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Have you been sterilized? Would appreciate your input...

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FullOfTestosterone · 28/07/2006 10:24

So, I am schedule to go through a sterilization procedure in a few weeks. I am 100% sure I do not want any more kids. However... I am getting very scared of the procedure....
I'm afraid I'll get a scar after escaping c-sections.
I'm afraid I will have something punctured, and end up with a serious condition.
I'm afraid I will have an even saggier tummy.
I'm afraid I will have to spent days out of comission after the procedure, which I really can't afford right now...

So, anyone has been throught it? How did it go? Should I be scared?

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cremolafoam · 28/07/2006 10:26

is it a hysterectomy?

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FullOfTestosterone · 28/07/2006 10:29

Cream - No, is like severing your tubes,so the eggs can get to the uterous anymore.
So you shouldn't be able to get pregnant....
There is consequently an increased risk of ectopic

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FullOfTestosterone · 28/07/2006 10:30
  • cremolafoam, sorry misread your name...
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FullOfTestosterone · 28/07/2006 10:43

no one?

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FullOfTestosterone · 28/07/2006 13:36

.

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FullOfTestosterone · 28/07/2006 21:15

how about the night crew?

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Blandmum · 28/07/2006 21:18

I had mine done at the time of the second c section so can't answer q 1!

There are risk with every surgical procedure but mine was totaly fine. Everything in life comes with a risk....getting pg for example

No effect on the tummy, mine was shot to shit anyway!

can't answer 4 (see ans 1!)

Mine was fine. If you are sure it is the right contraception for you, go for it, if you are not sure, think out the alternatives.

I have never regretted mine for a micro second and had no problems following it.

Milliways · 28/07/2006 21:21

It is keyhole surgery, so tiny one stitch marks - 1 in your tummy button & one in bikini line. You are home same day, and need a week of work (effects of anaesthetic etc) but should be up & about v.quick.

I was scared just before the op, but that's natural - you'll be fine

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FullOfTestosterone · 28/07/2006 21:25

phew! thanks guys! thougtht I was the only one here doing it!

I am still scared though!

Can more people tell me I'll be ok?

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FullOfTestosterone · 02/08/2006 15:53

Ok, I need to go to pre-op in a few days..
Anyone lese with good or bad experiences to share?

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expatinscotland · 02/08/2006 16:04

no experience, but bumping for you.

adozenroses · 02/08/2006 16:47

I'm going through this myself in a few weeks and am rather bothered by the op! I'm a bit of a wimp really.

So, I'll watch this to see what experiences others have had on here.

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FullOfTestosterone · 02/08/2006 20:28

Well, a dozenrozens it seems like you and I are the only crazy people considering it...

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Xena · 02/08/2006 20:31

No I'm seriously considering it too. 4 kids and a dreadful 4th pg I think its the sensible option.
DO you have to have a general anthestic sp?

spangles · 02/08/2006 20:34

I am avoiding all these worries and sending DH for the snip

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FullOfTestosterone · 02/08/2006 20:50

yes, Xena. Full anesthesia.

It is definetely seems the sensible thing to do. I get panick attacks everytime my period is a day late, or a feel a bit bloated....

But then, it is an abdominal cirgury....

Spangles, I have tried to convince DH! But the b**trd tells me if we break up he is afraid younger women won't want him... {angry]
I am actually seriously considering divorce!
in which case, I need to do it...

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Xena · 03/08/2006 08:18

FOT I it happens DH and I had a similar conversation except it was me saying 'but if we split in 10 years your new partner might want a baby' I've had 4 I'm NOT having another. He actually got cross saying that its no diifferent for him but I disagree they don't/ can't put in the same time/discomfort as women do IYSWIM. But your DH sounds like he thinks you will be spliting which is a bit shitty.

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FullOfTestosterone · 03/08/2006 09:34

Xena - he is thinking because I am telling him so...

I tend to think that whether we split or not he still have two children, and the two of us can barely manage it.... I think that it can be even harder if we split. He assures me he would share the care. So what really pisses me off is that this future virtual world of him is more important that his real current children! Or am I raving mad (which is quite possible, given all the testosterone....)

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FullOfTestosterone · 03/08/2006 09:35

oh, and xena, if he is willing consider letting him do it... it is a much simpler procedure, with less serious risks (i think...)

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expatinscotland · 03/08/2006 09:47

FOT, in such a state of mind, please consider your decision very carefully.

My best friend was sterilised in December at the age of 39 after never having - or wanting - any children.

She is happily married - to a man who also never wanted children.

SHE decided she wanted to be sterilised b/c she never wanted the possibility of falling pregnant - no matter what.

It is not risk-free abdominal surgery.

She said the worst bit was the gas in her tummy. She needed a while to recover from it, and she has no small children to look after.

You must also be careful lifting things for a bit.

Her husband had the snip a couple of months ago b/c he, too, never wanted there to be the possibility of his fathering a child, come what may.

wilbur · 03/08/2006 09:58

I'm wondering about doing this. Dh is happy to go for the snip, but you do hear stories about vasectomies not being successful (or are those just old wives' tales?). I am already missing one tube due to an ectopic and have been wondering whether snipping the other would be more effective than dh getting done. Does anyone know what the stats are for both procedures?

Sorry FOT, slightly off topic. I would echo expat's post though - do think very carefully about doing this while you are in an emotional state about your relationship. If you and your dp split up, you might one day find yourself in a better, more supportive relationship and you might want to have another child.

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FullOfTestosterone · 03/08/2006 10:32

Wilbur, one of the big differnces between female and male sterilization is that you can actually test if it work in the male, but not in the female.
but if you are curious there are rates of failure
here
I am getting very curious about essure. Is a non-surgical procedure.

I am 100% sure I don't want more kids. I am approaching 40, had complications last time, and think this world is going up tits up soon!
But I am scared of surgery... you can tell there will never be fake boobs for me! saggy or not!

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adozenroses · 17/08/2006 19:48

Hi fulloftestosterone

Just wondering how you were feeling about your op now. When is your op?? I have my initial appointment on Tuesday and I am beginning to panic. Can't wait to get it done though.

nicnack2 · 17/08/2006 19:55

full i discussed sterilization with my GP and he said that the practice recommends that it is the male to be steilised because it is a far less invasive procedure, We thought about it and i decided that i would have the coil which has a better contraceptive rate than sterilisation.

flack · 17/08/2006 19:58

I think there's a tiny risk of doctor nicking your bladder (keyhole surgery has this kind of risk), this is the biggest thing putting me off. I don't think the others are stuff to worry about, though.

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