Thanks, yes he's getting to the point where he can articulate what's going on, but his usual reaction to wheat is:
"Wow! that was lovely can I have another one? Can I please please please?!"
The tricky think is that he's incredibly sociable and being off wheat slightly excludes him from a lot of social occassions - little things like having tea and biscuits after church, or a church sandwich lunch, or a free choice of cakes at a school cake sale, or the tea and biscuits after my husband recently had his British Citizenship ceremony.
This kind of social gathering and feeling of belonging is incredibly important to ds, and I'm having to weigh carefully what he gains from having it and what he loses from the stuffy nose that develops afterwards.
The other thing is that the only fortified foods that he can tolerate are readybrek and rice krispies and readybrek is not wheat free, even though it is an oat product. Rice krispies is wheat-free but not gluten-free.
So it's all just this constant balancing act. Being on minimal wheat is massively easier than being on no wheat, and being on minimal wheat is unbelieveably simpler than being on a proper coeliac diet.
I just wish I knew how to full measure the effect that these things have on ds. Putting him on Zero wheat, or a coeliac diet for several months and seeing if he gets the flu less often is a long and very intrusive experiment to do.
If anybody had any insight into how to deal with this I'd be immensely grateful to hear it.
We have at least now figured out a number of free-from products that he can eat. He can manage Genius toastie bread (but not any of their other products, which cause him abdominal pain). Any he enjoyed Waitrose gluten-free mince pies at Christmas. He's also having gluten-free hobnobs and Walkers gluten-free shortbread biscuits and Prewitts gluten-free biscuits. These are all helping to broaden his diet and reduce his wheat/gluten intake.