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New thread for old friends and for new quitters ...

If you stop now, right now, you will know that regardelsss of your hormonal messness that you can do it and get thru it and from here it can only get better.
Whatever your head tells you whack it away with a stick and dont have a fag.

The thing is I'm not crying about the loss of the fags-its what I have probably done to myself already and how disgustingingly selfish I have been-I have two wonderful boys who love me to bits and each fag I have lit has took me one more minute or perhaps a lifetime away from them.
How could I do that?

I have no idea, I know how your feeling, try to move away from that and onto how your not going to anymore. Its an evil, seriously evil addiction. And you somehow manage not to think about it...
And i have consoled myself with if I have done anydamage I would prefer to be on a cancer ward as a nonsmoker rather than trying to sneak out for a fag in between treatments

And its not just you, we all did it, without a thought for anyone else.

You are right-if I can do it now I can do it anytime-we have also just a month of the house being upside down due to a big flood on our top floor-the majortiy of our house has been decorated-new ceilings the lot-I have a show home on one floor and a dump at the top floor where we put everything from below.We can't bear to bring it all down from our bedroom as the middle floor looks so nice.We now have to do the top floor and I just want to rest.

Sounds heavy Rest with your feet up with Allen Carr for company
Get on top of this NOW, its getting you down.
Get to the other side of it.

Smoked alot more than I usually did then due to stress-perhaps thats why I haven't been feeling that well-am also getting over a cold and cough. I wish there were a way to take some kind of tests for emphasema or cancer because it would make it so much easier to stop if I knew I was ok.
Hubbys Mum has got emphasema-her sister died of it three years ago. Its bloody everywhere!

Sorry, I'm talking crap-you are right I need to stay positive. Does Allen really help? It didn't help him did it?

it stopped him smoking

and the mind set he putsd you in is a positive one, eating toast hence no caps

Yes it did.I've thrown him away actually-didn't read him last time I stopped but had him on my bookcase for many years and attempted once with him which lasted about 3 weeks.

C-Thanks for your supportive words. I have got to go now but I will be back later and will have a read of the rest of this thread. Anything else you can think of that can help please let me know.
You are a ROCK!

Ok, well it you who needs to do this, what about www.whyquit.com? miserable reading, but it helps you understand each urge and each feeling.
No more fags, regardless of what happens.
If the cat/dog/dh gets sick, a fag is not going to make the cat/dog/dh better.
If there is traffic ahead of you, a fag is NOT going to make it clear the way ahead for you.
Got to get that in your head. It does NOT help any situation, and the minute you give in to the urge you will regret it.

Thank you!

Ooh ... Only just caught up with all the happenings on this thread!

Cc, drop, custy ... all the old crew!

I haven't been an angel either, drop. We moved in January and I had so much on my plate, such an awful lot of stress, that I smoked on and off for about a month. Never much, in fact I never actually bought a pack, I cadged off dp and my smoking friend. But I've found it hard to go back to absolutely none. Even an odd few a day and you're hooked before you know it.

So ... drop, I'm in an easier position than you, but if you want a buddy to absolutely do it with, then I'm your man! (remember we met at your pad a year (or two?) ago?)

Custy, when we met at the Christmas meet-up you were adamantly a 'social smoker' as you put it. Did you just find that that didn't work for you in the end?

And as for cc, your mum! I can't believe it!! It's what you always hoped for. Geez, if she can do it, anyone can!

IF ( tiz me the yellow one) the reason i went out and bought a packet of fags was becuase my marriage fell apart and i left my DH.

my nan was in hospital on and off and was my primary carer as a kid and we thought she was going to die - so all in all my life was falling apart and i wanted that " aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh"

of the exhale.

the exhalle that blew the worries away.

i hated myself when i did, the looks off people in the street, how its always on your mind again - your always looking for an escape in the day to feed your addiction.

was at a conference on saturday in london and at the well known parts of the day i thought this is fag time ....erm...usually

the smell - i knew i could be smelled despite the body spray. i got outragously rude comments from time to time from people i kind of knew.

the kids didnt like it.

the money was getting tight again.

and i couldnt have an interrupted nights sleep without waking up wheezing.

so that was it for me.

