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mouth worry need calming down ..

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ballofworry · 05/09/2014 08:06

Hi , please can anyone put perspective on my worry, i went to dentist a month ago , check up and i pointed out a small white hard nodule against my wisdom tooth by the gum , not sore , he looked at it said it doesnt look sinister or presenting in that way , took x-rays pictures nothing found untoward in x ray he said and sent them off to be sure and give me peace of mind ...

i have to now go to see this chap now for a routine appointment for him to see it , i have now gone into melt down as suffer with health anxiety , i called my dentist again yesterday who has said agin this is just routine and they may just want to see for them selves , he still says he thinks its an overgrowth from my tissue and nothing sinister and its good just to get second opinion , he said he sends alot of referals off just as a precaution , he said has seen similar to my thing before not weekly but has and all was fine , i am just so worried now ...as this is how i get with this HA ...

has anyone any experience of this ? or can calm me down ....

thanks for listening

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ballofworry · 05/09/2014 13:07

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ballofworry · 05/09/2014 15:33

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matchingmoll · 05/09/2014 16:56

No specific insight into the nodule, but in my experience when they say things like "nothing sinister" and "routine" and "precaution" it tends to end up meaning just that. I am similarly afflicted with HA so I know exactly how hard it is not to think the worst when there is even the slightest uncertainty about health things. I suspect that unless somebody comes on here saying they have had the EXACT same thing and it was all fine, you probably won't be reassured by anything else, but try to remember the words "routine" and "nothing sinister" and although it is hard, remember you have done the right thing getting it checked out. I'd say good luck but I don't want you to think that I think there's a need for good luck, so I'll just say try not to worry too much!

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ballofworry · 05/09/2014 19:21

thank you match for your nice reply , all that makes sense , and exactly as you have said ...
its truly awful this HA , takes hold and cant seem to get out of it and feel positive ....hope your ok ?

thanks again Thanks

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MissDuke · 05/09/2014 19:39

I have looked after many people post-operatively who have had surgery for mouth cancer. A common theme amongst them is that they had a lot of pain to the point they couldn't eat. Not sure if that is reassuring or not, but truly I think you have nothing to worry about given your dentists comments x

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ballofworry · 05/09/2014 19:48

thank you missD ,slightly i think Hmm ...hope they were ok after .....
i do trust my dentist hes lovely been with him for years and sympathetic to my anxiety , said if he was really concerned would be writting /calling a very different type of letter and would be putting it through asap ...
and not presenting like anything sinister .... so heres hoping his 30 years of experience hes is correct ....x

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InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 05/09/2014 22:25

I bet it's nothing at all serious. Incidentally, I now take antidepressants for my health anxiety. They have changed my life and I wish I'd got help years ago.

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ballofworry · 06/09/2014 08:16

Thanks inspace , i think iv got to that point also , i have the prescription and should give them ago , may i ask which ones you are taking ? iv been given citropram (forgive spelling ) im just anxious about possiable side effects ....however cant be as bad as this constant anxiety thats taking over my life ...

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FelicityFoxton · 06/09/2014 08:49

HA is the bloody pits. I can usually keep a lid on it but so far this year I've had bowel cancer , ovarian cancer , a cyst, bladder cancer and err possibly cancer of the spine.

All in my mind of course. I try and explain it to family or close friends but it's hard. It's not hypochondria because you actually have ' something ' but unfortunately you're just unable to see it for what it is and that ' something ' MUST be terminal .

You know deep down that you're fine and that this is nothing. You absolutely know this. It's just the anxiety talking and trying to convince you otherwise. And you'll have an all clear from this , give it a few months and you'll be on to the next thing. It's how it goes.

Take the tablets and see how they work. You might be surprised.

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ballofworry · 06/09/2014 09:26

thanks , FFox , your right it is the pits , i hate myself for how i feel i really do Sad , its constantly on my mind now and will be until my appointment in 10 days time !! i feel so anxious i feel happy for a moment then it hits me .....
i think the worst posable out come , i have some kind if mouth or bone C and im to late im going to D ....leaving my DC Sad

i cnat see to think it could be something far less serious always has to be the extreme .....

its a chemical imbalance im sure, of the brain ...i lost my mum very suddenly 4 years ago this plays on my mind that these things can happen ...
are you on amy medication ?

thanks for anyone whos listened x

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FelicityFoxton · 06/09/2014 09:35

Sorry about your mum - that strikes a chord with me - I was FINE until both my parents were diagnosed with cancer five years ago. Both are still here but one is terminally ill ( although doing great really and always out and about etc )

Anyway , after that, I developed HA. I refuse to take medication but I know it's not ' real ' and I'm not giving in to it. Yes I get the fleeting feeling happy and fine thing and then it creeps back in. That's why I know that seeking reassurances is pointless - I can tell you that you're fine ( and I know you are ! ) but you won't be able to accept it even though the ' sane ' part of your brain knows it.

