Can’t believe this has happened. Help.

[Dottydodaas]

Namechanged.

Last night I wet the bed. I don’t mean a quick rush to the loo. I mean a full gush and my side of the bed from my waist to my ankles was soaked.

I was so shocked/ashamed/embarrassed that I just lay in it. I couldn’t wake DP and tell him.

I managed to get my soaked shorts off without disturbing DP and he’s gone to work now so the bedding is in the wash and I’m showered.

It was about 2am.

WTF?

Is this in anyway normal? Should I be worried? WTF?

Has this ever happened to you?

Op- have you had a namechange fail

As a qualified nurse of 35 years I think you need to go and see your GP, don't ignore this.

Twooter - yes, but who cares? 😀. It’s close enough.

I just want to see my daughter so much. I miss her so much.

Go and see your DD! Why wouldn't you?

This happened to me once, about 5-10 years ago. I think because I was weeing in my dream. It freaked me out at the time, but has never happened since. So I personally wouldn’t go to the doctor, not unless it happens again or you have any other weird symptoms.

I mean I don’t like to say ‘don’t go to the doctor’, in case it is anything more worrying. But if I’d seen a doctor it would have been a lot of unnecessary embarrassment for what was just a one off freak occurrence.

Because she’s amazing. She’s at Uni but home for the summer (she lives with her Dad) and is working really hard all summer to pay for her rent next year. I admire her so much. She’s clever and beautiful and so thoughtful about the environment and justice and equality. She’s engaged with politics and really mature in her thinking and focus.

I can’t match up. What can I bring to her?

You're not making sense here OP. She's your DD and will want to see you, that's enough.

Op go see your daughter!
Tell your dh! You’ve done nothing to be ashamed of!
your gp will not think you’re ‘creepy’ either.
Ignore some of the frankly disgusting posts on here

OP not really sure what is going on. First you're talking about wetting yourself now you're saying you don't deserve your daughter and can't see her? I hope you are okay.

I wouldn't go to the docs if the incident was a one off but do whatever makes you feel reassured.

I’m not good enough. I never have been. I’m crap.

And now this.

A few years ago I was really turning my life around. New job, I got really good in my sport, a new group of positive, like-minded friends.

Then stuff happened and everything collapsed. My DS hasn’t spoken to me for 4 years and my parents hate me. I got injured and have never got back to my level in my sport. My job now is awful, just awful. The menopause that happened without me noticing through all the trauma. I’ve had breakdowns. I’m on medication.

People think I’m shit. I try to keep positive. I climbed Kilimanjaro. A ran a sub 3.40 marathon. I volunteer at the homeless shelter. I have done all sorts of quite good things - at least I loved doing them. But somehow I’m never good enough. I can’t earn enough money. People mock my choices because I don’t like to conform.

My daughter doesn’t need this obstacle in her life.

Go see your DR. This is a new problem & needs investigation.May be a UTI, muscle weakness, who knows what else? See your GP.
Buy a mattress protector.Tell DH that you "leaked" a little & want to protect the mattress. If it helps, pretend it was a slight period leak.
Buy Tena ladies or similar in different sizes, so if it happens again, you will have a few extra minutes to get out of bed & into loo.
Stop being ashamed. We all have bodies.They all malfunction from time to time. We are basically bags of water, blood & bones. There is no shame here. Ask for help.

You sound traumatised OP. Lonely, lost and afraid.

There is obviously a lot more going on here than a simple toilet accident.
Print this thread out & take it to your GP and ask for help.

You also sound like a unique, amazing woman. One who marches to her own drum.
Those who do not support you, don't deserve to have you in their lives.
I bet your daughter adores you. Go see her.

You ask what you can offer your dd, you can offer her the unique , selfless love that only a mum can bring. She will be disappointed not to see you I am sure. If you can’t face your GP ask for an appointment with the practice nurse who will help you. All will be well if only you bring yourself to trust those who can and will help you.