Oh yellowy one are you back with dh now?
IF hellllllooooooo all settled in now? Drop where have you gone?
Wheres all the newer quitters? Update please!!!!!!!!

chancery (how come the name change?), I can understand what you're saying completely. Same for me with the move and stresses etc. etc. But it didn't make anything less stressful and now I've got to quit all over again. Are you and dh still separated?

I'm officially on day 5 because that's the last time I had a smoke.

And yes, cc, where did drop drop off to?! She seemed quite determined ...

Thanks for asking, we're settled in brilliantly. I love our new flat, we've got more space and it's a really nice 5 minute walk to school for dd through a woodland area, no roads at all, so she can scoot along on her bike.

OMG, finding it hilarious that I have stayed off the fags for 2 point something years and you lot keep throwing yourself into the demon ashtray...not in a funNy way but in a OMG, cannot belive it...OMG, still cant belive it totally mad way!!!!
Get back out of the tray and dont dive back in it!!!!!!

I know, cc. I've 'known' you on here for two years and quit for: 6 months, 3 months, 6 months. This time I can't go back, have developed quite serious lung problems. I had pneumonia last October (was 2 months into the last quit so fags not a problem at the time) but I never quite shifted it and apparently it's scarred my left lung which is now infected again and has quite a lot of fluid on it. The doctor said yesterday at hospital that I'm on my way to lung disease. I've chanced it way too long already with smoking and having bad asthma. I hope I haven't messed myself up for life.

So I"m now on my 4th course of antibiotics in 10 days, if these don't shift it I have to go into hospital and have a chest drain.

The fact is, cc, and anybody else on here who's prepared to nag me, if i don't stop now I'm going to disable myself. So you have to keep on my case. If I don't do it now I'll be too ashamed to ever show my face on this thread again anyhow.

Since the last quit I've never really started again, it's just been the odd one here and there, not more than 10 a week at most. But it was at that 'creeping up' stage if you know what I mean? Obviously I'm not smoking now.

But the dreadful thing is, last week even when I had the infection and was feverish etc. I still had a few smokes ...

This week I feel way too rough to contemplate smoking so no worries at present. But I must not go back to it when / if I get through this lung problem.

You know what youve got to do IF, never take another puff.
Sending good vibes to your lungs!

Thanks cc. I had a worrying call from the GP this morning who says my inflammation markers and white blood cell count are 'sky high' so I'm in a bad way.

There isn't an option for me any more as regards smoking. I've told everyone I know, even my smoking friend (who has been my constant temptation) to never ever let me smoke again.

It's the perfect time to quit because I simply can't. I mean I think I'd pass out if I smoked right now.

Bloody Hell IF It is sooooooooooooo not worth it. Just move on and let your lungs recover.
If its any consilation my lungs are knackered too, although healing, I feel. You know the asthma blow thingy to see how far you can get the widget to blow along the line.
Well mine was 450, always, and my mums was 250 as a smoker.
Mine has stayed at 450, always, and my mum stopped smoking and in a week hers shot up to 450.
I dread to think what mine would have been just after id had pluracy.
No fags, get them out of your head.
They dont solve a thing.

just checking in to say 3 whole months!!! And not a wobble now...I was at a small toddler group yesterday and 2 mums went out for a fag and the room stank for the whole rest of the session when they walked back in. I am so mortified - that used to be me...

Agree Alan Carr really helped change my mind set (last time I gave up for 18 months but not one day went by when I didn't think about fags. This time, I just don't think about them, other than ''I'm glad I don't do that anymore''

DH is struggling more though, (but he didn't read Carr...)

Good luck Custy and evreryone else. IF, so sorry, Best of luck to you x

Well Done FMV..If you ever find yourself pondering whether you should have one, take note of all the returners here, inlcuding myself who have to go through the whole process again....and again and again. You dont stop wanting to stop.
You still want to stop but your smoking again.
Well Done again!!!!!!!!!!!