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so I find out today that dh has been abusing Tramadol. So this was probably reason for his fit.

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 27/12/2006 15:57

went to gp today to get pain killers, sick note and advice on when he can drive again to find out that he's been having prescriptions for tramadol for months, says to gp and to me that he only been taking prescribed amount but on way home admits that he taken them all in about 2 weeks then having none until he can get a repeat prescription.

Now says he not sure if he wants us (me and kids anymore)

He has done this before but tbh thought it was the end of any more secrets 18 months ago when he had an affair. thought we were working through that and now this. Flaming marvelous.

How much more can one family take????

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 27/12/2006 20:28

ok no one around then.

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JennyLeevesmilkandcookiesforSa · 27/12/2006 20:36

sorry to hear you are having such a bad time and I hope someone with experience of this can advise you

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 27/12/2006 20:47

I was giving advice to someone just the other month seems as we've been here before but I really didn't think we would be here again but hey ho.

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SherlockLGJ · 27/12/2006 20:51

Is this LWTG ????

If so...and I do not normally advocate this reaction, pack his bags and say, you are quite right we have worked at this we have had our ups our downs our in betweens. I ask only honesty from you and yet again you have failed me.

So FCk off and quit bothering me.

Sorry to be so blunt.

DeckTheHallsWithFRAUsOfHolly · 27/12/2006 23:17

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 28/12/2006 19:47

hmmm but gp didn't know he taking them all in two weeks and then he withdrawing making him moody, miserable, withdrawn. This has been going on for months and now we know the reason why

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 28/12/2006 19:48

yes it is lwtg

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mummytosteven · 28/12/2006 20:05

oh dear . if you haven't reached the point of no return as per LGJ's post, then he's got to get back to the docs and honestly explain what he has beeing doing, and change the prescribing arrangements. afaik there are charities that support people who abuse painkillers/otc medication, not sure whether you or he have been in touch with them to obtain support.

Blandmum · 28/12/2006 20:13

Bloody hell, abusing tramadol.

Dh is dying of cancer and was given tramadol, could't cope with it, knocked him for six and made him very sick.

If your dh can go through it that fast, he must have gor significan;y tolerant to its effect, which means this has been going on for a long time.

He needs professional help

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 28/12/2006 20:13

I have spoken to gp today and she has given me weekly prescriptions for him, as she doesn't want him to stop taking the tramadol.

also wants to see him next wed and is going to refer him to a woman who deals in prescription abuse.

fracture wise they going to re xray him in two weeks to make sure it healing.

I scared tomorrow when relatives go home as I know that when they go he will be totally unresponsive again.

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notasheep · 28/12/2006 20:24

Crikey,hope you can get this Tramadol lark resolved.
One at night was too much for me-brain felt all jelly like.

Make sure you look after yourself

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 28/12/2006 20:28

we talking at least 16 a day.

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Blandmum · 28/12/2006 20:32

That is an awful lot of opiates.

I'm sorry, I don;t know all the history, but is he getting any professional help for what seems to be a fairly mjor addiction?

notasheep · 28/12/2006 20:33

OMG! As mummytosteven said i would try and found out about local drug support groups that could give him the support he needs.
Where is his brain? or where does he want his brain to be?!

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 28/12/2006 20:48

he has done this before at one point he was taking about 36 co codamol a day.

He just doesn't have that cut off mechanism that you and i do.

His brain is totally, totally messed up due to keeping abuse covered up for the last 25 years and now it has all come out it has totally messed with his head, but at least we know what it is now wehre as in the past there hasn't been a reason for it iyswim.

gp wants to see him next wed and refer him to someone who deals in prescription abuse, so that is a step foreward.

He doesn't know who/what he is anymore feels his life has been a lie for the last 25 years so who is he?

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 29/12/2006 16:26

he's gone!

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mumsallie · 29/12/2006 16:35

Not posted on here before, but just saw your message that he's gone. Has he packed his bags and left for good ?? Are you okay ??
Does he have the medication with him and would he be likely do anything silly ??

Thinking of you xx

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 29/12/2006 16:42

his db and sil have been here for a couple of daysand they have taken him to his mothers 150 miles away.

He has to come back next wed for gp app. He does have his medication with him but he only has one weeks worth so tht is going to do him no significant damage now is it. says i will just have to trust him with it.

problem is that apparantly his dp's think affair, fit, illness over the years has been my fault or so i find out today off inlaws. Apparantly i put too much on him.

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notasheep · 29/12/2006 16:54

Here we go eh,sounds normal-that putting all the blame and guilt and crap on to you.
Textbook addict speak i think.
Sorry am i sounding harsh.

Look after yourself

SherlockLGJ · 29/12/2006 17:14

Perhaps it is for the best, you have flogged yourself trying to make this work.

mellowma · 29/12/2006 17:29

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mummytosteven · 29/12/2006 17:30

I'm sorry to hear this, it must have come as a shock to you, despite the difficult times with him lately. I hope that one way or the other that things improve for you.

tribpot · 29/12/2006 17:31

I don't think there's anything more you can do for him. Is there a Narcotics Anonymous version of Al-anon for relatives of addicts? NA website - might be worth you calling the helpline. Al-anon website as well .

Btw, there's no chance he's taking amitriptyline as well is there? My dh was on this combination for a short while, it was v effective, but there is a risk of psychosis so they took him off it again.

mumsallie · 29/12/2006 18:02

If he is by any chance on Amytryptiline, this can be EXTREMELY dangerous if overdosed. Can cause cardiac dysrhythmia's etc...
Sorry if I've scared you at all, but you need to know just in case.

Look after yourself .

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 30/12/2006 06:53

as far as i know it is just the tramadol but what do i know. He could have been buying codiene as well.

sil rang last night and at 11p.m he still hadn't told his parents what was going on. bil had filled them in a bit and rang his ds who apparantly said she thought something was wrong when they were up just before christmas because he was glassy eyed and couldn't put her finger on it.

Will see what today brings. When he rang to say he was there he sounded completly normal but then thats what he does. He is so good at putting a face on and to all intents and purpose he is fine to those who don't have to live with him.

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