiffy01]

@Robstersgirl I was thinking if you today and awaiting your update. I am so very sorry it is such a devastating one. None of us can say anything to make you feel better but we are here.
I am so sorry.

[peaceanddove]

I am so so sorry to read this @Robstersgirl. I don't have any words, but I am thinking of you both x

[redspook]

I'm so sorry @Robstersgirl.
Sending you strength and hope that you have real life support to help you through this nightmare.
We are all here x

[Nonotmenori]

@Robstersgirl I am so sorry. We are all here for you hand holding xx

@Hippiechick162 Good luck today I'll be thinking of you xx

[BitOfFun]

@Robstersgirl, I wish there was something, anything, I could say to give you even a scrap of comfort, but of course I can't. I am holding you in my heart though, and sending so much love .

[Sooverthemill]

@Robstersgirl I'm so very sorry. There are no words. Arranging your dear baby's funeral is something nine of us should have to do. The hugest of hugs and sending love

[meercat23]

Robstergirl. So very sorry to hear what you are going through. There are no words that could possibly help but if you need to offload outside real life I have found the lovely people on this thread to be so supportive.

[WTF99]

Robster....so sorry to read your update. I can't imagine how you must be feeling.
Thinking of you lots.

[Piggles39]

@Robstersgirl oh no I am so sorry to hear that. Will be thinking of you and your little girl