**Tamoxigang counting down to Easter eggs- thread 48**

[BetsyBoop]

throws some hot cross buns on the trolley

Really I don't know how you've managed to work through all this either - you are a fighter. The rads will get easier, and they will start to fly by. I can't quite get my head around the fact that I had 5 week's worth - it went so fast.

Pickle my sympathies re DS's school - what a shocking, crappy attitude. I am staggered at their ineptitude and inability to grasp what you are going through and the effect it is having on your DS. Good luck with finding him an alternative school.

thanks Betsy, that's a good idea

Got ds's grade card today. All of his effort and attainment grades have improved for this half term despite me being in hospital for all bar the final week. So impressed with how hard he has worked and heartbroken that school so clearly want him gone. It gives me more ammunition but I think I need to focus on finding somewhere that has strong pastoral care even if the academic standard may be lower.

Hello pickle just wanted to echo the overwhelming feeling of outrage on this forum on behalf of you and your DS. You obviously need to address in the short term what is best for your boy's welfare but I genuinely think that the school should be named and shamed in some way. Like everyone else my DDs school has been compassionate and proactive in the care of my two. I can't think of much more callous than the behaviour of the school. Well done to your DS on his grades, sounds like he will do well wherever he is and it is their loss.

pickle me too - I'm outraged and shocked. How could anyone, let alone a teacher, not have compassion for a little boy in his situation?? Especially one doing so utterly amazingly. Having mum away for 5 weeks would be enough to send most kids over the edge without having all the health stuff added to it. So right to focus on getting him somewhere he will be nurtured. And on your health. But once this is all behind you, if you want to name and shame I'm a journalist so we can shout it from the rooftops if you want!

Had my LAST appointment with breast team today. Turns out my +ve margin wasn't that, there were cells within 1mm of the skin they removed so - according to my surgeon, that's it for me. See him in a year. Mighty relieved about the margins. Feel a bit dazed at thought of just carrying on now like nothing ever happened. But my foobs look really good with the dressings off (although I feel a bit like an alien without nipples!) so....I guess off I go with a secret pair of crossed fingers behind my back.

Thank you for all the support. I'll keep up now and again to see where you all are and will think about everyone but need to ween myself off frantic googling so will take a break for a few weeks if I can manage. Anyone needing advice/support etc about bmxs, dcis or Guy's hospital please PM me. xx

Pickle - what is happening to your little boy is just awful. My older DS is 6 and in P2 (Scotland). His school have been great, he's a sensitive wee lad and they know that so they're acting accordingly. Your DS's school have a duty of care to him and they are not fulfilling it. Makes me so angry.
Currently DH and I are on a weekend away in Bristol. It's lovely, but I am seriously knackered!

What are you planning to do in Bristol weebarra? It's a bit soggy at the moment but I think it might be a nice weekend. Have you got any sightseeing planned?

We went up to clifton, had lunch at the clifton sausage, walked around the harbourside, cocktails at harvey nicks. Maybe bath tomorrow, & there's a foodie fest on sunday. What would you recommend?

Well that all sounds very civilised - sounds like you are having a lovely time. Bath tomorrow sounds great - will you get the train? - parking in Bath can be a pain.
We're usually doing stuff with the kids when we're out in Bristol but a visit to SS Great Britain is always good if you want some culture - sounds like you're doing OK on you're own though .
I remember it was ages ago that you planned this trip - great that you're through treatment and having a weekend away.
Is the hotel nice? I've driven past it loads but never been inside - is it very boutiquey (is that even a word )?

Glad you're having a good weekend Weebarra, sounds lovely

Hope you all have a good weekend and thanks to everyone who replied to my query about rads timing. That all makes sense now so well within the time. Hope Pickle's son gets sorted for both their sakes. School should be helping not hindering. Night all.

Had an email last night from one of the senior teachers (who was at the meeting this week) to say he had spoken to ds about what he needs to do to keep his scholarship. As far as I understood the removal is a done deal and there is nothing ds can do to change that. I have asked him to tell me why he said this to ds as I think it is cruel to give him false hope. It also explains why ds was adamant last night that he will not be leaving the school. It makes it doubly hard for me to get him to consider other options when as far as he's concerned he can still do enough to keep his scholarship and stay at the school.

The teacher who emailed is lovely and hugely supportive but has not been actively involved in supporting ds for much of this term (but said he will be next term). This has been left to the head of pastoral care who is in the wrong job.

Hope everyone has a good weekend and enjoys the sun.

Pickle are you still resolved to move your ds? Migbt things improve when the nice teacher is more involved? It sounds like too little too late in terms of support though, doesn't it. Hope it works out for you.

Beautiful sunny day here. I'm off to pick Dd up from uni later. So looking forward to having her around for a while.

And I have a day off work on Monday though it is a bit of a shame to have to spend part of it having a pelvic scan.

My interview has been delayed to 11th April which h is good as that was due to be on Monday as well.

Wishing everyone a good weekend. Waving goodbye and good luck to Harriet

Nice teacher completely 'gets' ds and I know he will support him. He's a genuinely lovely and caring teacher and will admit when he gets things wrong (unlike head of pastoral care who will justify and avoid all that they can).

