Here we go again - no contraception=no sex :-<

[Sugarmagnolia]

I don't really know where to post this as there seem to be so many issues tied up together. I have posted before under health becuase I can not find a contraceptive that suits me (have tried 3 combined pills, one mini pill and the mirena coil). I have posted under Depression because my moods and behaviour get unbearable at times - although I feel strongly they may be linked to the pills. I have posted under Parenting because of course all of the above is affecting my relationship with my children, especially my DD who I have a loving but somewhat "heated" relationship with at the best of times.

I think this morning was the final straw. There were lots of little irritations - DS broke one of DD's toys by accident. DD broke something of mine by accident. DH forgot to put out the recycling bags so I had to do it when I was supposed to be leaving to get the kids to school. DD couldn't do up the zip on her coat. DS forgot to put on his overall for nursery (or rather I forgot to give it to him until his coat was all zipped up). So I shouted at the kids and threw the recycling bag at the dog (only papers not bottles but still!).

This was not good.

DH and I have talked about it and I'm going to come off my pill again for at least 3 months to see if my moods and everything else settles down. So on top of an already black mood I now have the prospect of no sex for 3 months as we know we are completely hopeless with condoms. I don't really know what I'm loooking for - probably just a bit of sympathy unless someone out there has some amazing brilliant advice that I havn't already heard.

Yes, GP or else wave condoms at him every time until his shame and humiliation force him into action

no expat

I'm sure it's only you and a handful of men

The penis is your friend.

Sugar - the implant is the same as the depo injection but you can have it removed so any side effects go quicker. I suggested the herbs b/c they can be used alongside hormonal contraceptives to rebalance things.

Ok, list of things to talk to my GP about:

-diaphragm (& minty spermacide? )
-copper coil
-sterilisation

expat - what did you mean when you said you didn't like how the copper coil works? what concerns are there aside from possibly heavy periods? I read an article once in a medical magazine about a woman who was allergic to it and it took the docs weeks to find the source this rash she was covered with!

nearlythree - I am not adverse to herbal/natural remedies as I have found them to be useful in the past for certain types of problems. But I'm not convinced they will help in this case - especially as the most commonly used herbs for depression counteract the contraceptive pill.

janitor -they don't make me itchy- that was expat. We have tried latex, non-latex, thin, extra-sensitive - you name it. He has tried but it's just no good.

Also, I've already explained that while I really want him to speak to his GP, it may NOT be a simple outpatient procedure for him. But we wont' know until he asks.

Sugarmagnolia - copper coil works by preventing implantation - so the egg gets fertilised, but does not implant.

the copper coil works by preventing implantation, not fertilisation.

i have problems w/that in my conscience, therefore it's not an option for me.

i had my diaphragm fitted at a family planning clinic. i don't think i'd trust a GP to do it b/c it is tricky to fit.

also, it's NOT a good option if you're someone who's weight is not stable.

some people just don't like condoms. i don't see the problem w/that when they're in a long-term, monogamous relationship and they're both STD-free.

My weight is fairly stable-I would like to lose 5 lbs but that's it really and I suppose I'm comfortable enough with my body. I think you've convinced me to at least discuss the option - thanks expat.

Be warned: they tried to put me off it and fob me off w/the coil.

I had to stand fast to get it.

B/c it's easier for them to fit the coil.

Well, I'm not here to make their lives easier.

Can you imagine a man being so interested in sex if he had to have a bit of metal stuffed inside him somewhere? And can you imagine a man remembering to take a pill every morning?

actually DH is probably far more likely to remember to take a pill than me - as long as he doesn't have to go to the doctor to get it.

Appreciate that you said it may not be a simple in and out op for DH, but he must at least look into it. Im sure even then it would be far easier that it would be for you.

well lazyanna to be fair, a lot of men are so interested in sex that they are prepared to slap their lovesacks on a slab of marble and let the surgeon loose with the pruning shears

which is quite hardcore

well when you put it that way mp, it just sounds so romantic, what man could resist!

and a lot of women are so interested in sex that they are willing to bare their fanjos to total strangers, poo themselves in public and suffer the scourge of piles and leaky boobs that results from lack of contraception/contraceptive failures.

what are these men who hate going to the doctor so much going to do when they need their prostate checked?

probably find out when they are 70 that they've had prostate cancer for the last 15 years...and that's not a joke

mp - more fool them