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Perplexed by (my) black (now purple) eye

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carla · 15/08/2004 12:03

Yesterday morning I came downstairs (Dh was already up). He looked at me and said 'have you got a black eye?' I replied that of course I hadn't and immediately rushed to the mirror to see a feint black eye.

This morning, it's a purple below-and-above-the-eye swollen, can't go out of the house monstrosity. Question is, how did I do it? DD1 claims she saw me fall off the computer chair, a statement I immediatly poo poohed as I saw DH's finger about to wag and know I didn't. We had a 'she saw you did it', 'No, I didn't argument', which has resulted in dd saying 'I'm not talking about it any more'. So what on earth do you think happened? I'm really worried. Few things I know it's not:

1 Alcohol induced. I shared a couple of glasses of wine with dd1s parents on her birthday on Wednesday, so promised myself I'd save myself till next weekend.

2 Sleepwalking. Never done it.

Any ideas gratefully received. To top it all, I seem to have bitten the length of my tongue on that side, too .

Sorry it's long.

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MummyToSteven · 15/08/2004 12:22

Have you had a fall/blow to the head recently in the last few days? Have you had any previous periods of unconsciousness?

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carla · 15/08/2004 12:51

Thanks, MtS. No, neither of those things. That's why I'm so worried. How can you give yourself a complete shiner, sober, and not notice

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MummyToSteven · 15/08/2004 12:52

i just wondered if you could have had some sort of fit. I think you would be best off going to the docs tomorrow

twitcher · 16/08/2004 09:53

Do you sleep very deeply? Could DH somehow rolled over in the night and caught you in the eye with his elbow and you didn't realise? Poor you.

jampot · 16/08/2004 10:26

knocks to the nose can also cause black eyes apparently. presumably if you'd fitted/knocked yourself out you would have a pretty bad headache and/or feel really out of sorts.

jampot · 16/08/2004 10:27

have you got an eye infection carla?

Titania · 16/08/2004 10:27

i had this.....DH ended up elbowing me in the face when he was asleep....he felt very guilty when he saw me the next morning!!

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carla · 16/08/2004 13:55

Have been thinking long and hard about this one, and I think you're right, MtS . Especially as I bit my tongue in the process, and have no recollection of any of it whatsoever. I'll phone up Dr this afternoon and see what she says.

Thanks ever so much all of you. I'm really scared now.

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Titania · 16/08/2004 13:57

done be scared,.......hope you get on ok. Let us know how you get on wont you?

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carla · 17/08/2004 22:16

I had drunk too much, decided not to, then body took over. Anyone help?

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carla · 17/08/2004 22:20

GP calls me 'proud'. How shameful

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Twiglett · 17/08/2004 22:23

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carla · 17/08/2004 22:27

Twigg, hadn't till Thursday. All Guns Ho till then. She thinks I was like I was on Saturday 'cos I was bereft of alcohol since then. She's right. Need some MN's support

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Twiglett · 17/08/2004 22:30

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carla · 17/08/2004 22:34

Yes

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Twiglett · 17/08/2004 22:36

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MummyToSteven · 17/08/2004 22:40

Hi Carla - sorry you are going through this. How do you feel at the moment? What are your aims - to give up alcohol completely? Do you mind me asking your reason for drinking so often - was it a habit that slowly crept up, or a way of dealing with stress (or mixture of the too). But agree with Twiglett - good on you for facing up to the problem - realising there is a problem is well on the road to solving it.

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carla · 17/08/2004 22:46

{{{hearts]]] Thanks, Twiggs. If there's anyone else out there ... etc etc etc. Will I still be allowed on MN?

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edam · 17/08/2004 22:55

Hi Carla
Just wanted to offer support. Not sure I quite understand what happened, but I think the jist is you stopped drinking, and alcohol withdrawal gave you a black eye? Apologies if I've got that wrong, but anyway, the important bit is that you've decided to change so bl**dy well done that woman. Am sure you'll find lots of support on here.

MummyToSteven · 17/08/2004 22:55

Carla - course you're still allowed on MN! Please keep posting and let us know how you are getting on.

MummyToSteven · 17/08/2004 22:56

Carla - realising and admitting that there is a problem is a huuuge step -don't underestimate how far you have come already

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carla · 17/08/2004 23:00

MtS - yes, a mixture of the two, and yes, it crept up on me slowly. Mixture of depression and seeing my little lights' every day and wondering how I could make the world better for them. Corny, I know, but that's how I felt. And that a'''ole I live with. Now it's all out - with my mum, my sister, d(ha)h and thanks to him everyone else too. Couldn't do anything else - s'pose in a way he's done me a favour

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MummyToSteven · 17/08/2004 23:14

Carla - what sort of support do you think you will have from friends/family? has the GP offered any support? would you feel able to go to any support groups such as AA? What sort of other stresses do you face in your life - what is your relationship with DH like? If stress/depression has led you to increase your alcohol consumption, has your GP looked at treating the underlying symptoms with antidepressants and/or counselling?

MummyToSteven · 17/08/2004 23:24

Good night carla and take care. I will be around tomorrow if you want to post more.

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carla · 17/08/2004 23:29

MtS, I would love to/love you to CAT me. Is that going to be too personal for you? XX

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