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can we get a termination?

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piklepants · 03/02/2014 13:35

Can't actually believe this is happening to us it's so typical. We had 2 miscarriages between having our three gorgeous kids dp also has three from previous relationship and we are sure our family is complete. He is supposed to be going for the snip. And now we've had a misshap of contraception and just found out am pregnant. We can't afford another really feel we have enough and I don't think I could cope with another so close so if I ask gp for termination will we have it? Really don't have money to spare on going private? Also if first doctor says no am I able to ask a different Doc?

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Rooners · 03/02/2014 15:56

Sorry I don't know but bumping for you x

PoshPenny · 03/02/2014 16:27

an alternative to your GP is BPAS - British pregnancy advisory service. why don't you phone them, you can find your local one on the internet. I supported a very dear friend through a termination with them before Christmas and thought they were excellent (and extremely non judgemental). I can't see why you would be refused a termination?

PoshPenny · 03/02/2014 16:28

Forgot to add it was free...

Branleuse · 03/02/2014 16:30

Ask your doctor. I don't see why you shouldn't be able to get one if you see them quick enough x

cafebistro · 03/02/2014 16:34

Go to your GP. I can't see any reason that they'd refuse to refer you for one.

GlitzAndGiggles · 03/02/2014 16:49

If your doc refuses you can get referred via a sexual health clinic. Not that I can see why they'd refuse a referral

JanePurdy · 03/02/2014 16:57

Go to your GP & tell them what you've said here - contraceptive failure, 6 kids already, he's booked in for the snip, you can't cope with another child. The GP will refer you & you will be able to access a free termination. IF the GP has an ethical objection you are entitled to request to see another GP at the surgery who will refer you.

Sparklysilversequins · 03/02/2014 17:32

You can self refer depending on the area you live in by contacting BPAS.

here are details at the bottom of the page

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piklepants · 03/02/2014 18:36

I'm in Cardiff Wales and Doc referred me to the bpas Cardiff not sure if it was for moral reason??! Will I have to pay there?? We are short of money as it is:-(

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Sparklysilversequins · 03/02/2014 18:41

No, you won't have to pay.

WowserBowser · 03/02/2014 18:41

I was referred to a BPAS in Liverpool through a midwife as the baby had abnormalities. Something to do with how far gone i was. I didn't have to pay x

JanePurdy · 03/02/2014 20:31

No you won't have to pay! Bpas has a contract with the NHS to carry out abortions (so does MSI). Don't worry - your referral is to the right place & it will be okay.

UriGeller · 03/02/2014 20:36

I'm going through the same right now. just waiting for the consultants appointment.

Its through the BPAS, I phoned my GP and the receptionist gave me their number and said it was self referral these days. Its all done in my local hospital and there isn't a charge as its on the NHS.
I gather this first appointment is to discuss options (medical or surgical) and to book in for the procedure which will be a couple of days later.

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piklepants · 03/02/2014 20:55

Yes but the Doc just gave me the number so won't I then be self referring and might be expected to pay? Doc was Irish and said wasn't sure of laws here so if not maybe I should speak to one who does know?? Nice to know someone else in same boat uri I been on such a dozens today I just want it sorted out now

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piklepants · 03/02/2014 20:59

Downer not dozen!

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piklepants · 03/02/2014 21:01

Did u need a good reason urigeller? Doc was saying ours was for social reasons therefore sort it out yourselves so to speak!?

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JanePurdy · 03/02/2014 21:20

I think it will be okay piklepants, if you look on their website it says
The majority of our patients (over 93%) get the cost of their treatment paid for by the NHS, but we will require information about your location and GP to assess your eligibility. Please telephone us and we can tell you if you can have your treatment funded by the NHS.

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piklepants · 03/02/2014 21:22

Thanks yes I plan on calling first thing

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UriGeller · 03/02/2014 22:30

Hi Piklepants, I do Have a good reason but I haven't discussed it with anyone yet, basically similar to yours plus I have an underlying medical condition that would be made much worse by another pregnancy.

I'm going to search through the Internet for some more info but as far as I can see, the procedure, if done on the NHS carries no cost to the patient. There is the option to go private, I was told this was £400 and doesn't mean it would be one any quicker.

Try to keep your chin up, I know its hard, blame the bloody hormones

UriGeller · 03/02/2014 22:35

Just found this:

Can I be refused an abortion?

It's rare for anyone to be refused an abortion. A doctor may have moral objections to abortion, but if that’s the case they should refer you to another doctor who can help. It can be very difficult to get later abortions, so the earlier you seek help the better.
By law, two doctors have to agree that you can have an abortion. Usually this is the first doctor you see and a second doctor who will perform the abortion, or one who works at the community contraceptive clinic or hospital.

From the NHS Choices website.

Hope it puts your mind at rest a little .

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piklepants · 04/02/2014 07:13

Thanks I'll let u know what they say. I'm really struggling mentally right now even though I know 100% I don't want another I'm mentally playing through how let down I felt by my partner all through last pregnancy. I literally felt so alone and unsupported and it's affecting our relationship now. Think he's going to think I'm crazy if I come out with all this stuff now though but it's just all coming to front of my mind especially as I was trying to justify to Doc yesterday why we couldn't have another. I spent half of yesterday in tears. Does this sound crazy?

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EirikurNoromaour · 04/02/2014 07:23

bless you. It doesn't sound crazy. Pregnancy does weird things to our brains and the flood of hormones will be unlocking memories that you have probably suppressed in order to be able to function.

UriGeller · 04/02/2014 08:02

Yes, please get back to us. You are not crazy. The world is. Everything smells rotten today and I puked this morning

Please try to let your partner know all your feelings. He's part of this too! Can you talk to anyone in real life? I'm not telling anyone I know (I couldnt handle the pity) but DP. I might afterwards if I need to. I just want it done now so I can get back to normal life.

KatieChooChoo · 04/02/2014 08:10

bless you at this difficult time xx

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piklepants · 04/02/2014 10:13

Rang bpas very nice lady went through it all she said they couldn't treat someone so early on without Doc referral unless private and said Doc should have referred me to local heal I nhs one so rang back Doc and explained he was saying that he'd have to sign forms for it and he saw it as just a social reason I explained again about partner waiting for vasectomy etc can't afford 600 odd quid for this and he's told me to go back down at 11 so hopefully will be sorted out from there .thanks for lovely comments I have told my partner some of it by text said I know u won't like hearing it but I got to get it out as its affectin me. He apologised but he's a man at the end of the day I don't think they can ever really get it can view?

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