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The end of my tether

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hmb · 16/03/2004 21:38

I had a phone call today from the hosptal that my mother is being cared at. They wamt to know if we are prepared to up her morphine to control her pain, but it will shorten her life.

And then dh came home and he is to go to hospital tomorrow because his gp thinks that he has leukemia, a 'good' form, but still leukemia.

Please pray for us.

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LucyJones · 16/03/2004 21:40

So sorry to hear that things are going badly for you - sending lots of positive thoughts your way...

Jimjams · 16/03/2004 21:51

oh heck hmb- Praying like mad. > What an awful day

Am I right in thinking your dh had cancer before? Was that leukemia? Are you able to take time off school and go to hospital with him? Sorry lots of questions- you don't have to answer. Lots and lots of hugs xxxxx

coppertop · 16/03/2004 21:53

Oh hmb. I don't know what to say other than that I will be praying that things get better for you and your family. Take care. xxxx

Hulababy · 16/03/2004 21:58

(((hugs))) hmb

So sorry that things are so bad right now. Take care and I am thinking of you.

suzywong · 16/03/2004 22:00

You are in our thoughts
Do hope you can find courage at this difficult time

CountessDracula · 16/03/2004 22:00

Oh no hmb - I really hope things improve for you xxx

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hmb · 16/03/2004 22:05

Yes, he has had testicular cancer, thank god not the same . The prognosis is as good as it can be, indolent. But at the moment I'm not coping with things . I have the day off, but the hospital is neer his work, and bless him he is going to work before and after the visit. I don't know how he stays so calm. I'm just hoping the gp has miss read the signs.

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coppertop · 16/03/2004 22:12

I hope so too, hmb. Maybe they are just being extra-cautious because of his medical history.

Jimjams · 16/03/2004 22:24

will be thinking of you all tomorrow hmb. xxxx

spacemonkey · 16/03/2004 22:24

lots of hugs to you hmb - so sorry you are going through this X

suedonim · 16/03/2004 22:43

Sending positive thoughts for you all, hmb. Life deals a dirty hand at times.

mammya · 16/03/2004 22:56

positive thoughts from me too hmb.

tigermoth · 16/03/2004 23:00

oh hmb, I am so sorry. Don't worry about not coping - take time off - take the rest of the week off if you don't feel any better. I bet you so rarely do this, anyway. Your job is so public facing, it must be mega stressful at this time. Are you going to the hospital with your husband, is that what you and he want? I do hope your you get some postive news from the hospital.

coppertop · 16/03/2004 23:02

Best wishes for you and your dh tomorrow. xx

lou33 · 16/03/2004 23:07

Thinking of you xxx

zebra · 16/03/2004 23:17

Pisser about your mom; it's awful when you're in a situation with no prospect of good news or choices. When my vagrant, drug-addict brother got arrested my mom was delighted but I felt horrified. There was no such good thing as good news where my brother was concerned, I later realised.

?Did your DH's GP say "I am pretty sure you have leukemia", or "Given your symptoms, we shouldn't rule out the serious possibility of leukemia"? Can GPs diagnose leukemia? Doesn't it require serious blood work, white cell counts, that kind of thing? I just hope your DH hasn't taken a mere possibility too seriously...

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hmb · 17/03/2004 02:30

He has had 2 sets of blood tests done a the hospital and the GP has now refered him saying that these results would indicate CLL. He is seeing a haematologist today.

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hmb · 17/03/2004 02:31

He is very stoical and is going to work today so i can't get to the hospital with him. I can't sleep.

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Katypie · 17/03/2004 04:14

Hi hmb
Thought I would post and let you know I'm thinking of you. No experience of anything similar myself.
I would want to go to the hospital with him aswell. At least that way you feel like you are doing something, even if it is just being there for him. Is there any way you can persuade him to not go to work and go to the hospital together? Let him know how you feel.
Either way at least he is being seen quickly and you can know one way or the other sooner rather than later.

Hope the news is good tommorow

Ghosty · 17/03/2004 05:52

Hugs from across cyber space HMB {{{{{}}}}}

robinw · 17/03/2004 05:53

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hmb · 17/03/2004 06:26

Thatnks for all the support.

Robinw, I agree with you about mum. She is in considerable pain and is in the later stages of dementia. In one of her lucid moments a few years ago she told me that she didn't want to live like this, so in that respect the decision is 'easy'. But it isn't easy at all, is it?

I do know that CLL has some excellent survival rates, and is one of the better leukemias to have. But I just want him to be OK, and not have anything wrong with him. It just seems so unfair as we have already had to cope with one cancer, and then 6 years ago he was terribly ill with pancreatitis.

We should know more by this afternoon. Thank you for all your kind wishes. they have helped a lot

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magnum · 17/03/2004 07:26

Thinking of you x

hoxtonchick · 17/03/2004 07:56

lots of hugs hmb ((())).

motherinferior · 17/03/2004 08:29

Best of luck, darling.