HPV - Partner gave it to me on purpose.

[thewinterqueen]

Hi ladies,

So my girlfriend has recently informed me that she has the HPV virus, but failed to mention it before we'd slept together. I suffer from bad endometriosis, so am going to an emergency doctors appointment today, but I feel awful. I feel like she should have told me, and that she's purposely deceived me. I'm torn between ending the relationship or not - thoughts?

So my doctor has said it’s a big deal and he was the one who booked the emergency appointment. Not me.

So my doctor has said it’s a big deal and he was the one who booked the emergency appointment. Not me.

That’s very strange. I am a (non practising) doctor. No way I’d have booked someone an emergency appointment for suspected HPV exposure.

What did they say to you at the appointment?

I stand corrected and my friend tells me if you have sex with someone with HPV and they have the warts it can be passed on skin to skin too.

OP this person didn't care about your sexual health and has given you a disease that will never go away, even if it goes dormant and increases your risk of further diseases.

HPV can go away.

Awful of your doctor to scare you like that. It's probable that you had it anyway, it's really that common.

I think it depends on when she found out? She might had even forgotten about it. I did when me and dp started having unprotected sex, it had been years and years since I had it diagnosed.

How do you know you have it?

And complain about your doctor, what a numpty! This absolutely does not require an emergency appointment.

Surely she would have assumed that everyone has it (except a negligible number) like the NHS does when they call every woman in for a smear test?

I had no idea it was an actual thing you have to disclose before you sleep with someone.

I don't see how hpv and endometriosis would be related or affect each other at all.

Even if you have a positive HPV test all that will happen is a slide will be made from your sample and if no abnormal cells are found you'll be invited back for another test in 12 months. There won't be any treatment carried out.
And if abnormals cells are found you've had HPV for a while as it doesn't cause severe abnormalities immediately.
An emergency appointment does seem a tad excessive for something so very common.
And to the poster who asked, teenagers are vaccinated to try and prevent cervical cancer which is caused by some strains of HPV. But until males and the whole sexually active population is vaccinated woman will still be invited and encouraged to attend for regular smears so that the small number who will experience cellular changes can be identified and treated long before it develops into cancer.

This is really odd.

Blib is spot on

But many trusts only check for hpv now, rather than a proper smear test. At my last one, the nurse said they now consider a positive hpv result to be a precursor to possible cancer, so they don't test for anything except that. But if 80% of the population have hpv, that would flag 80% with possible precancer..? Very confusing

Ah thank, blibblibs. Cross posted there but you did a great job of explaining that!

Its in most people somthing like 80% odds

You’ve misunderstood sno.. They do the smear, test for HPV and only look at the cervical cells of tvats positive. It’s called primary HPV testing.

I have it, the nurse told me most women have it who are sexually active and it's nothing to be concerned over. It's never had any impact on my health.

Oh I see. That makes much more sense!
Thanks for explaining it further, Purple Daisies.

No problem! It seems counterintuitive but fewer cervical cell changes are missed if you only look at those with positive HPV tests.

Most people have the HPV virus at some point, hence the vaccine now? Most people it goes away, for example, I had it three years ago and cin 3 cells, HpV went away and the cells were burnt off.

Maybe mine has gone then? It was picked up at a smear test ten years ago and didn't need treatment. I've never had genital warts or any of the symptoms.

I have had sex unprotected sex with 2 people in my lifetime ( actually only had 2 partners full stop) I'm not young ( grown up children) When I had my smear test call up they also wrote to say my area is testing for HPV as well. I had the all clear results for both tests. Tbh I would be most annoyed to find out that my health had been compromised by someone who knew that had something without giving me the option of protecting myself. Have your feelings for her changed ?

Doesn't the HPV vaccine protect against 1/2 strains that can cause cancer, not all of them?

I can't believe you phoned your GP and actually spoke to them, and they advised you make an emergency appointment for suspected HPV exposure. That's sure not how things work in most GP practices!

As others have said, it's very common and most people have it. Usually the body's immune response fights it off like it does other viruses. Occasionally it doesn't and the virus takes hold and leads to cervical cancer. Hence smear tests as vaccines.

I found I had it from a smear test that coincided with fertility treatment. I decided not to have treatment at the time but to monitor it. My last couple of smears have been fine.

*smear tests AND vaccines

purple I read your post as ‘they only look at the results of twats positive’

biscuit

I’ve just read it back and see the typo. Oops.