Lung Cancer - Shit

[RomeoC]

I posted this under a different nickname but as I had a whole namechange failure I asked MN to delete it

I'll PM the nice people who posted to explain......but this is where I'm at:

My Dad has lung cancer
He is 70
He gave up smoking at New Year

Shit, shit, shit

I'm using an old name as I don't want DD to know until after her GCSEs

Shit, shit, shit

He has an appointment a week on Wednesday to discuss his options (which I think is a hellishly long time to wait)

It is 8cms
I've known now for 90 mins
He found out at 7pm last night after an Xray & a scan on Wednesday

Shit, shit, shit

Good news is that there is no cancer on any of his other organs - if that can be good news

I get to do all the paperwork if he dies - we're going to build a spreadsheet of passwords

The treatment plan and test etc keep you so busy and focused it's like you don't have time to stocktake feelings. I remember when DH did his six weeks of combined chemo and radiotherapy, he said he felt a bit lost afterwards as it had been a routine and he felt like he was actually doing something that might help.
How's he feeling with the treatment?
Are they saying he has secondaries in the brain, or more something to keep an eye on just in case?
My DH only lost a couple of patches of hair where the beams went through his head, his chemo was tablet form which in some ways was easier.
The offer is at least there for you all to have counselling, I think you're doing the right thing by keeping talking, there's so much you probably want or need to say but not to DD or DH.
Have you got any close family or friends who can offer support?
My number one tip is Macmillan, they are fantastic we wouldn't have coped without ours.
Don't feel obliged to answer any of my questions

I'm so sorry for it all, Katy. Hard times indeed.

A friend of ours found out she had stage 4 small cell last week: she started chemo on Monday, and is in utter shock. It's very helpful reading some of the posts, to help us know what to expect and how to support (or try to).

Wishing you and your family stamina, support and effective meds

This sort of cancer typically spreads to the brain it's oat something

I didn't think they staged SCLC that way I think it's either Limited or Extensive - rather than the other sort which is more classified; so sorry for your friend Elibean

The Macmillian nurse is coming on Friday so on day 37!

It's family counselling so DD will be there - DH isn't interested really