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Message for the Emetophobics

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Aimsmum · 17/07/2006 13:43

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trinityrhino · 17/07/2006 13:46

huge congratulations to you, I know how much this must mean to you to be able to deal with your dd being sick

MarmaladeSun · 17/07/2006 14:09

Hi Aimsmum. Congratulations on your success. Hypnotherapy is a brilliant therapy for all kinds of phobias. As a hypnotherapist myself I'm obviously biased (!) but when you see the difference it makes to so many people's lives you just want to shout it from the rooftops! Can I ask you how mnay sessions you had? I've treated quite a few emetophobics and it's always nice to hear other people's experiences. Well done you!

DumbledoresGirl · 17/07/2006 14:18

Wow that is fantastic Aimsmum but can I ask a few questions?

Forgive me, because I know this sounds very rude after we have spoken so often on this subject, but how did you feel before the treatment about being sick yourself? I mean, which was your worst problem, being sick yourself or someone else being sick or were they both equal?

I ask because I hate dealing with my children being sick but I do deal with it unlike some other emetophobes. However, I always feel that at the back of my mind I am really worrying about being sick myself.

I also want to know how many sessions you had, how much it all cost, and what actually hapeened at the sessions.

I don't want to drag you back to MN if you are not keen to be here, but I would love to know a bit more....

hub2dee · 17/07/2006 14:28

Congrats on dealing with this all so well ! Bet you're super chuffed !

Aimsmum · 17/07/2006 14:39

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Aimsmum · 18/07/2006 13:14

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DumbledoresGirl · 18/07/2006 16:03

That is good news re dd. Still feeling OK yourself Aimsmum?

I am still thinking about your therapy. Would you say that you are a contorl freak or someone who can let go quite easily? Sorry for personal questions! I would be just as interested if MarmaladeSun or anyone else who has had experience of hypnotherapy wanted to answer. Basically, do control freaks have the same, greater or lesser success rate when they undergo hynotherapy?

Aimsmum · 18/07/2006 18:01

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MarmaladeSun · 18/07/2006 18:38

Hiya. Most phobias, emetophobia included, are exactly what you say...a fear of being out of control. It doesn't necessarily make youa control freak though! Generally speaking, someone who is a 'control freak' (and I hate that expression! ) can be hypnotised just as effectively as anyone else as contrary to popular belief it is not about mind control; in fact the client has the upper hand and control of the sessions at all times and could end the trance state at any time they wanted. The hypnotherapist just guides them to a place or state where they can facilitate their own 'cure'. Hope that helps.

DumbledoresGirl · 18/07/2006 20:10

Sorry for the use of the phrase "control freak" MarmaladeSun! But it decribes me well. I am not just thinking of my phobia. I am, in all aspects of my life, very much the one who wants the control. I can't stand decisions being made for me - I always decide things for us as a family, from where we go on holiday, where we eat and what we do, right the way up to where we live! It is a constant source of discussion between dh and myself.

But if you prefer, I am also the one who could never relax in antenatal classes. I would be lying there, thinking "Do I look OK lying like this with my bump in the air?" "Can anyone tell I am not relaxing?" and I found it impossible to be led into a calm, relaxing frame of mind by the leader of the group.

I just wonder if I could ever relax enough to undertake therapy successfully, and even if I could, I have a deep mistrust of being led anywhere...

Ellbell · 18/07/2006 20:17

Hey, well done Aimsmum!

I had a counselling session about this yesterday, but I am a bit unconvinced. Counsellor just tried to convince me that I wouldn't get sick myself from being near dds' sick... but I'm not sure I believe him (I did tell him this) since I have plenty of experience of bugs going round the whole family. I am hoping though that the fact of being able to talk about how this makes me feel will help in some way. (Oh, and he also suggested I put a clothes peg on my nose...?????)

I have always been a bit scared of hypnotherapy (have also considered it for fear of flying... as you can see, I am a multi-phobic person!) but you make it sound OK MarmaladeSun... Perhaps I should give it a go...

Ellbell · 18/07/2006 20:17

Hey, well done Aimsmum!

I had a counselling session about this yesterday, but I am a bit unconvinced. Counsellor just tried to convince me that I wouldn't get sick myself from being near dds' sick... but I'm not sure I believe him (I did tell him this) since I have plenty of experience of bugs going round the whole family. I am hoping though that the fact of being able to talk about how this makes me feel will help in some way. (Oh, and he also suggested I put a clothes peg on my nose...?????)

