How often is 'leakage' of both bottom types normal?

[Miserablyshaken]

I've namechanged because I'm so humiliated and shaken.

Over the past few months, I've been exhausted - barely able to manage the house, etc. Underactive thyroid, now being fixed. But worse is the endless leakage I'm facing - peeing almost every time I get off the sofa, leaking when I get out of bed, you name it.

The worst is, frankly, fecal. I get one urge to go, painfully, and I get a second or two to make it to the loo before the shit comes out, whether I like it or not. I now can't leave the house without emptying out bladder and bowels, and am careful to check there's a toilet wherever I'm going to.

Last weekend in the park was the worst yet. Really relaxed listening to jazz by the bandstand, I had an ice cream with friends and then wandered home through the grass. Then the urge came. Thanks be I was wearing a long dress as the stools just plopped out as I walked.

This sort of bowel incontinence has happened three times in six months.

This isn't ok is it?

God no! Absolutely not you poor thing.

If this is real. No it's not ok, please see your GP.

please, go to your GP asap

Absolutely not OK, unfortunately a lot of women do suffer with these problems, do see your GP, there is help available, you shouldn't have to live with these problems.

No it's not ok. Make a GP appointment asap, and you may want to move this to General Health.

No you need to see a doctor.

There is the bladder and bowel foundation website which might have some useful information as well.

Nope, and I'm really sorry you've put up with it as long as you have. See your gp ASAP. ITS NOT EMBARRASSING. You do not have to tolerate it. Seek medical advice and I'm sure things will be a lot easier.xx

Thank you all, it is all too real for the person who thinks I'm a poo troll.

I can't help but wonder if you have a prolapse. Its fixable.go to your doctor

Go to see your doctor OP. They have seen it all before. You must have no quality of life as it is so get yourself treated.

Poor you! I think you might have a dairy intolerance as you'd recently had ice cream. I'm only suggesting that as I am lactose intolerant and I find I get terrible gas and urgently needing the loo after I've had dairy. As others have said, visit your GP and keep a food diary to see if there is a pattern - that's how I discovered mine.

I get this at times, since my mid-20s. It definitely got worse after giving birth so in my case a gynaecological physio would be an appropriate person to see (not that I've bothered) but there are lots of causes I guess so your GP is definitely the person to start with. Do you think it's linked to medication?

Oh sweet heart get thee to a Dr. Please don't be embarrassed or ashamed they have seen it all before.

See your GP! That sounds awful you poor thing, it's definitely not normal and needs checking out.
There's a number of things it could be caused by and you need a proper diagnosis and treatment for it.

A prolapse is certainly a possibility, I had one repaired surgically a couple of years ago, you need to be referred for assessment to urogynaecology. There are also specialist women's health physios who can help. Have a look at your GP surgery website and see if any of them specialise in women's health, or just see your own GP, they will have seen similar symptoms before.

It sounds as if somethings collapsed and may need a repair. Don't put it off and see your gp.

In the meantime get some incontinence pants. you just wear them like knickers and give you precious extra time to get to a toilet.

Don't put it off though you don't need to suffer.

Yes, pads. And professional help. You poor thing. No, it's not OK.

dontstep for shame, this early.

You have all been so lovely, I am so grateful. Can I get incontinence pants in Boots?

I recently had to see my doc with a similar problem, I had been putting it off for over 2 years due to embarrassment. He was absolutely lovely and I was so relieved and felt so stupid for putting it off for so long. Please go and see you gp, I promise you its all in a days work for them and you will soon get it sorted.

it must be so awful for you and you dont need to suffer like this.

Yes they're part of the tena range. They aren't the cheapest but they help when you have to go out.

Do it.
Monday morning.
You don't have to live with this.

as well

I am NOT namechanging - there's too much silent anxiety around these very common problems with women. I get this due to my ME/CFS. It's markedly worse when I'm tired, anxious or coming down with something - which is quite a lot of the time, regrettably. Some blood tests showed a lactose intolerance; the poo leakage improved vastly after cutting out cheese (waaah!) and yoghurt (smaller waah.) Still happens, though, when conditions are - well, wrong.

Leaking doesn't always mean there's something physically wrong with your innards - exhaustion affects everything, including your pelvic floor. Could well be down to the hypothyroidism. See your doc. Don't be embarrassed! One in ten people leak poo.

Have you read Elaine Miller (Gussie Grips) on here? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/guest_posts/a2085688-Guest-post-Stress-incontinence-Fallen-fanjos-are-a-feminist-issue

You dont need to put up with this.
Please seek medical help. Dont feel embarrassed. Doctors will have seen this before. Thinking of you.