Mum vomited blood . What does it mean?

[Dowser]

Bit of background. Mum has dementia and is in a nursing home which seems very good. She's 88 .
Yesterday through the night she vomited and there was some blood.
Today she vomited again ' a significant amount of blood'.
They managed to take blood today, yesterday she wouldn't let them.

A dr has been called. They hope to get the blood results tomorrow.

It would appear if it's anything nasty, it would not be in her best interests to treat it.

She's stopped eating and drinking but they are monitoring her all the time to make sure she's comfortable.

Now the confusing bit...she's not on the end of life pathway but can treat her as if she was. She's alert and sat up in bed where she is most comfortable. If she's in any pain they can give her morphine. They are trying to temp her with food but she doesn't want it. She normally has a healthy appetite.

Sept 1 st they went in to see to her and she she couldn't move out of bed. The day before she walked all around the home. They thought it had brought on some sort of arthritic pain. Mum has never really suffered with arthritis. She was checked out at hospital and then returned to the nh.

They gave her pain patches which has kept the pain under control. They definitely don't think she's had a stroke although she has vascular dementia and has had Tia's in the past.

They did get her on her feet and walking to the dining room with help but then she went back over and the walking stopped.

I just can't seem to make sense of it at all.

Has anyone else experienced this with an older relative.

At least I know mum's in good hands. Vomiting blood though ..what on earth could that be and is it connected to the events of sept 1st.

Your Mum is at peace now. Thankfully it wasn't too drawn out and sounds well managed. It's good you felt happy with the care at the home.
Your love for your Mum shines through, it's lovely. Look after yourself. Even though it was expected she's still your Mum and will leave a big gap in your life. (As I'm sure you know)

will you please check for some ulcer in stomach, since she vomitted. Or it sould be blood clotting disorders. have tests done for some inflammation, irritation , swelling of esophagus lining

What a moving post from start to finish. I'm so sorry for your loss and the circumstances but being surrounded by such love when you pass has to be a great comfort.

Dress her in the smartest clothes she had - maybe the thicker trousers with a sparkly top? Clothes she'd have chosen to wear to spend time with you all?

Sparkly all the way. Sorry for your loss.

I'm going to dowse what I think she would want me to choose for her. That'll take the guess work out of it.

My cousin had her father wrapped in a sheet ( we aren't Muslims). Although I didn't see my dad on the day of the funeral, I know he was in his best suit with shirt and tie, polished shoes etc.pretty much how he dressed when he went to court as he was a magistrate and that brings comfort to me. My uncle was a natty dresser . Wore a cravat with an open necked shirt usually so that's how I imagined he'd go. Can't get my head around him being in a sheet. Saw my dad wrapped in sheets for the best part of 8 weeks as he was in a vegetative coma so definitely wanted him his smart self.

I'm pretty sure the funeral director said ' mam's body' to me on the phone yesterday.
If he does it again, I'll have to tell him ...it's mam. Even though she's no longer in her body, she's still mam.

I'm so sorry, Dowser. I'm in this horrible position too, having just lost my DF.
I think being guided by what your mum would have wanted is the right way to go.
Big hugs for you.

Sorry to hear that mine. There's so much to do isn't there.
I'm an only child so all the decisions are mine which in one way is good as there's no sibling arguments.

Oh, I've just remembered ...have to let the pension people know...
Time to make a list I think.
When you think you have months maybe a year to plan a wedding but something else in life that's vital you have days, a week maybe two if you're lucky.
Yet none of us have plans in place for the most part.
At least I know mum would want to be cremated, wasn't religious...and then I fly by the seat of my pants.