I have always been a bit scared of hypnotherapy (have also considered it for fear of flying... as you can see, I am a multi-phobic person!) but you make it sound OK MarmaladeSun... Perhaps I should give it a go...

Ellbell · 18/07/2006 20:17

Sorry for double post

MarmaladeSun · 18/07/2006 20:38

Hi Dumbledoresgirl. It's the 'freak' bit of control freak I don't much like...I think it's a horrible label but it does describe the condition well...control that is, not the freak bit!!!
Ellbell...in a way you are right...people with a very controlling personality CAN be slightly harder to do therapy with, but a good therapist will have no problems at all. We are trained to adapt the therapy to all different personality types so no problem at all. All I would say is make sure the therapist belongs to a reputable professional organisation.
Hope that helps

Aimsmum · 18/07/2006 20:58

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DumbledoresGirl · 18/07/2006 20:59

Can you do a copy Aimsmum/ I don't want to deprive you of the original in case you need it! Are you still on the same email address?

Aimsmum · 18/07/2006 21:10

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Aimsmum · 18/07/2006 21:29

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DumbledoresGirl · 18/07/2006 21:31

Dh should be able to do it for me but I wouldn't have a clue I'm afraid to say

I emailed you about half an hour ago. Did you get it?

DumbledoresGirl · 18/07/2006 21:34

have msn too if that helps. Same address. [email protected]

Aimsmum · 18/07/2006 21:40

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Aimsmum · 19/07/2006 11:28

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DumbledoresGirl · 19/07/2006 14:28

Tried to play it the moment it arrived but I couldn't get it to work. It was apparently playing but no sound, and yes I did have the speaker on! Dh is out AGAIN tonight but I hope to get him to look at it for me tomorrow.

emmy01 · 19/07/2006 17:05

Hi all I'm new to MN and i have just found this thread, I cant beleive I have found a name for my phobia and it effects others too, I hope you dont mind but I would like to share with you all. Ever since I was at school I have been terrified by sick and bugs etc, if I found out someone in my class had gone home sick I would pretend to be unwell so I could escape the bug and stay off for 3 days to make sure I was clear, this has carried on through the whole of my life even at work sometimes, I am so scared of food as well I make sure everything is cooked and cleaned, my poor husband washes up and I have to check all his hard work and if it doesn?t pass it goes back in I get cross if he doesn?t clean properly because I get so scared he will give me food poisoning I don?t trust anyone, I wont eat at certain places or certain food because its ?high?risk foods like oysters and prawns anything on its sell by date is binned instantly, if anyone around me mentions they feel ill I go in to panic mode and quiz them to find out if it?s a hangover or bug I wash my hands a lot to make sure I?m not spreading stuff to myself? if I do feel unwell I go in to panic mode begging my husband to look after me and not to leave me in case I?m sick, I shake and go hot and cry bless him he is so good gets me hot water and peppermint tablets to make me feel better. I can?t get drunk because I?m terrified I?m going to be sick. And I hate drunken people around me because I?m scared they will throw up on me or around me.

To get to the point I was terrified to have a baby or be pg because morning sickness etc and children being ill however I love kids and so wanted a baby I took the chance to confront my phobia and I?m pregnant luckily I have not had morning sickness and dealt with feeling sick well, I still don?t know if I could cope with being sick and I?m so terrified of when I have a toddler them being ill. I don?t mind baby stuff for some reason I feel I could cope with that, perhaps because it?s just milk? I am also scared because people have said how they have been sick during labour.

I have turned down a chance to become a nurse, nursery worker and to work as a medical receptionist because I was to scared of coming into contact with sick or maybe being subjected to ?bugs? this thing rules your life and I am so glad its not just me I thought I was the only one and was mad .

Sorry this is so long and thank you for letting me share, any advice would be greatly received this is the first time I have told anyone other than my husband and I feel good for it.

DumbledoresGirl · 19/07/2006 17:36

emmy - welcome to MN and welcome (if that is the word) to the emetophobes group! I am another sufferer as you may have gathered by this thread, and I relate to a lot of what you sid in your post. Of course, I can't say one way or another that you will or will not be sick during labour, but I have had four children (yes, even though I am as bad as you) and I have never had morning sickness or felt sick during labour. And yes, you are right, baby sick is easy to deal with as it is only milk and mostly only comes in small amounts. I couldn't have said that before I had my own children (I never held babies before my own for fear of them being sick on me!) but it is different with your own children.

I can't say that the same for when they start being properly sick. That is my day to day fear now - and it is very limiting, I can tell you. But I just wanted to say relax for now, I don;t think being sick is the norm in labour and baby sick is perfectly manageable!