It's honestly a complete pain and I sympathise. For me right now I have blood in my wee. It's not visible but comes up in tests. My next test is on the 11th and they will try and find out why it's happening.

Now: I know it's not bladder cancer. I KNOW this. However that doesn't stop my stupid brain trying to convince me it is. I mean, it can't possibly just be an infection or one of those things can it ? No. It must be terminal and they won't have caught it in time and I won't see my children grow up and blah blah blah

Honestly sometimes you just have to laugh at how ridiculous the whole thing is.

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ballofworry · 06/09/2014 09:46

thanks , yes all you have said makes sense to me ....

sorry to hear about your parents to .. Sad

that could have been your trigger i guess ... mine was bad before but got far worse after mum ..reality that you can loose someone that quickly ..

i have an appointment with my GP monday as earlier i had breast pain for 3 days , gone now but still want to get checked , will ask about my mouth i think to but not sure she will know much about it ... and ask about taking ADs

could your bladder thing be cystitus ? ( sorry cant spell to well ) you maywell go on the 11th and test it and it all be gone ... x

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InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 06/09/2014 10:05

ball I take fluoxetine (prozac), and the starting dose didn't work, so after a month they upped the dose and it has worked like magic ever since. I have no side effects. Please try it- you could have a normal life back. By the way my friend takes Citalopram and it works for her with no side effects.

FelicityFoxton · 06/09/2014 10:08

Yes it'll be cystitis or something like that.

I'm loathe to go to the doctor unless it's necessary because I categorically do not want to be known as suffering from HA. I tend to just fret in my own head

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ballofworry · 06/09/2014 11:45

my doctor is very sypathetic and really is helpful i must say some otheres iv seen are not in fact i come away feeling awful ..

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FelicityFoxton · 06/09/2014 17:47

Honestly , I'd get help for the anxiety and take the prescribed tablets. Reassurance on medical matters on mn are useless because , to someone suffering from HA you'll just crave more reassurance and it becomes a circle that you can't break.

You know what's wrong. It's not your mouth or your breasts or anything else. It's the anxiety. You have the tablets ? Take them. Take control of what you're actually suffering from ...

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ballofworry · 06/09/2014 17:58

thanks Ffox , i know your making sense just racing with anxiety Sad

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FelicityFoxton · 06/09/2014 18:02

You've got to try and distract yourself. A good book to get absorbed in? A bath? Chocolate ? A good box set? Can you talk to someone such as a friend or partner ?

And keep repeating to yourself ... ' there is nothing physically wrong with me , I have health anxiety ' ...

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ballofworry · 06/09/2014 18:37

thanks ...bath and book sound good and chocolate , i dont talk to my dh about it all he doesnt get it and i think gets cross with me ... no one in RL really either ...

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ballofworry · 07/09/2014 14:34

still anxious ...comes in waves ....am i over reacting hope will be ok ...10 days seems a long time away ...

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thegreylady · 07/09/2014 15:45

Oh my goodness I came on here consumed with worry about a 'thing' on the side of my tongue at the back. It looks like a pimple with a swelling just behind it. Both my dentist and my GP are '90%' sure it is nothing but I have been referred to a specialist 'just to make sure'. I still haven't got an appointment tough the referral was over two weeks ago. My gp says he will chase it but I am consumed with terror.
I don't want to hijack your thread and I really hope all is well with you. I just needed to share with someone who might understand.

thegreylady · 07/09/2014 15:48

I had breast cancer 8 years ago and ever since every symptom translates into another cancer in my mind. I have never smoked or been a drinker but mouth cancer is my big terror, the what-ifs wont leave me alone.

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ballofworry · 07/09/2014 16:00

Hi thegreylady , so sorry to hear you have this worry to, maybe we can hold each others hands ...i suffer with health anxiety so this has hightened my anxiety .
for what its worth my dentist has said in 35 years of being a dentist hes only ever seen 3 cases of mouth C so thats a positive and that it is quite rare ..so we must hold on to that ! x

feeling rather selfish and foolish feeling the way i do, as you have been through BC yourself , im so sorry ,must have been an awful journey for you xx

i have to go out soon but will be back later .

x

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thegreylady · 07/09/2014 16:07

Thanks boworry it is good to have a cyber hand to hold. I know my dentist said she had only ever seen one case of mouth cancer and it looked nothing like this. My gp said he had seen half a dozen in 30 years and he had known at once they were sinister. I know I should be reassured but once you let the fear out of the box it is hard to squash it back in. Ironically I had my 8 year check up with my breast surgeon last week. All was well but I didn't tell him about this. I just wish I had an appointment. If it doesn't come by Wednesday I am going to ask about going private!

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