So I went Drs

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Regarding a breast lump.
Dr did the exam and informed me I have a mass and has referred me.
What will they do at the hospital?

It is very scary, I understand. Like you I went to the dr expecting to be told it was nothing. When she said she was referring me urgently I was very shocked. Couldn't concentrate, burst into tears. I do understand what you're feeling like.
For me, I was lucky, it was a breast cyst - quite common I think. But like the others have said, try not to worry, you will get seen fast, and that's the right thing.

I didn't tell anyone, except one friend, she kindly came with me. Good luck, and well done for going to docs. It's easy to put it off

I found another lump last night under my arm pit.

My heads all over the place.

I can't tell my DC or give them any kind of hint something is wrong, it's GCSE and A level time.

DH I think is just trying to not think about it as I'm not sure he knows how to deal with the possibility something might be wrong with me.

I have sorted all his birthday pressies out and will have them sorted just incase his birthday is in ten days.

I burst into tears on someone I don't even know very well as she asked me if I was ok, I went to say yes but my tears had other ideas.

I phoned my best friend and briefly told her but she's being monitored for lung cancer and is poorly so I guess we can cry together. she is a single mum and is trying to hold it together for her DC and I'm the one meant to be supporting her and feel guilty for telling her but she did say she would of killed me if I had only told her after.

Sorry if my last message does not read too well. I'm just typing what comes into my head when it does.

I'm feeling so tired all the time and trying to keep on top of housework is getting hard. I have been like this for 4-5 weeks now which is when I first noticed the breast lump. It's prob just stress that's making me tired and I'm not sleeping too good anyway.

I only went drs thanks to a PM I got from someone on here after I confessed on another thread about having the lump - thank you for making realise I had to get checked and burying my head in the sand was not going to make it disappear like magic.

Hi
I found a lump about 4 years ago, kind of pea sized which I could move. Family history of breast cancer so I was concerned. I was referred quickly and got prodded, poke & squeezed into a mammogram machine (yes - squeezed !). I was also give the results the same day. Consultant told me I just have lumpy boobs - charming lol !!
I queried it again last year as it seemed to have grown slightly. Again same tests and told all fine. I wasn't made to feel silly at all asking for it to be rechecked.
Sending you good wishes
x

Your not alone or wrong in feeling stressed or upset, I was a stupid wreck. I didn't sleep I chain smoked (again very stupid) it sounds to me like your being incredibly brave and wonderful. It's ok to cry and vent don't feel embarrassed. When I was waiting for results I used to obsessively check my self and found all sorts or weird little lumps, lumps that were harmless or muscle or something I wouldn't of thought about. Honestly I know it's not much consolation but your much braver than me and sound like your handling it a lot better!

I think your tiredness and inability to concentrate is because you are so stressed and understandably so. I think you are doing brilliantly, holding it together well. Im sorry your DH wont talk, but talk to your friend and to us on here.

Had a fantastic day at work, ended up working late as I wanted to finish what I had started and it had taken my mind of everything, came home in a great mood. Got DC from childminders, fed DC, got them to their clubs and home again, got them to bed etc

DH has now spent the evening bitching moaning that the housework was not done and really making me feel like crap.
Why does it feel like he's against supporting me when I need him the most right now

Oh OP, your DH is being an arse (but you know that).

for you.

Hoping you get the appointment soon.

How long does it take for the appointment letter to come through?

Got my appointment for next week.

I'm so glad your appointment came through so quickly.

Hoping the week flies by and that DH is a little (or a lot) more understanding.

He has been thankfully, he still does not really want to talk about it and just wants to wait and see what happens at the appointment and go from there but he said he will be there with me every step of the way.

Great that DH is being more supportive and if you need to chat about things, there's always someone her to hold your hand. Not too long to wait for both of you. It may help to stay away from Dr Google until you know more, it can be very easy to increase your symptoms and signs when you're worried and stressed, with all that's been going on it's no wonder you feel drained.

Your DH is probably really struggling to know what to do, say, think, feel, just like you are. We are rarely perfect and don't always act like others need us to. Be kind to each other but do tell him if you need to talk it through and remind him that even if it doesn't help him, it is what you need.

2 more sleeps and then we go from there.

I'm not sure if this is helpful. It has always stuck in my head as what to expect if I ever get a breast referal. Maybe others can comment?

www.theguardian.com/society/2004/sep/14/cancercare.lifeandhealth

Good luck.

Really nervous today, thought I had it all sorted in my head and I have been telling myself that loads of other women go though the same thing and manage to stay calm but today it's all I can think about. Not helped with it being my day off and have nothing else to occupy my self with.

good luck OP, I went through this recently - had my appointment yesterday.

My experience was loads of waiting in a waiting room - saw doctor who prodded around. got sent to have mammogram and ultrasound on a different floor - loads of waiting around. Got sent back to doctor (who was leaving because I had taken so long, but luckily I bumped into him on stairs.).

Take a book is my advice.

I think that sometimes they do a biopsy there and then too - it's meant to be a one stop shop

MsHap did you have all the what if's floating around in your head?
Did you get any results the same day?

sorry I've been away from my computer all day. Yes, I was petrified before it, - but I had less than 2 weeks from my drs appointment to the hospital appointment and the time went relatively quickly. I didn't start worrying until I went to the doctor for some reason - it's like once they took it seriously, then I started to as well.

Like you I didn't tell anyone - don't know why really.

I'm still breastfeeding so they could only do a mammogram - they thought it was probably ok, but suggested that the mammogram would show up other things that the ultrasound misses. I need to have stopped breastfeeding for 3 months though to have a mammogram.

sorry I meant they could only do an ultrasound.

My ultrasound doctor was really nice and talked me through it and what she thought the lump was.

What do they think yours is? Feel free to PM if you don't want it on here.

Thinking of you tomorrow now
Hope you can get some sleep tonight

Thank you CandC

I'm still figuring what to take, have got my kindle in my bag, will have my phone, still need to fill in paperwork and I have chocolate