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AF,PMT, Told DH I wanted to leave :(

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Munz · 27/09/2006 08:35

not sure if this is here/relationshps area,

but since having Joey my AF seems to be 1000 times worse - not only from the point of view of pains - last month was so bad I was up half the night in agony and had to take some pills (pre him thou had absolutly no pains at all/probs)

also i've noticed gradually around the time AF is due i'm getting more and more upset witih DH - this month I asked him in seriousness if he wanted me and Joey to leave/not be here once he came back from his course - all cos he didn't do the washing up and I felt like he'd been doing nothing in the house. - not true (sometimes is but he's just come home after a week away with no sleep) last month was a week of pure ranting/crying at him.

not currently on any contraception (DH using condoms on the rare occasion we mange to have sex) just wondering howlong the hormones will take to settle back down again really and to know i'm not alone with this prob

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anorak · 27/09/2006 08:41

How old is Joey?

I'm sure there is something the doctor can do to help you. It sounds like a hormone imbalance as you say. GP might recommend a hormonal treatment such as the pill or a mirena coil to regulate.

As far as self-help goes you could always try evening primrose oil, you take it all through the month and it is really helpful for PMT. Of course also make sure you eat good food, take a vitamin and mineral supplement with iron and make sure you get enough sleep.

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Munz · 27/09/2006 08:44

actually I didn't think aboutt eh iron thing - he's 7 months, i'm still BF twice a day (hence why i've not gone back to the pill.

I had a history of HI's when I was a child,

thing is thou I don't want this to become a big issue with DH, after me being so horrid to him on monday it was only when I wiped last night I realised AF was on her way and here today

will try the EP as well thanks (althou are u ok to BF and take that?

will be seeing my h/v on the 10th for the boy's developmental check up - althou I could pop to the dr's before then I guess next week when PIL are down to watch the boy for me.

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monkeytrousers · 27/09/2006 08:45

Munz, I can testify to being a bit mad after DS was born and I think it's quite common to want to kick your partner out in that time. I had DP's bags packed a couple of times.

Be careful of PND, it creeps up and makes PMS 1000 times worse, as you say. Go and see your doctor and HV. And try to forgive DP his trespasses

SauerKraut · 27/09/2006 08:46

I am currently doing exactly the same, for the same reasons. It has got so bad that I am about to visit the doctor to ask him what I can do about my temper! I suspect I will be offered the Mirena coil, as Anorak says. I'll let you know, unless you get there first...

anorak · 27/09/2006 08:46

Not sure about the evening primrose oil and BF. I think you can but best make sure with someone who knows!

BudaBabe · 27/09/2006 08:49

Acupuncture can also help to sort out PMT. I found it great.

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Munz · 27/09/2006 08:51

lol, phew!

who'd be a woman, I'll obviosuly apologise to DH - he seems to just take it on the chin when i'm like this/PMT ish, but bless him it's really not fair, and the rest of the time he's very good - (silly things like he took all the penquins away with him (a whopping 18 bars) and letft me with none annoyed me to the point of moaning/going mad )

MT - i'm very worried about the PMD thing - althou I must admit since we've been here and i've been out/about more I've been feeling loads better in general than b4 we moved. so fingers crossed I won't get that.

SK - let us know how u go. I don't really want anything which may effect/cause eptopic PG's as I only have the one tube now so both DH and I have agreed not to use anything to jepadise the remaining one.

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Munz · 27/09/2006 09:11

also not to be too personal, but i'm flooding when I do have AF - is this normal (it's the 4th one post birth) we're talking having to change a super tampax/pad every 2 hours (max)

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Twiglett · 27/09/2006 09:13

have had very similar problems .. particularly chronic PMT and terrible pains

it takes about a year for hormones to settle down but really this might be the way they are settling they won't go back to how you were before

have started the pill this cycle .. now I feel like I have morning sickness but supposedly this is only for the first few months .. seems unfair but if they work on pain and mood swings worth it

speak to your gp

Twiglett · 27/09/2006 09:14

take flouradix and epo (if flooding you'll be more prone to anaemia which makes you exhausted and irritable)

anorak · 27/09/2006 09:24

here's a thread I started about heavy periods, just in case you find anything helpful there.

