Unwanted pregancy - can someone answer a few questions about termination please?

[nando]

I'm 4 weeks pregnant and have decided to terminate.

I have an appointment with my GP on Thursday, but I have a few questions and I can't wait that long to ask.

Could anyone tell me where the procedure will be carried out? Is it at a local hospital (I will be going through the NHS)?

I think I'd prefer to take tablets to end the pregnancy rather than have an invasive procedure. Does anyone who's been through either have an opinion on this? Which is the least unpleasant? If I do opt for the tablets how does it work with regard to timings?

Plesae don't post if purely to have a go or ask me to reconsider.

Sorry that this post is blunt. I have tried to change my posting style to protect my identity.

TIA

I would love to say its for the best etc., but having a miscarriage when you were going to have a termination I doubt is any easier that any other miscarriage - its fine to greive, dont feel you cant or anything. Your hormones must be alittle all over the place right now, its been an emotional time. I dont know if what im saying is coming out right, but know I do wish you all the best, and you can always chat here, anytime. There will be me, or someone else anytime to talk {{hugs}}

So sorry to hear your bleeding nando, i wont say it's for the best as i know what you mean about having made the decision yourself. Talk to your friend, im sure he will just listen and that's all you need right now. Rest as much as you can too and take some paracetemol if you get any cramps. xxxx

Thanks Quotie and LG&T - you've both been so sweet to me during this saga - and that's how it feels. I don't know what I'm grieving about really. I felt this way during my miscarraige. I didn't want to be pregnant then either but I was going to go through with it. When I started to miscarry at about 12 weeks (I didn't know my dates and hadn't had a scan) I felt like I had nothing to carry on for - which is nuts cos I didn't want to be pregnant anyway. I think I grieved cos I felt guilty and useless - it took weeks for me to think about the baby.

This time I just feel hopeless. I was gutted when I did the test on Saturday but I felt empowered as well (God, I'm so sorry to anyone that might be reading who's trying to conceive). I suppose the bottom line is that I felt like a woman again cos I was pregnant and I was making a decision on my own regarding this pregnancy. Now I just feel like a fucking no-body again.

I've only told one person in R/L about the pregnancy apart from you on MN and as much as I want to offload on him I don't really think he's got the emotional capacity to understand it. He's rational and to him it's good news that I'm miscarrying - to me it's a kick in the teeth.

your hormones are all over the place - whether you are miscarrying or not. I know it is hard when you are inthe middle of things but you should keep telling yourself that you are looking at things through a cloud of hormones so it is not a clear perception of things. Try and have something else to focus on for a while or browse some other threads as it seems that you might need a bit of down time - you must be reeling!

Lots of love