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Here we go again - no contraception=no sex :-<

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Sugarmagnolia · 15/01/2007 11:04

I don't really know where to post this as there seem to be so many issues tied up together. I have posted before under health becuase I can not find a contraceptive that suits me (have tried 3 combined pills, one mini pill and the mirena coil). I have posted under Depression because my moods and behaviour get unbearable at times - although I feel strongly they may be linked to the pills. I have posted under Parenting because of course all of the above is affecting my relationship with my children, especially my DD who I have a loving but somewhat "heated" relationship with at the best of times.

I think this morning was the final straw. There were lots of little irritations - DS broke one of DD's toys by accident. DD broke something of mine by accident. DH forgot to put out the recycling bags so I had to do it when I was supposed to be leaving to get the kids to school. DD couldn't do up the zip on her coat. DS forgot to put on his overall for nursery (or rather I forgot to give it to him until his coat was all zipped up). So I shouted at the kids and threw the recycling bag at the dog (only papers not bottles but still!).

This was not good.

DH and I have talked about it and I'm going to come off my pill again for at least 3 months to see if my moods and everything else settles down. So on top of an already black mood I now have the prospect of no sex for 3 months as we know we are completely hopeless with condoms. I don't really know what I'm loooking for - probably just a bit of sympathy unless someone out there has some amazing brilliant advice that I havn't already heard.

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mellowma · 15/01/2007 11:41

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expatinscotland · 15/01/2007 11:42

I hate condoms myself.

So does DH.

FromGirders · 15/01/2007 11:42

Sorry, just checked, it's 92 - 96% aparently. Note to self - never trust memory for numbers! Been using mine for two years now, and six months between (planned) babies, no problems so far.
Looking forward to DH's post-vasectomy checks coming back clear though!

expatinscotland · 15/01/2007 11:43

My consultant completely ruled out Depo for me as I have a history of depression.

NOT good for someone w/PND.

morningpaper · 15/01/2007 11:43

why?

i like them

they are SEEDY

(no pun intended)

Sugarmagnolia · 15/01/2007 11:43

LOL @ minty fresh! Should I ask my GP about that next week???

"hopeless with condoms" as in despite out best efforts, trying lots of different kinds, trying lubricants etc, etc, we can not "finish the job" so to speak. Trust me, we have tried and it's not an option.

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themildmanneredjanitor · 15/01/2007 11:43

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expatinscotland · 15/01/2007 11:44

I don't like how they feel, mp. I think they're smelly and they make me itch.

FromGirders · 15/01/2007 11:44

X-posted. My stats were from the Marie Stopes website, but the 98% in my head was from the leaflet I got with my diaphragm. Wish the health authorities knew what they were talking about! Guess it depends how scrupulously you stick to the rules about how long to leave it in etc.

kittylette · 15/01/2007 11:45

im allergic to condoms, when we use them i get itchy

plus i dont trust them

-im on the pill, but thinking of going for the implant

morningpaper · 15/01/2007 11:45

finish the job do you mwan he cannot orgasm?

Surely a bonus?

lazyanna · 15/01/2007 11:45

I have to say that since I came off the pill, years ago, I have felt happier about my general health - it seems like a big risk to take just for sex.

morningpaper · 15/01/2007 11:45

Get him to the GP

job done

madmarchhare · 15/01/2007 11:46

I have to agree, dont like condoms, although we have used them whilst waiting for results.

morningpaper · 15/01/2007 11:46

too right lazyanna

morningpaper · 15/01/2007 11:46

don't see the point of these women who spend a fortune on organic food and then stuff synthetic hormones into themselves every morning

mellowma · 15/01/2007 11:47

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madmarchhare · 15/01/2007 11:47

Really sm, get him down the docs.

FromGirders · 15/01/2007 11:47

Getting him snipped is fine, but bear in mind it can take ages for sperm to get flushed out of his system. We're still waiting and it's been 9 months.

madmarchhare · 15/01/2007 11:48

Yes it can but once your there...whey hey...did I mention that dh had his letter this morning ?

Sugarmagnolia · 15/01/2007 11:49

mp - by finish the job I mean he can not maintain an erection long enough to orgasm - pretty sure he doesn't consider that a bonus. (I really can't believe I'm havign this conversation - and what's worse - I started it!)

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Sugarmagnolia · 15/01/2007 11:52

Ok, have just promised him I will finish my current pack of pills (rather than just stopping today!) if he will at least SPEAK to his GP.

(madmarchhare - feeling quite jealous, lucky you!)

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expatinscotland · 15/01/2007 11:52

Dh finds condoms uncomfortable. I find them itchy.

I see where you're coming from, Sugar.

I like my diaphragm, but you do need to be comfortable w/your body to use it.

Getting one fitted required some time w/the legs up in stirrups and a couple of ladies w/their hands way up the ol' yin yang, so if that makes you feel uncomfortable it's not for you.

B/c you, too, will need to get familiar w/where your cervix is in order to use one.

morningpaper · 15/01/2007 11:52

OK that's fair enough, lots of men have that problem

Send him to the GP's and until then have lots of oral sex

expatinscotland · 15/01/2007 11:52

MP
Some people really, really, *really love penetrative sex!

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