Definitely contact anyone as soon as you feel able who is paying into your mum's account (when you have the death certificate - you will need to send a copy).
Then deal with outgoings.
Don't feel you have to rush to do it, take your time, and definitely don't try to tackle it all at once.
It's a lot to deal with. I hope you have someone you can lean on, it's important.
Take care of yourself, remember to sleep, eat, and sometimes just stop for a while - the last one is especially important. I'm sorry you're going through this.
Just remember, your mum would only want you to do what you can manage. (((Hugs)))

Thankfully I have great support. My daughter has poa so she will cancel pensions
I've got the funeral arranged, the music, a good idea for the flowers and the venues are sorted for refreshments after the service and the evening meal for the family.
I've written the announcement for the paper. Need to get photo to go on mums coffin enlarged. I've chosen a one from mum and dads courting days in 1947 where she looks like a film star.
I've chosen her outfit and photographed it so I can remember what she wore. I've gone for dark trousers, black top with sparkles and an elegant dark green and black jacket. Black plush ballet pump type slippers. New underwear and black socks.
All brand new. Was all bagged in my loft in case she ran out of anything ( she never did)

Have my speech to write and fine tune the music
Going through the formalities with the funeral director tomorrow and then need a meeting with the vicar/ celebrant

Then I'm going to the nh to collect mum's belongings.
Got a good idea what I'm wearing. I have a lot of quiz dresses that are black based. I have a nice one with dark purple and green florals so I'll possibly wear that with boots and black jacket.

I think I'm going to have to have ...bridge over troubled water...I'm letting myself and mum down if I don't. I'll make sure I do my speech before it

I still have a few people to inform but most close family and friends now know. I did that yesterday.

I have a poem I want read out....I need to get someone to say it....needs my thinking cap on for that one.

I got back from holiday ...just last Wednesday....feels like it was over a month ago!

I'm so sorry for your loss

Your mums outfit sounds beautiful, you've put so much thought into it.

I'm so sorry for you and your DM.

My DF has dementia and deteriorating badly. It is a cruel disease that hangs over a whole family.

My heart goes out to you Madame. Any of these progressive diseases are so cruel.
We've had 8 years of it but the signs were there two years previously.

Just wondering what music mine has chosen. It may not be your decision though mine.

FD coming this afternoon.

DM has chosen a song DF sang to her on their wedding night, and possibly another very old song we used to sing together as a family 'Heart of My Heart'.
Did she have a favourite singer or song? Maybe a song about something she loved (for DF it was nature and animals), or about how you feel about her. A hymn if she was religious?
It's an easier part of it for us as DF loved music so much (in fact there's too much choice in a way).

Googled that song Mine.
Yes that's lovely.
Just had the vicar...he's really lovely. His mother dowsed and was a faith healer too.
Really nice man.

Hi, Dowser, we saw the funeral directors today. Sorry if the detail is too much, but we've decided we don't want DF to be embalmed as he's already had enough poking and prodding, but we do want him to be shaved (he hated to look unkempt).
DM has decided for him to have a gown. He's going to have a bamboo coffin as he considered it a terrible waste to burn 'a good bit of wood'!
DF is going to leave from home as DM wants him to be there one last time.
Those are all our decisions (especially DM's), but I wanted you to know we're facing them too.
It sounds like you're dealing with it all fabulously. IME so far, everyone has been lovely and so kind.
I hope your doing ok. I've been thinking of you these past few days.

So sorry for all of you going through sad times. Just wanted to say Dowser that I think bridge over troubled water would be a lovely song to end the service on, and that would save it upsetting you before your reading. Songbird is also a beautiful choice, my best friend had it for her mum and it was perfect. I hope it all goes smoothly for you

I'm doing ok...thank you. More sleep would be good though.
Bamboo coffin sounds lovely.
We are just having a very basic funeral . Mum wouldn't want extravagance. It will be simple and elegant.
We've struck gold with the vicar lovely man
I told him how much mum loved animals and that if any money is collected it will go to the medical detection dog charity based in Milton Keynes.
His ears pricked up at that as he'd had bladder cancer a couple of years ago and he said he will support that.

I thought we were having a humanist service and then the vicar turned up but he was so lovely. He said he wasn't at all churchy and will make sure he tones it down a bit.
We had a good laugh st that.

He wrote his speech / eulogy about mum in my living room and he went to great pains to ' get' her character.

In a funny sort of way I'm looking forward to it.
Was fascinated about his mum being a Dowser. Made my day.

It sounds like you have a good match there, Dowser.

I'm still thinking of you. God knows I feel so sorry for anyone in this horrible situation.
Sending you love and strength.