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Can’t believe this has happened. Help.

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Dottydodaas · 13/07/2018 07:11

Namechanged.

Last night I wet the bed. I don’t mean a quick rush to the loo. I mean a full gush and my side of the bed from my waist to my ankles was soaked.

I was so shocked/ashamed/embarrassed that I just lay in it. I couldn’t wake DP and tell him.

I managed to get my soaked shorts off without disturbing DP and he’s gone to work now so the bedding is in the wash and I’m showered.

It was about 2am.

WTF?

Is this in anyway normal? Should I be worried? WTF?

Has this ever happened to you?

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Frosty66612 · 13/07/2018 09:15

Mumsnet posters can be so weird sometimes!
OP ignore the vile posts from people claiming you’re a troll

legolimb · 13/07/2018 09:17

As a one-off I don't think I would visit the GP.

But as PP have said it could be that you have a UTI. It can relax all the muscles which even in sleep keep it all in place.

No reason not to tell your DP. You can't help what happened - and any anxiety about it happening again isn't going to prevent it.

HollowTalk · 13/07/2018 09:17

Have you not met the toilet trolls yet, Frosty?

legolimb · 13/07/2018 09:18

My post was a bit unclear -sorry.

If you DO think you may have a UTI - if the need to wee during the day increases then you might - then of course visit the GP. If I have an infection i know about it - and need the antibiotics straight away.

Frosty66612 · 13/07/2018 09:19

@hollowtalk yes but this doesn’t sound like the OP is trolling to me

pigeondujour · 13/07/2018 09:20

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AngelicDarkness · 13/07/2018 09:24

I have shorts. They are pajama short.... Hmm

Jacknjill · 13/07/2018 09:28

Hi I'm used to get this now and again, not asleep but it would just happen! Turned out in had huge fibroids and sometimes they would affect my bladder, all gone now cos it had hysterectomy😁

GerdaLovesLili · 13/07/2018 09:28

I've reported this post so that MNHQ can come and tell us that this is a long-term poster with a name-change rather than the pee-troll trying to get their rocks off.

That way the OP might be able to get some practical advice from one of the professionals that read here.

HaaaHaaaa · 13/07/2018 09:29

Has this ever happened to you?

It must have happened to countless people as there are so many threads started by people in similar situations.

Just go to the doctor.

MrsPreston11 · 13/07/2018 09:34

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HebeMumsnet · 13/07/2018 09:37

Morning, everyone. Thanks for all your reports. For the avoidance of any doubt, we've no reason to think the OP isn't genuine at all. She has, as she says, been here a long time but has changed her name for this thread. While we can obviously never guarantee anyone on the internet is who they say they are, we've no reason to suspect she's not being truthful here.

Could we remind everyone to please report to us when they have concerns about a poster rather than trollhunt on a thread? It never does any good. When someone is a troll it only encourages them, when they're not, as we can all see here, it's very upsetting for someone who has posted for support or advice to have this sort of response. And it's much quicker to just hit the report button than it is to post messages accusing people of being trolls.

Thanks!

pigeondujour · 13/07/2018 09:38

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Frosty66612 · 13/07/2018 09:41

@pigeon the whole point of posting medical questions on forums (which millions of people do) is to get reassurance that they aren’t the only one going through it and those who have also experienced it might be able to offer advice.
Should everyone who posts on the pregnancy sections just speak to a midwife instead? And everyone who posts on tne mental health sections just speak to a psychiatrist?

BeeStill · 13/07/2018 10:01

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SoyDora · 13/07/2018 10:07

See MN’s comment, pigeondujour.

BoreOfWhabylon · 13/07/2018 10:13

@Dottydodaas. As others have said, please see your GP. This happened a few times to someone I know - turned out she had Type 2 diabetes.

juneau · 13/07/2018 11:43

turned out she had Type 2 diabetes

Precisely. Problems or changes in urinary habits can be a clue to other things going on. Please consult your doctor.

Original poster
Dottydodaas · 13/07/2018 16:36

Thank you to those who gave friendly advice.

I have no idea what I did to attract such an attack. I came on to MN to look for some friendly support as I have received this before and try to offer the same to others. Never, ever have I been called a creepy cunt, either online or irl.

I have suffered very seriously with my mental health in the past and shudder to think what this kind of treatment could do to someone crying out for help on here. Do posters who feel so desperate that they are considering suicide get called creepy cunts too?

I would rather spend the rest of my life wetting the bed but know I am a decent person who cares about others than be someone who actively enjoys bullying vulnerable people.

Again, thank you to those decent posters out there. You make MN a good place in a very sad and nasty world.

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abbsisspartacus · 14/07/2018 07:08

I wasn't claiming you were a troll I was trying to explain the comment above sorry Flowers

Aridane · 14/07/2018 07:51

OP - sorry you’ve encountered some of mumsnet’s cuntiests cunts on this thread.

Please go through your GP

thegreylady · 14/07/2018 16:21

My dh had this problem for a while and in his case it was an early symptom of MS. However it happened most nights with him. In your case I think it was maybe an extra deep sleep and possibly too much liquid close to bedtime. Tea can act as a diuretic so should be avoided after 6pm.
You know your dh best. I would tell but wait to see if it happens again. It could just be a one off.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 14/07/2018 20:46

Jesus wept at this thread.

OP I would see your GP and get checked over. Hope you're ok today.

Dottydoodas · 15/07/2018 08:06

GreatDuckCookery - thank you for asking but no, I am not ok at all.

There is no way I’m taking this to the GP. What sort of reaction am I likely to get? And I certainly can’t tell DP can I?

I am not at all well. DP thinks he has done something wrong and I keep telling him he hasn’t but I can’t even look him in the eye. I can’t sleep for fear of doing it again.

I don’t want to be a creepy cunt. I was just starting to get my mental health issues under control, was building up some confidence to look for another job away from people who look down at me, and now I am a creepy cunt. Self-esteem is zero.

I am supposed to be seeing my DD tomorrow but I’ve cancelled. I don’t deserve her.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 15/07/2018 08:24

Oh OP I'm sorry you're so down. Is there a nurse you could talk to at the practice?

It could be something and nothing and just one of those things or there could be an underlying reason. If it happens again I really think you should get checked out. GP's see all sorts of things and they honestly wouldn't bat an eyelid at this.

Take care of yourself Flowers