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Munz · 27/09/2006 09:35

thanks anorak/twiggy,

tbh it didn't occur to me about the anemia thing - althou it should have as I was severleey anemic immediatly after having him, and had 2 lots of bloods.
tbh the pain's not so bad for me to deal with, it's the mood swings that's a real downer. and obviosuly unfair on DH.

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Munz · 27/09/2006 09:35

i'm only 24 as well.

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Peridot30 · 27/09/2006 09:37

I have really bad PMT for a couple of days b4 AF is due i am grumpy as hell and get annoyed at the slightest thing!! I thought most woman did. My dh now knows to ignore all the bitchy things i say. ikonw im being a bitch but cant seem to stop my self ( definately mad!)

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Munz · 27/09/2006 09:37

lol.

anarok - what's this mooncap thing all about?

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anorak · 27/09/2006 09:41

it's anorak and a mooncup - LOL

a mooncup is a latex cup you insert to collect the blood from your periods. You use it instead of tampons and pads. There are lots of threads that explain it in more detail.

So many mumsnetters have raved about how wonderful it is that I decided to take the plunge and buy one. I did so and am now waiting for AF to start (it's imminent) so I can try it out.

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Munz · 27/09/2006 09:55

lol - sorry will get off and have a look for them then.

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monkeytrousers · 27/09/2006 10:13

I took evening primrose on docs okay when breastfeeding. Thing is you have to take about 3 a day religiously and you may only begin to feel a difference after 6-8 weeks.

I was suffering PND though and SSRI's were a life (and relationship) saver for us. Keep an eye on it Munz, if you feel yourself loosing control remember it's not normal and there's no shame in being repsponsible for yourself and going to the docs.

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Munz · 27/09/2006 10:57

whats SSRI's MT? will be talking to DH at lunch when he comes in, and will either try to get to the dr's tomorrow/h/v next tues at the open clinic type thingy. is it best to see a dr first or the h/v? i've only met my new one once before - she seems ok but not as nice as my old one.

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Munz · 27/09/2006 13:42
  • going to the dr's tomorrow after talking wiht DH - he said this month he did consider going ot the garage and getting his hammer out! - althou (in his words) 'he'd have to then take time off work to clean up any mess, and also look after the boy on his own ) so yep off to the dr's - he also agrees it's been getting worse each month slowly.
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monkeytrousers · 27/09/2006 19:59

Sorry Munz, been out fro DS's birthday. Here's a link re SSRI's

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Munz · 28/09/2006 08:12

thanks MT.

fingers crossed he's going to just say some herbal things, i'm not v keen on going onto AD's.

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Peridot30 · 28/09/2006 13:48

Munz How did you get on?

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Munz · 28/09/2006 16:16

not v well - infact I came out thinking he was as much use as a choclate teapot!

he said go back when I stop BF and they'll put me on the combined pill again until then it's tough basically. so i'll leave it till the 10th when the boy has a h/v apt and see my h/v - the dr was completely unphased when I said I was flooding and also late on in the evening it felt like I had everything dropping down/aches in my pelvic area.

thanks for asking thou.

SK - how did u go?

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 28/09/2006 16:25

hunni im so sorry you are going through this

my af was the same inbetween having jess and falling pg with becky.

your doc sounds a twonk - get a second opinion please.

loads of fresh air and a daily routine will help (not that i practive what i preach - havent been out today and got my AF today too so feeling crappy)

If Dan is feeling a little stressed, Dave will have a chat with him on MSN later - Dave knows all about phsyco-bitch weeks/months so can lend an ear!

Im here if you need me hun xxx