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Dss has just headed off to the clap clinic!

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Carmenere · 07/06/2007 11:44

Ah my little boy is all grown up The poor idiot fell in love with a complete slapper who was shagging at least one other bloke during their 6 week long romance(?). He was brainless enough to not use condoms, despite severe warnings from dp and I, she was on the pill.
Anyway fortunately one of his mates has taken him to go and get tested and hopefully he will be ok.
I am torn between sympathy for having such an awful first love experience and anger for him being such a dolt as to not use a condom!

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southeastastra · 07/06/2007 11:51

oh poor thing! i watched a programme last week on teenage sex. so many of them had to attend clinics. seems the messages aren't getting through

mankyscotslass · 07/06/2007 11:54

Aw, there was a thread on this in realationships recently, the message we all got in the 80's has disappeared....hopefully he will be more sensible next time, but he is not the only one out there that does not think its a risk

Piffle · 07/06/2007 11:55

thak god he has a mum he can talk too and learn about responsible sexual health from
Just hope is is not infected

foxinsocks · 07/06/2007 11:55

ewww

condoms are on special in Boots atm (think they are 3 for 2 or summat).

hopefully, the clinic will scare the life out of him and he'll be more sensible next time.

newlifenewname · 07/06/2007 11:59

at terminology. Isn't this the stuff that makes sexual health such an underground subject? Carmenere is this really you posting?!

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Carmenere · 07/06/2007 11:59

Actually it is kind of a good thing(as long as he is ok) because she has been ringing him everyday and he almost went back with her as he is devastated. We suspect that the clap clinic will be a horrible experience for him and that it may sharpen his focus re her. I hope. I am almost tempted to find her number and tell her to leave him alone(I would never do that though)

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Carmenere · 07/06/2007 12:03

What do you mean nlnm? clap is just a cover all phrase for STD's and I am very glad he is getting tested and I am all for sexual health and responsibility which is why I am so angry with him. He is well aware of how he should protect himself and his partner.
I don't think you can pretty this subject up tbh.

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mankyscotslass · 07/06/2007 12:04

My niece once told me that if you were on the pill and it was your first time, then you would not get anything
Also that if you did it just after or before af, you would be alright too
Favourite was that you can always tell because they dont look "nice lads"
This despite having it all expalained by her mum really honestly, and all the sex ed.
When i asked if she believed her mum she said no, she only said that to stop her having sex ..
kids biggest worry is pregnancy, so once the girl is on the pill there is not another thought of anything else.

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Carmenere · 07/06/2007 12:06

I really think that we are letting our young people down by having let the publicity from the beginning of the HIV epidemic just fade away.

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foxinsocks · 07/06/2007 12:08

I agree carm and I'm glad he can speak to you about stuff like this

newlifenewname · 07/06/2007 12:08

No it isn't a subject that can or should, imo, be prettied up as you say but I do think that colloquialisms in such instances are a teeny bit demeaning.

Perhaps just a personal thing but I think if one can use terms such GUM clinic or sexual health clinic it gives a little respect to acting responsible. Maybe IABU?!

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Carmenere · 07/06/2007 12:11

No I take your point actually. He is doing a grown up thing and I'm talking about it like a teenager

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newlifenewname · 07/06/2007 12:14

I meant responsibly not responsible.

clumsymum · 07/06/2007 12:14

Funny, but when you are changing a nappy, or putting them into their first school coat, you never envisage this type of thing in the future, do you?

Well done getting him to go (and his mate for going with him). And actually, I don't think there is a problem with calling it a 'clap clinic'. A rose by any other name ......

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Carmenere · 07/06/2007 12:15

OMG poor you DTEWAC, I am quite pleased that he has done it off his own back tbh and that his mate is bringing him. I thought I was gong to have to nag him into it.

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lou33 · 07/06/2007 12:16

God those places are grim, i bet it will make him think twice about condoms for the future tho!

Nightynight · 07/06/2007 12:33

Ah well, I guess you wont have to worry about him using condoms in the future. Hope he gets well soon!

alibubbles · 07/06/2007 15:19

Must be the season for it!

I thought my DS was still in bed the other morning, when he rang and said could I fetch him from town, I asked where he was and he said he'd just been to the "special clinic"

You have to turn up at 9.00 am and queue!

I asked what made him go and he said, well you said it was time I should go! He is 20 next week.

I too, am pleased that he has taken a responsible attitude about it. My DD has also been for a smear and then made all her friends go too.

They also went on masse to the "special clinic" thye sawe it as a special occasion and all went out to lunch afterwards to celebrate being grown up!

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Carmenere · 07/06/2007 15:23

lol alibubbles. But they are lucky to have parents like us(although he is my dss), when I was his age I would have been slaughtered by my parents for having sex, not to mind unsafe sex. Our attitudes are much better I think, demystifying sex and contraception can only be a good thing imo.

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bundle · 07/06/2007 15:29

he can get free condoms from the clinic, surely? thank goodness he's being sensible now carmenere

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Carmenere · 07/06/2007 15:40

I have packets of them in the medicine cabinet, he wouldn't have to try hard But I am sure you are right, I'm sure they will leave with their pockets stuffed

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bozza · 07/06/2007 15:47

I had an implant out and went back on the pill but had a week of needing alternative protection. You should have seen the bagful of condoms I was issued with. Most of them are still languishing in my beside drawer.

alibubbles · 07/06/2007 20:02

My Dd was shocked when I bought 12 DOZEN when they were 3 for 2 on offer at Boots.com because I got something like 2000 extra points!

I tell them that I am too young to be a grandma, and they are too young to be parents.

Carmenere, I was lucky enough to have parents like us too.

bookwormmum · 07/06/2007 20:18

With a bit of luck this experience will make him more careful in future - poor lad. He must feel awful . Fingers crossed all's well for him.

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