I do think it is too little too late but if they do decide to maintain the scholarship there is no way I will be able to move ds (he will refuse). When we discussed other schools the only thing he said he would agree to his being home tutored (but not by me!). That's not an option at all unfortunately.

Wishing all you mummies a VERY HAPPY MOTHERS DAY! Hope you all have a lovely day xx

I'm feeling a bit sad today! This is the first Mothers Day where I won't spend the day with my mum I didn't feel up to travelling all the way home just for the weekend! I know she understands, but I feel bad!

Happy Mothers Day

really I am sure that your mum completely understands but I know how upsetting it is not to be able to do things you would usually do. Despite that I hope you have a lovely day.

I am taking ds to a 'mothers and daughters' sewing course He got a sewing machine for his birthday last year and is keen to learn how to use it properly.

Ouch! I'm hobbling about today with two blisters on sole and heel of one foot and a small blister on sole of other. Making use of my trekking poles.
Unfortunately these are a SE of the chemo. I was fine until I had the blood transfusion then I felt the Palmar Plantar start up whilst I was having the transfusion.
Happy Mothers Day. My DSs are far away (150 miles at university and 10k miles at other side of world but have had cards and gifts from them.

Evening all,

Went to a lovely service at my church yesterday for sufferers of, or friends of people, with cancer. It was a beautiful quiet service in the chapel. Quite unlike the family service I usually attend,

Got my drain out as well yesterday.

I'm freaked out.

Probably nothing, I'm seeing Onc on Tue.

I had calcification on other breast, which they removed at time of lumpectomy. I can feel a lump under this scar, and the skin above the scar looks a little different. It is probably something to do with scar (i hope!!), but it has me worried.

And last night I had a dream that I had cancer in my brain. I dreamt that I had a scan, and there it was. Then woke up and couldn't go back to sleep, it felt so real.
My first cousin had breast cancer and died from secondary in brain.

And finally, a friend of my moms rang my dad yesterday. She emigrated maybe 50 years ago, but used keep in touch with Christmas cards, etc. Mg mom died of pancreatic cancer 5 years ago. Friend didn't know.

As I said, I'm freaked out.

Couldn't sleep last night even though I had 2 glasses of wine and a sleeping pill.

Has anybody experienced anything similar?

PS still managed to have a nice Mother's Day. DDs had hobbies and birthday party, DH and I had a few nice hours strolling around the city center. I'm grand when I'm kept busy...

Morning all

Rads number 4 for me today! It was so nice having two days hospital free! Wishing I didn't have to go back!

marshy good luck with your scan today! Hope all goes well, and you get to enjoy your day off.

foofoo congratulations on having your drain out! Bet your happy!!

mom I know it's hard, but try not to worry too much! It's probably just scar tissue! Try and keep busy! As for dreams/nightmares I think we've all had those at some time or another. I know I have! Sending you a ((((((((big hug))))))) xx

Hope everyone else had a good weekend! It was very quiet on here, so I am guessing everyone was off enjoying the sun.

Morning all

Mom I'm sure we've all had that freaked out feeling. I thought I had lung cancer last week when I had a cough. Good that your getting things checked out but I wouldn't worry about dreams and things it's just your anxiety

Really sorry you didn't get to see your mum but I'm sure she understands

Lily ouch to the feet

Pickle the sewing course sounds great and something for you to do together

Foo the service sounds lovely but emotional I bet

I had a lovely weekend in London with the family, lots of sightseeing,up the shard, on the cable car and to the m and m store

Hi everyone, had a busy mothers day, mostly taxi ing DS to his sporting events! DF had a bad day yesterday, why always on a sunday hes had 20 rad sessions,13 to go...hes on morphine for pain but is very constipated which he says is worse than the pain any tips anyone??
Hope everyone has a good week with treatment/going back to work etc

Is he drinking enough? Lactulose should help.

I was warned to drink loads to avoid being constipated (to stop my sore arse getting even worse).

Ds enjoyed his sewing course although we couldn't get his sewing machine to work. Called John Lewis and they told us to bin it and they'd send out a replacement!

I hope everyone has a good day. We are off to visit a local school this morning.

Honeybee, sorry about your df. I bet there's a lot of constipation advice to be had here! I've used senekot (can never remember how it's spelt) and lactulose. Both way too effective when I was in hospital (oops). Others have mentioned movicol. If he's finding it hard to eat he's not going to welcome prunes as a suggestion!

Mom, scar tissue and wounds feel different - and will probably still be changing as the healing goes on. Horrible dream: sorry. For me, I'm convinced I've found a lump on my reconstructed breast that I will ask about next week.

Pickle, I love the idea of the sewing course!
Marshy, good luck with the scan, and Really, good luck with those rads...
Lily, ow to those feet... I hadn't realised that's what palmar plantar does.
Foofoo, yay to no drains!

I overdid it at the weekend going to dh's new (art) opening. It was good to go and support and to see people, but just that bit too much for me and I had to retreat to a quiet room to nap! And, boy, trying to look good gets so much more tricky when headscarves are part of the picture. Sunday in recovery..

Honeybee. .... Prune juice, better than senokot but results can be pretty explosive!!